Do you have a close family member that you HATE

Wow- I wrote my post 14-15 months ago and the person I wrote about was apparently busy dying then (and making everyone dance to her tune because of it) and she is still alive now.

My mother has flown to her to be by her bedside when she was hospitalised over Christmas and her sister took one look at her and shouted from her hospital bed; 'What the fuck are you doing here? i fucking hate you'.

My mother still behaves like a punched puppy seeking approval around her.

My mother now says that I don't have to come back to NZ to help when the bitch dies (because I have told her in no uncertain terms that I will not) but she'd like me to send flowers to make a display at the funeral. No fucking way.

Yes my mother

I don’t hate her (I hate my ex step father) but I do not like her as a person

when she dies it shall be a relief. she has caused so much pain, she is toxic and just causes damage and harm all around her

I will never forgive her for not protecting me. This makes others feel uncomfortable and I’m often told I should forgive. I’m fine with not forgiving

Similar to a pp, I had the audacity to be born after BS ( bitch sister ) had been the only and doted on child for 6 years. The nerve of me. Never to be forgiven. Was nasty to me all my childhood. Still drama to this day 50 years later as she is filthy angry that she can't sort anything without my approval as my parents finally cottoned on and made us joint everything. ( they are very elderly and unwell now).

Yep

Got a little brother. He always play games for like 12-15 hrs daily. He shoved all the food in like 3 days that's supposed to last our family for 2 weeks. When told he would be violent and shout at us. Made our parents cry and always blame religion (demons,satan, etc) for his wrongdoings. Always speaks of religion but his actions don't match his words. For just a month our parents spent $3,000 on the troubles my brother created and in my country that's a lot of money. I'd be happy if he'll just drop dead.

Not now, as she is dead now and her venom with her - I had nothing left to me, my BS swooped in, took all the jewellery, etc., sent me something I had bought (which was v v tacky but meant to be funny), went straight in the bin. The Bin of Life.

My exH’s SiL at 17, bruised and battered, left Dublin, 5 younger sisters, awful abusive father, for London and a better life, saving herself : on hearing that her father had passed, asked by MiL, did she regret not visiting him in hospital?
declared YES! so she could tell him how much she hated him.

At the time I heard this as an honest declaration of emotional pain and believed
that she wouldhave done, thwarted that she couldn’t, shocking though it sounded.

My MiL was horrified by this, kept up her Oh, Oh, Oh, face for hours - exH later
described to her how dreadful SiL life had been, beatings, random punishments, when my MiL said she didn’t believe any of it, which is just what SiL own mother
had told her! How can anyone close eyes and ears to a beating.
This is what the victim is up against. MiL was youngest of five, no idea at all of any other family dynamic.

I had a much older friend advise me to make up with my mother as “life is too short”
responding with yes, exactly - my friend had doting parents, could not understand -they don’t want to know : it’s a window into another world they do not want to see.

Looking back now I realise that as a child I hated her, she was hateful, hated me as I looked like my father’s side of the family !! as she told me regularly. As though I could do anything about that/it was a deliberate act on my part to spite her.
Thank you OP for this opportunity to unload.
Have a peaceful day everyone, unburdened.

My dad's mother, who, thankfully, is dead now.

Younger by 7 years half sister and yes I do hate her (not so much now as I’ve mellowed). There have been at least 3 occasions where she’s been a complete and utter bitch to me and people write it off as “oh M’s bossy etc”. I think she’s narcissistic or has a personality disorder. She can be lovely too.

Uncle through marriage to DM’s younger half sister. Again hate but mellowed. This man caused our family no end of grief, spite and unhappiness and it’s a shame my auntie was encouraged to marry him by her parents. They’re now divorced. Again I don’t hate him, mellowed but I definitely wouldn’t want to bump into him and will be relieved when he’s dead.

My birth father and my lovely step-dads oldest sister.

Birth father is a toxic, selfish, disgusting, poisonous rapist who has destroyed the lives of everyone he touches. I hate him and actively celebrated when I found out he was ill- I'm looking forward to hearing about the inevitable complications of his illness and subsequent slow death. Fuck him. He's a waste of skin. If I could remove his DNA from my body I would. I hate knowing he's a part of me and my dc.

My step-dad's oldest sister decided to poison her entire family against my mum when my step-dad was terminally ill. She threw him out of her house because he didn't die quickly enough, told all of her family that we'd stolen from her (absolutely didn't happen), accused my mum of starting an affair and then told everyone I'd attacked her (I wish I had). My younger brothers not only lost their dad but the rest of his family too through her behaviour. I hope she rots alone for the rest of her miserable, poisonous life.

I feel the same about my brother. He's the worst person I've ever met. No contact for 6 years and hope he doesn't see old age.

Can't stand my brother, most people I know think I am an only child. He's a using waster who takes advantage of my parents.

My bitch sister. She was an only child for ten years and has never forgiven me for taking that status from her. When our father died when she was 16 she told my mother she must wear dark clothes and sit in a corner as her life was now over.

She has bullied both me and our mother for the last 30 years. My mother couldn't stand up to her, so would pass it on to me as well, expecting me to be happy being treated as a third class citizen to appease the Bitch. It caused me no end of MH problems (ended up in hospital) but put up with it for the sake of my mother, thinking she'd eventually treat me fairly. My old counsellor was often horrified when hearing how the pair of them treated me.

I stopped waiting when I had my daughter, and realised that she'd be treated the same way, another sacrifice on the altar of the Bitch. The straw was my mother telling me, having seen me in tears twice in four days and knowing I'd been crying myself to sleep every night due to the bitch's behaviour, that I couldn't stand up for myself and ask her not to come over on one day because she "might be upset". The fact I was upset was neither here nor there. That's when I realised how of little importance my happiness was.

My mum now has dementia and doesn't remember any of it. Thinks I'm totally to blame. I'm just waiting for her to die then I never have to have dealings with the bitch ever again.

My 'brother'.

He's living with an absolute witch. She is evil and she has grown like a cancer inside him, changed him to become bitter and twisted just like her.

She has said awful things about my DH and my parents but my brother just said I was lying when I told him of her lies.

She's like a cult. She's brain washed him. A total religious freak but not a normal religion; one of those weird ones. He's a weak fart. But I do honestly, hand on heart hate and despise the pair of them for the pain they have caused my parents.

I hope they both die agonising deaths.

That must be incredibly hard @MotherPandJ I’m so sorry for your older Sister and for you.

Im sorry to all of you who have these arseholes in (or out) of your lives.

Excuse typos. It was cathartic angry typing.

I hate my mother's oldest sister. I will never call her my aunt.

She is an absuive nasty maniplulative piece of shit. It ruined my childhood (I mean that seriously) by being made to dance to her tune. A part of me leaving my home country for good and never returning at the age of 21 is in no small part due to her behaviour. My father refused to have anythinbg to dow tih ehr from the time I was about 8 and I used to go along to family functions to 'support' my mother. I was hit, slapped, called the little slut, called a fucking bitch, etc. When my mother's sister's husband sexually assaulted me from the age of about 10 I was told I was a fucking slag who asked for it and my own mother threw me under the bus to appease her sister because it was easier. I would not piss on her if she was on fire.

She is not too far from dying and my mother said to me that she would be grateful if I oeft my family in the UK and flee to new Zealand to help her (my mother) through the grieving process. My mother admits she hates her sister but feels like that makes her a terrible person and that she has to make amends for this by turning herslef inside out to help and cater to her sister. My mother is 75, her sister is 88 and I will never ever forgive my mother what she put me through all in order to appease her sister.

I will not be going anywhere near her when she is dying. i told my mother what I thought of ehr behaviour over the decades re this and her response was just tos ay that her sister was a stronger person than she was and it eas easier to do what she wanted. easier to stand by and watch her own child be abused.

I will never ever forgive it.

My Uncle, an abusing manipulative shit of a man. I hope he gets cancer of the knob.

My brothers wife. She is the devil in human form. She has caused so many issues with her lies, gaslighting and bullying. Tried to ruin not only my marriage but my siblings marriages too. She convinced my brother to go along her schemes and made my dad pay the deposit for a house they bought, turns out it wasn't even theirs, they were renting. That money went on her going out and having a good time.
Even when we go no contact she harasses us with nasty messages. All my family have blocked and even her own family have no contact with her and had to go through police to get her to stop harassing them.
She is that toxic.

Yes my eldest brother.

A nasty, violent, arrogant, incestuous pedophile.

I have had no contact with him for many years, and will never. One of my brothers is of the 'Be Kind' mentality and tried to persuade me to "forgive" him but nope.

I hope he dies lonely and alone tbh.

my cousin. she called our dying grandfather a c*, had 2 kids and got divorced before she turned 24 and lets her terminally ill mother do all childcare whilst she goes to bed and naps all afternoon after her 4 hour 8am shift. that's her only shift of the day may I add.

My sister, thought she’d eventually grow out of the lying/stealing/heartlessness but she just got worse. Stole money from her Dad while he was seriously ill in hospital and I suspect still financially abuses him.
Our Mum now looks after my Nephew as he was removed from her care due to neglect, not a word of thanks which enrages me as she should be enjoying her retirement. She could have made changes to get her child back, but would rather stay with her partner who social services have said she would have to leave. She also claims mental health issues as an excuse for her shitty behaviour.
I’m very low contact but it wouldn’t bother me if I didn’t see her again.

I wish no ill on my cousin, but she left my uncle (my mum’s brother) in a coma and carried in with her party lifestyle because ’she couldn’t cope with him being ill’. Didn’t even enquire about him and feed back to my 88 year old gran who didn’t know if her eldest son would live or die (they live in a country where only a named NOK can get info about a patient).
My beloved gran died 3 weeks ago and 3 days after her death she was uploading party pictures to IG. She doesn’t give a rap, didn’t even call us up to offer condolences. The lack of respect hurt me so much as mum and I are with her until the end, and she was our world.
I wish her no ill, but she isn’t my family anymore.

Yup. I have a similar brother. Very selfish and entitled arrogant narcissist. Our parents fault. He was the golden child, the eldest son, the popular boy. Different rules for him than the daughters. Different expectations for him than the daughters. Parents never disaplined him. As adults he screwed me and my sister over massively and parents 'wouldn't get involved' when it was their money. It's not hard to see how he turned out as he has tbh. No contact for something like 3 years now. He could die I would not attend his funeral

My whole family

My mother is a narc,she's turned my brothers into narcs and my father enables it for a peaceful life

They've turned the wider family against me-i have a cousin who's up on pedophile charges-theyve stood by him-my brother is a druggie-theyve stood by him (manys the times when hes stolen something and ive taken the blame)

ive done nothing wrong (apart from being able to see the bollocks for what it is) and I'm hated

I've even moved over 100 miles away and they are still trashing me

People believe them!

I've been told to my face by the flying monkeys that I'm an 'unpaid hooker',a thief,I belong in Broadmoor,a shit mother,I 'fiddled with kids and am now in prison' (that explains why I'm no longer living in my hometown),I'd shag your bloke-so many lies I can't keep up with them

My attitude is 'I'm past caring-they don't pay my rent'

I've built a lovely life with dp

My sdd-she had nowhere to go after her mother threw her out so we took her in

She refused to get a job,was unbearably rude tried to break my relationship with dp,stole,told lies,wasted so much stuff which she expected me to replace,spied on me,recorded any rows I had with her dad and sent them to my family,shit stirred with my friends,tried to have me fired from my job,told everyone I was sleeping with my (darling) fil,tried to destroy my home and much much more

As soon as we both stood up to her and said 'no,you need to get a job and stop sponging and while your at it quit with the lies' she flounced

Straight to my family and told so many lies about me-everything flared back up and the hate started up again-they'd make new fb pages just to get round the fact I blocked each one

I'll never forgive-i hope they all fall into the cess-pit of life and drown

It's only a matter of time as the only thing keeping them all going is my mother bailing them out over and over again

Once she goes,they'll all turn on each other

Oh and as soon as sd couldn't feed them anymore info about me,they dropped her like a hot brick-shes left wondering what the hell happened

Not a family member but I despise my ex (father to my eldest 3 kids) with every fibre of my being. He is a narcissistic, violent abuser and I wouldn't shed a tear if he dropped dead. Thankfully me and my kids are now NC with him and that's the way I'd like it to stay