To have a one night stand?

was thinking about a dating app… I’m a bit dubious about putting my picture on though and someone I know seeing it… stupid to be embarrassed at my age but I would be!

Pay for premium access. That way the only people who see you are the ones you swipe on.

Also I don't buy the men who are good in bed already have FWB. I've met several men who are good in bed who are having casual sex on apps, I think that's partly why they're good. Varied experience from different women.

Excellent advice. Particularly going to a hotel.

Some of these posts are completely over the top, yes of course safety first but wanting to habe a ONS with someone she meets on an app doesnt mean she needs to worry being chopped into pieces, its a pretty pretty extreme thing to link to.

Go with your gut, any discomfort and don't invite them home (I'd avoid doing that anyway if you don't want to see them again so they don't know where you live, if you don't want to go to theirs then suggest a hotel). Few men are up for being approached in a bar or pub unless they actively signal they're single and you need quite a thick skin for that anyway.

It's definitely easier via apps. Also not your concern if they're married or not, obviously don't target those who are but if they fail to tell you then you can't be held responsible.

Id go to a swingers club. its safe and everyone is STD checked if using a proper one. also no awkward encounters

If you just want sex with a bit of chat, but no hassle of dating then consider a swingers club.

Sounds daft I know - but they’re social, there’s people around so safer than meeting randoms solo, no-one judges, and most are a cheap night out for women.

@PottyMouthkaka making excellent points

The thing is depending on what you catch it could be the gift that keeps giving and affecting the rest of your dating life and I would never bring a stranger to my family home. Guys can put a facade on a date or two, I wouldn't want them having my home address.. you never know how crazy they are.

The same way op wants to tell him what she wants and just wants to get off, the guy will also be coming with expectations and wanting to do certain things he likes which he might hold off doing with a woman he sees long term with. He will be 'unleashing' too and you don't know what sort of kinks or perversions he has in mind. What was that policeman where women trusted him for ONS because of his job but he ended up locking her in a cupboard?

You might also end up sleeping with married men, are you ok with it?

I think the fantasy of a successful, sexy and satisfying ONS is not like what happens on reality land. Men want free sex with women and can post on this forum so have a vested interest in allaying any fears and dismissing them as paranoia and prudishness. The reality is women are far more vulnerable and should be selective and discerning who they have sex with not because I'm a misogynist who doesn't want them to have fun but because there are too many sad stories of how it ends up badly for women.

Even if he isn't dangerous, if a man is so fantastic in bed he'd have a queue of FWBs and wouldn't be on the prowl for a ONS because the women will want seconds and thirds with him. The guys that end up looking for casual sex online are red flags because they don't have the appeal or confidence to find it offline.

I recommend Womaniser on Love honey.

I would be concerned about personal safety. Being alone with a stranger you’re making yourself very vulnerable.
https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/us-news/woman-lured-tinder-date-chopped-25607265.amp. Not to mention risk of STIs etc
Personally I don’t think it’s worth the risk and irresponsible if you’ve got kids.

Why not cut through the bullshit and use an escort agency?

I think this is quite a pessimistic outlook. Most people have at least one ONS in their lifetime without ending up with the plague. Personally nothing scratches the itch like sex with someone else, toys might be more efficient, but it's just a different itch IYKWIM.

People are allowed to have a bit of fun without overthinking it!

I'm totally happy to have ONSs and I've had plenty, but I couldn't schedule sex with someone I'd never met! I would get on some apps, go on some dates and see how you feel. If it's going well suggest they go back to yours (if your kids are someone else obviously) for another drink.

Do it and enjoy it!

we all only live once! Have fun!!

Be very careful! I turned to OLD when it was in its infancy. I was looking for a fling and met someone who wanted dinner and bed. We celebrate our 23rd wedding anniversary next week.

If you really want to though meet them on a night out, you'll know if there is any sexual chemistry. It's impossible to judge chemistry from online as they can write one way but sound and talk completely differently.

You're going to make a lot of effort grooming and finding babysitter and even with condoms risking STIs like throat gonorrhoea and chlamydia, genital herpes for a guy you have no idea if he's going to scratch that itch for you or not.. most men are shit in bed and they are even shittier when there is no connection or commitment, he'll probably use you like an escort or cock sleeve.
Just get a vibrator safer and won't disappoint.