Would you sleep with a male partner in women's underwear

If you're not new around here, you already know you're in that majority of mumsnetters who would despise this.

Very disingenuous of you, OP.

I'm sorry but I would just find it hilarious 😂 🤣 not sexy at all.

Personally for me it’s a turn on, as is men in makeup or women’s clothes. So yes I would. My partner does sometimes wear stockings as it’s something we both like, but it’s not every time we have sex. It depends on the man, though. My type is generally more effeminate men who looks good in that stuff, I’m not in huge muscly hairy stereotypically manly men, who I imagine would look very silly.

Maybe I'm old school but we are usually pantsless when making love (elsewise it gets in the way). There have been times we have left our tops on but usually underwear by design covers the necessary 'private' access ports.

I would be more confused about the practicalities of how he is going to wear my lacy thong while going to pound town rather than a moral objection (although I will be royally pissed if he damages them regardless of whose wearing it lol).

My DH did use to wear my clothes when we where the same size in our youthful days (things like my jeans, some dress shirts etc...). Honestly they fitted and looked better on him than any 'mens' clothes and no one ever questioned it. I doubt they even noticed, without seeing the brand name 'girl' on the label then black jeans are just black jeans, they just have more choice and fit nicer.

Although I haven’t had this experience, I would get this sense about any fetish.

Its dysfunctional to need something other than a sexy partner and/or an imagination to get off.

I expect he wasn’t suggesting wearing a multi pack m and s boy leg in nude or (the brown knickers as my dp calls them)

Since reading up on AGP recently and why men are aroused by wearing women’s clothes or ‘becoming’ a women, I would find this an absolute turn off. Turned on by the oppression of women? Nope.

Bless your heart

Was he an ex partner when you found him wanking? That would be even worse.

I'm struggling to think of anything less erotic than veiny flaps of squished scrotum poking out from ill-fitting women's underwear. Sort of like a subversive 6th Form Art project where an earnest teenager thinks they're the first person to deconstruct the classical female nude.

Also, it would be impractical lacy knickers, wouldn't it? Not a multipack of comfy plain M&S shorts like most women actually wear most days.

Weird question to do a poll on, outside the sex topic.

Kinks are pretty individual, and there's no question of "reasonableness" between two consenting adults, particularly about something as innocuous as underwear. So I'm not sure what you are hoping to gain from this thread.

Other than a lot of kink shaming I guess. Hey ho maybe that's your kink...

NO

Absolutely, it is dehumanising, you’re right.

Sorry you went through similar too, it makes you feel so used, like a prop, doesn’t it? I’d never get involved with a man with a fetish like that again

I think this is why I find it quite grim. A man who chooses to occasionally wear a comfy sarong or likes to experiment a bit with make up - no issue. It's the fact of making it deliberately sexual and fetishised that makes me feel a bit ill. And I'd say the same about a massively over sexual woman tbh!

made me feel like a prude for saying no

Enthusiastic consent is what I like in bed.

That's the problem @Naunet. You feel like a prop when someone has that sort of kink. It's not about a connection. It's not about them desiring you for you, it's about the fetish. It's kind of dehumanising.

Similar @Naunet 😥

You've just given me one of the most disturbing mental images I've ever had haha. Jason Momoa in skimpy lingerie 😅

It’s not just clothes, it’s a fetish. My ex husband had a fetish for latex, so I thought I’d indulge him and dress up even though it wasn’t my thing. It soon became every time we had sex, it was all about his fetish, I could have been anyone, his interest was in the clothing, not me. Indulging him just made him more and more selfish. It absolutely destroyed me, I felt completely used and it ended our marriage.
It is NOT just clothes.

If it sticks to a bit of lingerie fair enough (as long as you are comfortable). Any more than that, or if it escalates it is indicative of autogynephilia (which is well documented despite denials from the TRA because it undermines and complicates transgender identification) and is very difficult to align with a genuine heterosexual relationship due to its nature and can ultimately lead to identifying as a transwoman to accommodate the very complex psychological and psychosexual impacts. Speaking, sadly from personal experience.

I really don't know why but I find my husband really fit with eye makeup and nail polish. I even like him in a skirt. But sexy underwear (which he's never actually worn) feels really... pervy whereas the other things he wears just seem like a personal preference which is fine. I recognise that I'm probably being a massive hypocrite!

Yeuk no wierdo

No thanks!!
I came home one day and ex partner was wanking into a pair of my knickers. It just freaked me out 😱

I had a girl ask me to wear her hold ups in bed once when we had sex
she liked
i felt very strange,

never done it again, or have a desire to