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Would you sleep with a male partner in women's underwear

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Saladdressed · 18/04/2023 14:10

Curious because of previous experience! What would you do if your partner said he liked wearing women's underwear (pants/stockings) and wanted to wear during sex? I said no thanks!
IABU - don't care if he wants to wear it/find it sexy

IANBU - keep it for solo wanking/eeeeewwww

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CuriousMoo · 18/04/2023 16:02

Tandora · 18/04/2023 16:01

Why? Your preferences are yours. Other people are theirs. Who cares if you are in the majority ? Or is it just so you can gang up with a group of others and pour scorn on those who are different to you? 🤢
(The fact that you’ve gone for something with a queer/ gender-variant undertone is even more shitty/ predictable given the current climate).

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The OP knows she's gonna get support on here. I'm guessing she might have a kink for transphobia instead.

Tandora · 18/04/2023 16:01

Saladdressed · 18/04/2023 14:24

I said on my op....previous partner asked me (in fact made me feel like a prude for saying no), I just wanted to know if I was in the majority or not when I said no

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Why? Your preferences are yours. Other people are theirs. Who cares if you are in the majority ? Or is it just so you can gang up with a group of others and pour scorn on those who are different to you? 🤢
(The fact that you’ve gone for something with a queer/ gender-variant undertone is even more shitty/ predictable given the current climate).

Weallgottachangesometime · 18/04/2023 16:00

No. Not my cup of tea. Would put me off.

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Saladdressed · 18/04/2023 16:00

CuriousMoo · 18/04/2023 15:41

Next time stick to the right forum topic please.

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I'll post where I like thanks. No need for you to click on it

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TedMullins · 18/04/2023 15:59

Lockheart · 18/04/2023 15:51

Good grief, can we end all this nonsense about "if men want to wear women's underwear they must be trans and perverts"?

I thought we were pushing back on the idea that the clothes you wear define your gender identity. A man wearing a skirt or a bra is still a man. Let clothes be clothes.

Yes this. Absolutely fine if you’re not into it and wouldn’t want to sleep with a man who is, but doesn’t make someone a pervert or whatever else is being insinuated here. It’s pretty tame on the kink scale anyway

ISpyCobraKai · 18/04/2023 15:54

All the nope.

drpet49 · 18/04/2023 15:54

WhisperingAutistic · 18/04/2023 14:32

Total deal breaker for me.
I would consider leaving if that was his fetish

Me too

Papernotplastic · 18/04/2023 15:53

Lockheart · 18/04/2023 15:51

Good grief, can we end all this nonsense about "if men want to wear women's underwear they must be trans and perverts"?

I thought we were pushing back on the idea that the clothes you wear define your gender identity. A man wearing a skirt or a bra is still a man. Let clothes be clothes.

If they’re wearing it because it gets them off then it’s not just clothing, it’s a sexual fetish.

CuriousMoo · 18/04/2023 15:52

Lockheart · 18/04/2023 15:51

Good grief, can we end all this nonsense about "if men want to wear women's underwear they must be trans and perverts"?

I thought we were pushing back on the idea that the clothes you wear define your gender identity. A man wearing a skirt or a bra is still a man. Let clothes be clothes.

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EasterBreak · 18/04/2023 15:51

Would make me dry up fast that would. Defo a no.

Lockheart · 18/04/2023 15:51

Good grief, can we end all this nonsense about "if men want to wear women's underwear they must be trans and perverts"?

I thought we were pushing back on the idea that the clothes you wear define your gender identity. A man wearing a skirt or a bra is still a man. Let clothes be clothes.

MaryJean87 · 18/04/2023 15:51

No way.

SallyWD · 18/04/2023 15:50

I'm very open minded but it would put me off to be honest. I briefly dated a man who liked wearing women's clothing. He used to wear stockings or a sexy dress and get extremely sexually aroused. I just could never understand it.

Comeohsavinglight · 18/04/2023 15:49

CuriousMoo · 18/04/2023 15:41

Next time stick to the right forum topic please.

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Are you forum-placement shaming @CuriousMoo ?

CuriousMoo · 18/04/2023 15:48

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And there we have it.

Did you get what you wanted now, OP?

ShandaLear · 18/04/2023 15:48

if I saw my big Scottish 6’, 14 stone, hairy, bald, DP stuffed into a thong and a push up bra they’d have to take me to hospital for uncontrollable laughter 😂 No, that would be a very tough shag, and I don’t think I’d ever be able to look at him the same way ever again.

Comeohsavinglight · 18/04/2023 15:47

while going to pound town

What an absolutely revolting term for sex!

literallyarabbit · 18/04/2023 15:44

No. And he would be cease to be my partner.

Huge red flag for Autogynephilia, a paraphilia I do not find attractive, want to indulge or even be around.

Verv · 18/04/2023 15:43

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LlynTegid · 18/04/2023 15:42

100% no but if both partners are happy and no one else sees, their choice.

thefamous5 · 18/04/2023 15:42

No.

I'd find it repulsive

CuriousMoo · 18/04/2023 15:41

Saladdressed · 18/04/2023 15:40

OK whatever. Thanks for your input

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Next time stick to the right forum topic please.

VincentVaguer · 18/04/2023 15:41

Apparently there's a Sex topic so you could ask for this to be moved there @Saladdressed

HolyMolyGuacamole222 · 18/04/2023 15:40

Completely fair to say no to something if it doesn't turn you on.

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Saladdressed · 18/04/2023 15:40

CuriousMoo · 18/04/2023 15:39

If you're not new around here, you already know you're in that majority of mumsnetters who would despise this.

Very disingenuous of you, OP.

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OK whatever. Thanks for your input

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