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Would you sleep with a male partner in women's underwear

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Saladdressed · 18/04/2023 14:10

Curious because of previous experience! What would you do if your partner said he liked wearing women's underwear (pants/stockings) and wanted to wear during sex? I said no thanks!
IABU - don't care if he wants to wear it/find it sexy

IANBU - keep it for solo wanking/eeeeewwww

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thatsn0tmyname · 19/04/2023 21:07

If he looked better in women's underwear than me, that'd be a no. Don't want to be upstaged....

PickleOfAConundrum · 19/04/2023 21:04

Each to their own on this topic but for me no it's not sexy on any level a man wearing women's underwear. I love a man to look like a man and I do find men in boxer shorts very sexy that gets an ooh la la from moi 😂. I'm not against couples doing this, go for it if it adds spice to your sex lives, it's just not to my taste.

postwarbulge · 19/04/2023 20:56

@Saladdressed

Is he a lumberjack?

BMW6 · 19/04/2023 20:49

Are there blokes out there who are turned on by their gf or wife wearing his Y fronts?

Are there women here who secretly slip on their blokes Y fronts and are aroused by it?

I discount boxers, cos they are just shorts. Not particularly masculine.

JamSandle · 19/04/2023 20:37

No

Qbish · 19/04/2023 20:32

Weallgottachangesometime · 19/04/2023 19:10

I wouldn’t be attracted to a man in women's underwear generally. Obviously a very attractive man is still going to be attractive in women’s underwear or not. I’d prefer them not though.

I don’t find it odd that some people don’t mind, or even are turned on by men In underwear. I do find it weird when people have to treat others like they’re prudes for not enjoying the same kink as them.

And I find it odd that people judge women and men who like to do it.

Weallgottachangesometime · 19/04/2023 19:10

I wouldn’t be attracted to a man in women's underwear generally. Obviously a very attractive man is still going to be attractive in women’s underwear or not. I’d prefer them not though.

I don’t find it odd that some people don’t mind, or even are turned on by men In underwear. I do find it weird when people have to treat others like they’re prudes for not enjoying the same kink as them.

Qbish · 19/04/2023 17:57

Well I'm 55 now, so not edgy 😄but we were slim and in our early thirties and it was a blast.

Verv · 19/04/2023 17:56

Peapodburgundybouquet · 18/04/2023 22:35

Yeah, I don’t think not wanting to have sex with our partners/husbands when they’re cinched into a corset with their bollocks spatchcocked either side of a pair of silky undercrackers makes us ‘pearl clutchers’.

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<snort> @ spatchcocked bolloks

Peapodburgundybouquet · 19/04/2023 17:54

Qbish · 19/04/2023 17:43

I bet none of you pearl-clutcherts like this clip of Tom Holland at all 😆

Stop with the ‘pearl clutchers’ thing.

I know you consider yourself very edgy, ‘Berlin in the 30s’ etc, and I guess your partner must be very lean or skinny, like TC, but me personally not wanting to fuck a trussed-up rugby player with his dick falling out of insufficient silk, does not make me a ‘pearl clutcher’.

Buffypaws · 19/04/2023 17:49

Themermaidspool · 18/04/2023 14:12

Depends if it was Tim Curry a la rocky horror show or not

lol true

SchoolTripDrama · 19/04/2023 17:48

@Saladdressed What is God's name is a 'friendship group?!' Is it some kind of club?!

Qbish · 19/04/2023 16:00

MintIceo · 18/04/2023 18:18

Personally, I think there's a bit of a difference between a kink and a fetish. Maybe just a distinction I make.

A kink, to me, is something you do every now and then that you enjoy and can spice things up a bit for you, of course if you both enjoy it, with the caveat that it's not all-consuming. You can still enjoy sex without the kink, but you also indulge in it at times.

Whereas I'd say a fetish sort of overpowers everything else, so that "regular" sex no longer excites you and you can't get off without it.

Almost like the difference between someone who enjoys alcohol and has a drink every so often vs. an alcoholic.

As long as it was "just" a kink and we could still enjoy sex without it, I'd be up for it. I have kinks but no fetishes, by the above conceptualisation.

Everyone needs to be in board, that goes without saying.

Nicely explained! That's what it was for us, a bit of a kink a couple of times, nothing ongoing.

Qbish · 19/04/2023 15:57

DP, I mean.

Qbish · 19/04/2023 15:57

NotHangingAround · 18/04/2023 23:06

This is the right answer! Grin

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That is exactly what PP was.

Hawkins003 · 18/04/2023 23:08

Each to their own, sometimes it's a kink, other times it's a novelty, it's a mix of perspectives

NotHangingAround · 18/04/2023 23:06

Themermaidspool · 18/04/2023 14:12

Depends if it was Tim Curry a la rocky horror show or not

This is the right answer! Grin

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Saladdressed · 18/04/2023 22:50

Peapodburgundybouquet · 18/04/2023 22:35

Yeah, I don’t think not wanting to have sex with our partners/husbands when they’re cinched into a corset with their bollocks spatchcocked either side of a pair of silky undercrackers makes us ‘pearl clutchers’.

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😂

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ClumsyCat · 18/04/2023 22:39

spatchcocked

😂

Peapodburgundybouquet · 18/04/2023 22:35

AlwaysGinPlease · 18/04/2023 22:30

@Qbish for pearl clutchers see non weird not fucked up folk. Pearl clutchers is always used by those that think they're so cool, so edgy 🥱

Yeah, I don’t think not wanting to have sex with our partners/husbands when they’re cinched into a corset with their bollocks spatchcocked either side of a pair of silky undercrackers makes us ‘pearl clutchers’.

AlwaysGinPlease · 18/04/2023 22:30

@Qbish for pearl clutchers see non weird not fucked up folk. Pearl clutchers is always used by those that think they're so cool, so edgy 🥱

FrumptyMumpty · 18/04/2023 22:27

Ewww. No.

I’d assume he had mum issues.

Peapodburgundybouquet · 18/04/2023 22:09

Qbish · 18/04/2023 21:36

Just my normals. Lolling at the pearl clutchers, we just had a laugh!

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I have to ask, what are your ‘normals’ if he likes going full Brad Majors?

I don’t think ‘pearl clutchers’ is right, it’s just it really doesn’t do it for most posters on here. Me included. I’m not shocked by it, or even horrified, beyond the image in my head of my actual H, which makes me feel a bit spewy.

I prefer him in the nud, as nature intended, not like a member of the chorus in Chicago…

AllIeveknewonlyou · 18/04/2023 22:04

If he bought them himself...?

Certainly not if they were another woman's, and as a one off I'd laugh. Not if it was all the time though, it would get wearisome.

I still have some boxers from an ex years back as he threw my knickers somewhere and we couldn't find them in the morning so he gave me the boxers to go home. If a new partner didn't like me wearing them I'd bin them instantly but I'd never wear them around him anyway as it wouldn't feel right.

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