My DS8 is suspected ASD/ADHD.
He is so defiant and oppositional, has been since he was a pre schooler. He has to be carefully managed at school and at home these holidays he’s been a nightmare unless we’ve been out doing fun things constantly.
He winds his little brothers up constantly. He takes forever to do anything we ask him to do if it means stopping something he’s doing. He’s rude, calls us names like “meanie”, he’s rude to grandparents, telling them he doesn’t want to come to their house with no regard for their feelings.
He can be so mature and kind, he sometimes apologises off his own back for not listening/being tricky/moaning.
It’s clear he is ND although we don’t know his exact diagnoses yet.
But I am just sick of his awful behaviour. He’s so grumpy and sullen and tries to spoil things his brothers enjoy.
I am at a loss of how to discipline him. Currently reading lots of different books - 10 Steps to a less defiant child, emotional support for your ADHD child, that sort of thing. No answers yet unfortunately.