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Dalai llama ask a child to suck his tongue

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Mooshamoo · 10/04/2023 12:49

Has anyone seen the new video of the Dalai Llama asking a child to suck his tongue. Yes. It sounds bizarre. But it is in the news right now. The video is out there. And the dalai llama is apologising on social media now

Im devastated! I went to see the Dalai Llama in India. He gave a speech on accepting and loving everyone, and that it didn't matter what religion we are. I always told people that it was one of the highlights of my life.

I went through life thinking he was a good person, that he was one of the good ones. To see this today, makes me think oh no is he yet another abuser.

Some people have remarked about this video that sticking your tongue out at someone is a greeting in Tibet.

However - the Dalai Llama kisses the child on the lips in the video, and asks the child to suck his tongue. It does not look right at all.

He has apologised on twitter now.

What do you all think?

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SNAFUED · 10/04/2023 16:56

malapast · 10/04/2023 16:45

It may have been misguided but without intent.

A 9th century Tibetan king, Lang Darma, known for his cruelty, had a black tongue. As Buddhists, Tibetans believe in reincarnation, and they feared that this mean king would be reincarnated. Consequently, for centuries Tibetans have greeted one another by sticking out their tongues demonstrating that they do not have black tongues, that they are not guilty of evil deeds, that they are not incarnations of the malevolent king.
Nowadays, when Tibetans meet, they briefly extend their tongues as a greeting. They do not extend their tongues as far out or for so long a time as shown in the film. They would never extend their tongues as a group, either. In addition to being a greeting, sticking out one’s tongue is used to show agreement, and over the past few years this gesture has evolved into a sign of respect.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/newsround/26924362

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Sticking out your tongue... no one cares.

Asking a child to suck your tongue.... thats quite something else.

TreehousePine · 10/04/2023 16:56

rumpsteak · 10/04/2023 13:44

Where do you get that idea that the Pope is the best person on the Catholic Church? That's just not true and isn't taught. In fact the church teaches everyone is equal under God.

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I was just about to write something similar with regards to Islam. We're not allowed to idolise/ worship/ bow down to other human beings.

EsmeSusanOgg · 10/04/2023 16:54

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foxlover47 · 10/04/2023 16:53

Whatever the reason it is a strong hell no from me
How could it ever be ok

EsmeSusanOgg · 10/04/2023 16:53

Mooshamoo · 10/04/2023 13:11

He kisses the child on the lips for a long time, before he asks the child to suck his tongue.

You can see that the child does not want to kiss the Dalai llama on the lips, but the Dalai llama pushes him into it.

Should an old religious man be allowed to kiss a child on the lips?

That in itself is extremely wrong.

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Agree. Very uncomfortable. I hope the young boy is ok.

ananass · 10/04/2023 16:52

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TeaForMeandThee · 10/04/2023 16:52

Bet it's not all he asks the kids to suck, why do people worship people like this? Like they are some sort of higher being, it just gives them a cloak to sexually abuse vulnerable people, usually children. If he's happy to do this in plain sight like this is normal, I think it tells you a lot about his behaviour behind closed doors. Hopefully there's a full investigation into his conduct.

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ananass · 10/04/2023 16:49

malapast · 10/04/2023 16:45

It may have been misguided but without intent.

A 9th century Tibetan king, Lang Darma, known for his cruelty, had a black tongue. As Buddhists, Tibetans believe in reincarnation, and they feared that this mean king would be reincarnated. Consequently, for centuries Tibetans have greeted one another by sticking out their tongues demonstrating that they do not have black tongues, that they are not guilty of evil deeds, that they are not incarnations of the malevolent king.
Nowadays, when Tibetans meet, they briefly extend their tongues as a greeting. They do not extend their tongues as far out or for so long a time as shown in the film. They would never extend their tongues as a group, either. In addition to being a greeting, sticking out one’s tongue is used to show agreement, and over the past few years this gesture has evolved into a sign of respect.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/newsround/26924362

Not this again. What has that got to do with a man staring at a young boy in the eyes and asking him to suck his tongue?

TheKeatingFive · 10/04/2023 16:48

I myself got total pedo vibes from English dads holding hands with their daughters

Wtf bollocks are you spouting?

Limetart · 10/04/2023 16:46

Gandhi used to sleep with naked young women to test his power of abstinence.
Another creepy pedo imo.

Spambod · 10/04/2023 16:46

We need to stop believing in men as gurus. They are not. They are people who like power and wealth and status and more often than not they seem to be sexual abusers. He is a cult like religious leader. Hiding in plain sight. Hardly unusual.

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malapast · 10/04/2023 16:45

It may have been misguided but without intent.

A 9th century Tibetan king, Lang Darma, known for his cruelty, had a black tongue. As Buddhists, Tibetans believe in reincarnation, and they feared that this mean king would be reincarnated. Consequently, for centuries Tibetans have greeted one another by sticking out their tongues demonstrating that they do not have black tongues, that they are not guilty of evil deeds, that they are not incarnations of the malevolent king.
Nowadays, when Tibetans meet, they briefly extend their tongues as a greeting. They do not extend their tongues as far out or for so long a time as shown in the film. They would never extend their tongues as a group, either. In addition to being a greeting, sticking out one’s tongue is used to show agreement, and over the past few years this gesture has evolved into a sign of respect.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/newsround/26924362

Guide: Unusual greetings from around the world

The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge have been welcomed in New Zealand with the 'Hongi' - here are some other unusual greetings from around the world.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/newsround/26924362

MagicMatilda · 10/04/2023 16:45

Absolutely sickened by this. There is no excuse…ever.

Flowerly · 10/04/2023 16:45

I myself got total pedo vibes from English dads holding hands with their daughters

Course you did.

whatsyourpoison12 · 10/04/2023 16:43

@magma32 I think its a jewish thing? someone correct me if I'm wrong

magma32 · 10/04/2023 16:43

KnitGoodWomanKnit · 10/04/2023 16:34

Even so, that something is cultural doesn't make it non-abusive, especially to the young and vulnerable who're always on the receiving end of these "cultural norms". We know better, we do better. Cultures can and do change/evolve.

This exactly. Men doing what the fuck they want is cultural norm in many places, doesn’t make it okay!

magma32 · 10/04/2023 16:38

@BurrosTail i’m interested to know what culture you’re from that you think a dad holding his daughter’s hand is sexual? I’m south Asian and have seen grown men hold hands in mine and other countries (in public) in a non sexual way and also kiss on the cheek. Being from an eastern culture I’m interested to know which culture does the tongue sucking thing.

Sudeko · 10/04/2023 16:38

I suppose that it helps that when people are allowed to express their true beliefs about these things via an anonymous discussion even though it is disconcerting to learn that pedos and their defenders are not such an invisible or insignificant proportion of people as I always assumed. Like they say, you learn something new everyday.

ILoveMontyDon · 10/04/2023 16:37

SerafinasGoose · 10/04/2023 16:26

Hiding in plain sight.

It's a long-recognized MO (cf. Jimmy Savile groping young women on TOTP, which he openly and revoltingly referred to as his 'happy hunting ground).

And nobody - nobody - stopped him. As far as I recall only one person publicly called attention to this creep, and in return he was censored and ostracized - the equivalent in today's idiom of being de-platformed and cancelled.

It's very easy to see how these abusive men get away with it. Societies - ours and others - deny this is happening even when unassailable evidence is placed right in front of our eyes. And then, nine times out of ten, it will be reframed as the victims' fault.

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I'm totally with you. Hiding in plain sight... Just seems a bit to start hiding in plain sight though, rather than just 'hiding'... It's very strange.

ParagraphOne · 10/04/2023 16:37

Disgusting.

AllIsBest · 10/04/2023 16:37

Someone upthread asked why the DL did this in front of the global media.

Who knows but the way I read the video, the boy seemed relatively comfortable to give the DL a kiss on the cheek then the DL asked for a lip kiss, which the boy was reluctant to do, you can see this in his body language. The DL felt pissed off about this boy's 'rejection' and the lack of adulation and reverence to the big important man so the DL taunted the boy to suck his tongue. It was a clear abuse of power, nasty.

What's worse is all the people around the DL, no-one is intervening because.... the Dalai Lama has power. Not nice holy self reflective power, no, the typical garden variety of famous celebrity man power.

crimsonpeak · 10/04/2023 16:34

RideACockHorseToSunburyCross · 10/04/2023 13:18

Fucking sick of this shit. Every time a man abuses a kid or batters his wife or cheats on her or any other shit thing there's a little chorus of women saying "oh no, maybe he's got a brain tumour/is depressed/didn't mean it/was just joking/needs a doctor/is having a midlife crisis

No, he's just an abusive prick. Stop defending them.

This. Fucking apologists.
The Dalai Lama is a disgusting man.