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Should my 8 year old nephew have his hair permed?

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KateGrace · 02/04/2023 16:00

My 8 year old nephew has disclosed to his dad (my brother) this weekend that his mum is going to get his hair permed. My brother has asked his ex not to get it done as he is too young. She refuses to listen and has stated that she is going ahead with it anyway. Are we being unreasonable?

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MajorCarolDanvers · 02/04/2023 16:07

Dad takes son to hair dresser first and gets a #2 or #3 cut all over.

Hair cut problem solved

But co-parenting relationship remains just as bad

Arapawa · 02/04/2023 16:06

Ridiculous. He's a child. He doesn't have the authority to decide this and it sounds like the mother is bonkers.

MrsDoylesDoily · 02/04/2023 16:06

A big part for me would be if the nephew was on board or not?

This should be neither here nor there when it comes to using harsh chemicals on a child purely for cosmetic reasons.

Ponoka7 · 02/04/2023 16:05

Rewis · 02/04/2023 16:03

What does the kid want? If he does, what's the concern?

The chemicals used shouldn't be used on a child under 14 even with parental permission.

thegrain · 02/04/2023 16:05

Are we being unreasonable? it's not your decision. The parents should discuss sensibly and decide.

Theluggage15 · 02/04/2023 16:05

No proper hairdresser would do this until he’s sixteen.

Smartiepants79 · 02/04/2023 16:05

Does the child want it?? If not why on Earth would you perm an eight year olds hair if they haven’t asked for it??
I believe a lot of salons won’t perform chemical treatments on kids under a certain age. Probably for a good reason.
Sadly, I’m not entirely sure she can actually be stopped though if she’s found someone who will do it.
A big part for me would be if the nephew was on board or not?

Merangutan · 02/04/2023 16:04

Sounds awful. But… if she refuses to listen and does it anyway because she’s so wilful, then she’ll also have to accept his dreadful perm being cut off without it being a unanimous agreement, won’t she?

Dotcheck · 02/04/2023 16:04

It’s only hair. What do you imagine will happen? Lots of boys seem to be getting the top bit of their hair permed.

MrsDoylesDoily · 02/04/2023 16:04

Rewis · 02/04/2023 16:03

What does the kid want? If he does, what's the concern?

Damage.

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KateGrace · 02/04/2023 16:03

I don’t that he really understands what a perm is and knowing his mum, she will have talked him into it.

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Rewis · 02/04/2023 16:03

What does the kid want? If he does, what's the concern?

randomuser2020 · 02/04/2023 16:03

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Oysterbabe · 02/04/2023 16:02

They can't do that to the poor kid.

CurlewKate · 02/04/2023 16:02

Whose idea is it?

PooCurtain · 02/04/2023 16:02

What does nephew want?

MrsDoylesDoily · 02/04/2023 16:01

Google says YANBU.