Husband never appreciates my cooking

Do you go into raptures when he puts the bins out?
Do you swoon when puts the toilet seat down to have a wee?
Do you clap your hands with glee when he vacuums?

Probably not

It sounds like it's all a bit forced and he feels like he HAS to compliment you so it's meaningless

I get a 'thanks that was lovely' now and again, and that's enough for me

Lol at posters saying OP’s dad was over the top. I am assuming OP’s mum was, at least for a time, a SAHM. So it’s very kind of the dad to acknowledge her efforts and make her feel good about herself after a full-on day of looking after young children, housework and cooking.

In our house I cook all dinners. I’m not a great cook, and I prioritise nutrition over taste. DH only really likes a limited selection of meals, but eats whatever I’ve cooked. He thanks me for dinner before he’s even tried it, so it’s just manners, doesn’t reflect the taste of the food.

We may be an odd family but to us food is mostly fuel - put some meat/fish together, throw 3-4 vegetables on top, sorted.

The forward slash means "or". So healthy/bland meant healthy OR bland. I dont need any cooking lessons thanks, no need to be rude I wasn't rude to you. I just said maybe they are eating too much of the same type of thing and not enough variety. They are all raving over his meals and not yours, I could say maybe it's you that needs the cooking lessons but I'm not rude.

How on earth can you make that judgement?? It makes you sound like an eater of burgers and pizzas

Tell me about these amazing multi layer burgers...

Menu plan as a family. Make him cook the boring stuff too.

If they are raving about a take away or his burgers then they are maybe eating too much healthy/bland food maybe? I know when I'm on a health kick it gets very boring very quickly. I like middle of the range meals between super healthy and a bit of naughty sometimes, true variety.

Have free supplies of bitch juice been going through the doors today or something?? I totally get the OP, my H is a foodie , loves good food and thanks are sometimes a bit lacking- in my Hs case it's usually that something work wise is pissing him off and he's still looking at his emails in an evening and simply forgets - like the OP I find it bloody rude too when it happens.

Isn't your dad's behaviour the reverse of what is complained about on these boards, when a man does a household task and expects to be gushed over? I mean I might say "Thanks for doing dinner" if I was especially tired or ill and the bloke had made dinner, but I would be equally likely to say "thanks for sorting dinner" if he ordered a takeaway - and often wouldn't say it at all. Household life would be very tiring if we had to go through a performance every time our partners did something.

Also when someone makes a great hoo-ha about how wonderful the meal is every single time, how do you know when you've really done excelled yourself? There is nowhere to go.

DH has just thanked me for the boring roast vegetable and halloumi salad I made for dinner. It does help with the drudgery.
He doesn't thank me daily but at least once or twice a week.
I'd stop cooking for your DH and let him get his own meals.

He doesn’t like the same food that you do.

I think you need to start being honest with him. He need to cook every other meal and when it's shit, you need to tell him. Why do we continue to treat men like gods? Such fragile egos.

Dh was like this, worse actually as he criticised my food. The day he took his tea down the garden and fed it to the chickens was the last time I cooked for him. Twenty years ago. We’re probably both happier.

I get you @Unappreciatedcook. We have a Spanish lad living with us that never says thanks or compliments dinner and I find it insulting as I know I'm a good cook. If my DH did this I think I'd lose the plot.

do you sit and do a meal plan together? So you know it’s meals you both want. Maybe then he can cook some of them, if it’s all preplanned. My DH doesn’t have much imagination with ingredients but happy to follow a receipe. I think you’ve been spoiled a bit by your own dad, sounds a bit OTT to me. A thanks, this is nice, is sufficient in my eyes! Especially for a week night quick dinner

It’s the martyr thing f I can’t go, the whole I do this through choice but you all need to grovel and thank me. I grew up with it, nah, not for me op. I really hope they tell you to do one.

Ok,, this is mumsnet, we all know this responses will validate you. The reality is, real life isn’t mumsnet, he won’t be coming in his shorts over your cooking, a simple thanks that was lovely is normal. Your sons have been taught well, they understand they validation you need. So they give it to you. Likely with a roll of the eye behind your back..

Sounds like the types of things you like to eat/cook are polar opposites. So you're expecting fanfare for something that'd probably just ok to him. Out of interest, do you give rapturous praise to his burgers when he makes them? Or just sneer at everyone else fawning over them? If he says thank you for the meal, that should be enough. And vice versa.

So dh does 95% of the cooking. I always, without fail thank him for cooking. The reason? When I was with my ex I did 95% of the cooking for a family of 5. I truly appreciate how much effort goes into cooking and I am very grateful that I no longer have to do all the work.
Op if I were you I would say oh next week I’m not cooking and don’t. I can guarantee your dh will be pig sick of take away burgers and/or cooking by the end of the week. If your dh asks why tell him. Say you never seem to appreciate what I do, so I’m not doing it.

There are some right cats on tonight. Is it really too much to ask that the DH say thankyou, especially at the end of a long day.

Hope he, at least, loads the dishwasher...

He should show appreciation for your effort and time but if he is not that keen on what you cooked then that's just his taste. I would still cook as it suits your schedule, but not make a big effort for him.