To wonder how I approach my neighbour about her nude son

I think actually he is lucky that the girl he ran towards was your DD who has some, albeit possibly limited, understanding of the situation.
As he was out on the public street naked and approaching other people he could well have been beaten up or arrested before his Mother got him back inside.
Your Dd should be able to go outside her own house without the possibility of seeing a naked man . His mother should be taking better steps to keep him safe. If she doesnt take it seriously he needs to be reported under safeguarding for his own sake.

I would report this to the police. Autism or not 16 year old naked teenagers can of go running at young girls, you’d daughter has rights too, including the right to feel safe

@underneaththeash Just because someone who is autistic is non speaking does not mean they don't understand. Check out the 2 programmes Chris Packham made for a brilliant example.

I fear my post has been somewhat misconstrued, albeit I’m the one at fault for that. I believed that his mother was, in fact, aware of the situation, given her sons complex needs. If she isn’t, by all means, ignore my previous post and I apologise for giving the impression that this is to be disregarded out of hand.

The responses on here are bonkers and I speak as the mother of a 17 year old son with ASD.

You need to go round and speak to the mother. You need to stand up for your daughter AND for the boy. He'll do this to the wrong person and get his head kicked in, or be arrested and like fuck does your daughter have to 'be kind' about this. You need to go and have an adult conversation with his parents, let them know it happened, let them know it is not acceptable and you will not be accepting it, and tell them the next time it happens you will call the police.

I know you want to be understanding, but this is not the time for understanding, this is the time for very clear and firm boundaries. And for standing up for your own kid. Sometimes rights clash - it is ok to put your own family first.

I cannot believe the responses on here! The Op's daughter had no idea of the boy's intentions, and no matter what, he should not be outside naked. For his and other's safety. It's a matter of safeguarding.

I worked with an autistic teen who would try and touch others and themselves inappropriately. Why did they do it? Because they liked how it felt and whilst no harm was meant, it did harm others as they didn't want to be groped. Despite their autism they had to learn that it was not okay to do this.

Also to those saying that it’s not a big deal and that the dd is being dramatic, what if that was your dd? Would it make a difference if she was younger?

Your dd wasn't being dramatic. Even if the neighbours ds has autism being naked is a risk to your dd obviously. He's of an age to have developed sexually. He's also vulnerable. Of course you need to let his parent know. She needs to be aware and needs to ensure that this doesn't happen again.

That is difficult, I feel sorry for the boy and his family but I also see why your daughter was upset.

I think it would depend how often it has happened. If it is just once I would assume it may have been a one-off and probably wouldn't say anything. And would tell DD if it happens again to come inside and get you. If it's more than once I would politely let the boy's mum know. Tricky though.

I'm equally amazed that this apparent one off (no mention of anything beforehand) by a neighbours child known to have profound disabilities is causing such angst. Yes it would be shocking. But a conversation about it and the reasons should be enough.

No one said it was acceptable. But some tolerance for a one off is surely not too much to ask.

You are not being unreasonable. This behaviour can escalate quickly. Both children need protecting in sperate ways

Are you seriously asking how to go about telling her that her naked son was outside the house, and ran towards your daughter, scaring her?

Errrm you just tell her exactly that, obviously.

It is a big deal. It’s a massive safe guarding fail for him for a start and mortifying for your dd.

He was ‘lucky’ that it was your dd and not someone who may take advantage of him.

We teach our daughters that it’s not acceptable to tolerate this from men but it’s ok if they have autism? Bollocks.
How much can you excuse? Is there a limit on what’s acceptable and what’s not?

As a mum of an autistic teenager I know it’s hard (understatement!) but his family need to protect him. The world is an unkind place.

I don’t think that your dd is being dramatic and I hope that she is okay.

Absolutely shocking response from @MarchMadness23 OP your daughter has reacted exactly how most girls would at seeing a 16 yo boy expose himself. It’s deeply upsetting and often quite traumatising. This doesn’t mean that the boy is at fault but to minimise your daughters distress can cause permanent fractures in relationships.

I think definitely speak to the mum. She may well need extra help and you may be able to help her get that if she’s happy for you to make a statement explaining the issues as it’s obviously not acceptable for anyone.

I'd be having a word with his Mum. It's better coming from you than the Police turning up the door.

If he's not capable of looking after himself his mum needs to ensure his safety too. Autistic or not its totally inappropriate. No wonder your daughters upset.

@Meanswell i would not be happy about this. Teenage girls should not have to grin and bear this.
of course yoj must speak with the mum or contact children’s services for someone professional to do it.

I would speak to her and see how seriously she takes it. If you’re not happy with her response I’d be going to the police.

Enough of this be kind and shut up girls nonsense. It’s completely unacceptable

His parent needs to be made aware that he ran at at a young teen when he was naked and scared her. This is not ok. Your DD does not need to be ok with this. His parents need to be more aware of what he is doing and where he is. The onus is on them not your DD to prevent inappropriate situations.

Just hazarding a guess here but probably wanted to protect her young daugher from the naked older teen running towards her.

I'm all for kindness, compassion and understanding and obviously any conversation must have that, but in no way is it acceptable for a naked 16 yo to be approaching a younger girl (or anyone else) in the street, whatever his difficulties.

If that was my teenage daughter I'd have phoned the police straight away. Your daughter ran into the house and locked the door, she must have been terrified.
He's a teenager. Just because he has autism does not mean he didn't know what he was doing. I've got family with autism and I know there's different spectrums but the police need to know.

Where is his mother????? And why isn’t this boy getting the care he needs too?

(no we can’t minimise this because of autism, come on)

Oh what a difficult situation.

I think you have it exactly right - you need to message her to make her aware but sensitively. Whatever the family are dealing with, this behaviour is inappropriate and safeguards need to be put in place to prevent it happening again. This boy could end up in a lot of trouble with police etc regardless of his SEND if he continues this behaviour. And your daughter should be able to walk around without being chased by naked teenagers.

So just because he has autism also means he has no ill intent?

OP, you have every right to be annoyed and I would say it to the mother. Surely for the sons safety they should have a lock on the door that prevents him leaving alone.