To wonder how I approach my neighbour about her nude son

I think @LauraTMarantette has just blown all our discussion about what is acceptable or not completely out of the water. I so hope she's not genuine

Sorry, hang on. ND people still have hormones and sex drives. Being ND doesn't make them not have this motivation, even if the understanding might not be there.
Speaking as someone who was pinned down, legs forced apart as an 8 year old with my best friend, by a boy with, as we were told at the time, 'learning difficulties' of about 12, (fortunately it went no further and we fought him off.) protect your daughter, speak to the mother, walk outside with your dd. She doesn't have to be 'nice' or 'kind'.

I would also contact the police or at least have a strong word with his mum she may not have been aware what he was up to. Your daughter is a young girl why should she have to put up with it. This is not fair on anyone. His mother has a duty of care to protect him and others from him. I completely have compassion for her situation but she’s putting him in a position in which he could be sent to prison he will feel the same as every other teenage boy with same urges what would he do if she hadn’t run she shouldn’t have to be scared to leave the house alone.

You cannot know that at all, autism does not mean he is not a threat and if his behaviour is deteriorating then his mum needs to know so she can put steps in place.

what in the actual honest to god fucking century are you living in?

I'm an idiot, replied to the wrong person

You do if they’re posing a threat to those around them.

The dd and the neighbour are not on equal footing here. Autism or not, he posed a very real threat to her. A strong visceral reaction is perfectly reasonable and sensible, considering not only the harm that was done to her DD, but further harm that could have very easily been inflicted had he caught her.

His autism does not mean he is incapable of victimizing and seriously harming another, and OP’s demonstrating compassion to him should not be at the expense of her daughter’s safety.

Oh dear God

Exactly in what I was replying to... You must be taking the piss

I'd be really worried about his safety tbh. I've come across (professionally) people with reduced inhibitions who have done things like and who have been targeted by others in the community. She needs to know he was outside naked.

Why?

No you don't call the police on an autistic non verbal child 🙄

????!!!!!!

I'm so sad to have read this and I wish I could give you a massive hug.

The boy is being failed by his carers and this needs addressing. Firmly, but sensitively. I understand why you don't want to go nuclear as the first option but there's a risk of downplaying the incident.

I would explain what happened and how much your daughter was scared. Ask his parents to make sure it isn't possible for him to be in that situation in future. Stress that you understand it's difficult but if it happens again you will need to call the police for both your daughter's safety and for his. If they are trying to get support from the authorities, see if it would be helpful for you to provide a statement to add more weight to their case.

@Untitledsquatboulder the fact it happened once is once too many, both for the DD and for his own safety as has been outlined several times in the thread by more knowledgeable posters than you. What a dickish comment.

You just need to talk to her with compassion. Her son was in a vulnerable situation as well. You both want to avoid it happening again.

I totally understand having a visceral reaction over it, but in this case it will be more helpful to approach it as two concerned mothers who need to avoid a bad situation from reoccurring.

If she is not receptive then that's another issue.

Of course it is understandable she was scared of him. He was running towards her, naked.

I would pop over and let the parents know. It’s a safety issue for him if nothing else.

@Mum23amazingkids you can't say it wasn't sexual for sure. It might not be, it might be. Just because he has autism doesn't mean he isn't having the same sexual feelings/hormone surges as any NT 16 year old.

Where did I say it wasn't a learning disability?

As a parent of an autistic child I would want to know. Please knock and see if she realises.

My brother is severly autistic and severe learning difficulties. Please report this to the non emergency police. My brother used to do this and probably still does, i have been estranged for a long time and only speak to my mother on rare occasions. This behaviour does escalate, and for me it did and multiple sexual assault attempts later my mother would always say he dosnt understand ect. She is still massively in denial and i wouldnt be shocked if the same happens in the home now to her.
im not saying thats what would/does happen in your neighbours house but especially if he has siblings living in that home, please report this. I wish someone had for me.

What an absolutely ridiculous thing to say.
By your standards, just because we are all naked under our clothes we should all accept seeing other people naked at any time? And be fine to be chased by them? You have absolutely NO WAY OF KNOWING if he had any ill intent and neither did she.
This is a massive safeguarding concern. There is a vulnerable teenager who is not being supervised properly. Being naked in the street and running after others is never acceptable, but it’s on the people who are supporting this teenager to ensure he doesn’t get into that situation again. If he has such severe ASD that he is not aware at his age that being naked in public is not ok, then he should be more closely supervised. Someone was not paying enough attention for some time - long enough for him to get naked, go outside, stand in the street and chase someone. The person supervising him may well benefit from some additional support. He may well need 1:1 support from a care worker. Indeed, he may already have that and the support worker failed to do their job. Regardless, a teenage girl has the right not be chased down the street by a naked teenager irrespective of his disability. What he has done is a crime!
OP, you may feel that you cannot approach this parent, but you should as a matter of urgency contact social services to report it.