To wonder how I approach my neighbour about her nude son

The OPs daughter is vulnerable! This 16 year olds actions could've been sexually motivated.

We will never know.

I feel sorry for all concerned, but young men have sexual drives and autism does not diminish them. She was right to run and right to be scared.

Good luck forcing an almost fully grown male to wear clothes when he doesn’t want to.

Nudity isn’t that unusual for someone with profound autism. Clothing can cause sensory distress - there are lots of autistic people who struggle with it, even those who wear clothes and don’t have the same level of difficulty.

Absolutely not excusing the boy charging around naked outside but I know quite a few autistic teens with profound difficulties who it’s almost impossible to keep clothes on inside.

Frankly even indoors naked is questionable.

he was left alone for a couple of minutes

You're saying his mother knew he was standing out front naked? Nah. Overprotective mothers don't do that.

I’m sure his being out of his house naked must have been a mistake. It’s definitely worth mentioning to his mother as I’m sure she wouldn’t have been happy about him being out alone never mind out naked.
I can only imagine the shock to your DD and hope this incident doesn’t lead to lasting anxiety about going out alone or about boys / men in general. I imagine she could be reassured if the boy’s mother takes steps to ensure this doesn’t happen again. I hope DD is ok.

It's the first time the OPs DD saw.

It could've happened before and can happen again.

Fuck me, if this happened to one of my daughters once, I would sure as hell be making sure it didn't happen a second time!!!

I don't give a flying fuck what sensitivities are involved, this is NOT ok!!

Yes, I would raise it with the mother.

She needs to make sure he doesn't get out unaccompanied if stripping off is likely. Or even if it isn't. He's non verbal and presumably not capable of dealing with police or members of the public.

Not everyone is going to be understanding or kind to a naked 16 year old boy walking around outdoors.

This is as much about his protection as it is about the protection of others.

There's zero tolerance for a naked 16 year old boy chasing a young teenager NAKED to the point she locks herself in.
He's broken the law for starters.

But that's fine because he has autism...🤷🏼‍♀️

Such an awful situation. It's very common for severely autistic people to like to take their clothes off, often for sensory reasons. However, that doesn't make it OK for them to break the law and I'm sure his parents are trying their best to avoid such situations.

Equally - teenage boys have 'desires' and it may well be that someone with learning disabilities may not be well equipped to deal with those in an appropriate way. He shouldn't be exposing himself outside and he could be a risk to your DD or others - you don't know.

As a Mum of an ASD son I applaud you for thinking more widely, but this does need stopping now. The poor Mum may be at her wits end, but her DS can't be allowed to continue to do this, and it could end badly. And your DD should be able to leave home without fear of repercussions.

I don't know how you should take it forwards (sorry - HRTFT so hopefully there have been good suggestions) but please do engage with his school or possibly even the parents, this really does need resolving.

he's a child with autism, he was naked with no I'll intent.
@MarchMadness23

So autistic people are incapable of ill intent? He CHASED a young teenager for crying out loud. It's not acceptable. If an adult autistic man was sending explicit pictures of himself to a child, would you brush it under the carpet? Of course fucking not.

OP, message the mum. Your daughter doesn't need to see this, autism or not.

If this is happening, safeguarding needs adjusting to make sure it doesn't happen again, for other peoples safety and also for his own dignity.

I agree. Nudity in public places is unacceptable, especially in front of young girls, and especially if he lunges at the girls. He may not be as innocent as some of you seem to think.
Girls should never be taught to be kind and understanding about this kind of thing. It's the boy who has to be taught to behave himself.

Unbelievable.

You have no clue as to whether this boy is a threat. Unnecessary drama? Do get a grip, even I as an adult woman, would be disturbed by this.

Police and social services @Meanswell .

What do you call it when someone is sexually assaulted by a person with a learning disability then? Acceptable collateral damage in the name of ‘compassion’? OP’s responsibility is to her daughter, and her daughter’s safety.

Compassion for the mother does not mean she has to accept her daughter being put at risk. And yes, autism or not, his behaviour absolutely demonstrates that he poses a risk.

Haven't read all the posts; however DH's neighbour's son across the street used to w&nk publicly and went on to offend. Contact the police and get the necessary services involved - you might be preventing a crime in the future!

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@Crazyducklady

There may well not be malice involved - though one of us has that information.

What may be more likely is a physically grown teenager, with sexual urges which he does not understand, in a position which makes him both threatening and extremely vulnerable.

If this is indeed the first time he has been in this position, it's a wake-up call for everyone who has his welfare at heart.

Sowm intervention is clearly needed, rather than waiting for it to become a 'regular occurrence' with risks of further distress to OP's daughter and potentially significant harm to the young man himself.

“I doubt there was any malice invokved”

You have no idea as to his intentions. That said, you don’t need malicious intent in order to severely harm someone. Either way, it’s alarming behaviour that requires early intervention in order to prevent escalation, as well as for his own safety. If he does it again he could end up seriously hurt himself if someone attacks him as a result.

If they pose a danger to themselves or those around them, then they should be prevented from doing so. That a perpetrator of an attack has a learning disability does not mean it’s any less devastating for the victim, or that people should accept being victimized.

Your brother’s nudity may not have been sexual, but that isn’t the case for all. There is more than one poster on this thread that has reported being sexually assaulted by someone with learning disabilities, including one assaulted by her assaulted by her autistic brother. Having autism does not mean someone lacks sexual feelings, or that they’re incapable of acting upon them.

The mother’s stress is frankly irrelevant. It in no way justifies brushing this incident under the carpet, for the sake of her son and those around him.

It doesn’t matter what disability he has that is no excuse for being outside naked. If his mother is over protective and you think she would get her back up if you went around to speak to her I would ring social services

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@whumpthereitis agree totally that self defence classes are not the answer here. OP's daughter did exactly the right thing in getting out of the way of someone larger who could have caused her harm.
Messing about with teaching her how to injure him, or threatening consequences if he dies touch her, simply keeps her in harm's way.