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School coming to home to view sick child - Normal?

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CandlelightGlow · 16/03/2023 10:59

I'm feeling really sensitive right now due to work stress so please be kind.

My 5 year old is off with chicken pox right now. He got the spots on Sunday, he's been quite poorly with it Monday - Tuesday, very sleepy, then very uncomfortable Weds waiting for the scabs to form. He's just started to feel better today but the school have an INSET day tomorrow anyway.

We just had a knock at the door, and it was a teacher from DS's school! He was very reluctant to come downstairs because he's only in his pants and thought the teacher was there to take him to school. She was very nice and said it's sad that they have to do this in this day and age but it's completely normal and they do it for everyone who's been off this length of time.

He's been off for 4 days? His older sister is at school so we've still done the school run every day. To be fair as it's an inset day tomorrow it will be over a week by the time he goes back on Monday. But I've never had a teacher come unannounced to our house to check on our child. Can someone reassure me it is actually normal and they don't think something bad of us! My poor boy is just ill. I've called him in and updated, updated again this morning saying he would be back on Monday!

OP posts:
Parkingt111 · 16/03/2023 13:37

Hi I have to read the full thread but ay my children's school they have a policy that on day four of an absence the education welfare teacher pays a visit. She is quite friendly and only there for a few minutes

Sallydimebar · 16/03/2023 13:37

“Pupils being off on a Friday is very much a thing now”

Yes I read that with more parents working from home this was now becoming a thing .

Dixiechickonhols · 16/03/2023 13:37

It’s obviously a well resourced primary school if they can pay a teacher to do 4 home visits and their travel expenses. Op spoke to the teacher when she called so not a class based teacher.

Stemgenius · 16/03/2023 13:36

Haven't teachers got enough to do?

Well you'd think. That's what the unions keep banging on about :/

Anonhopingforbaby · 16/03/2023 13:36

toomuchlaundry · 16/03/2023 13:33

Pupils being off on a Friday is very much a thing now

It's a Thursday.

And so what if their parents have taken them off on a long weekend? They're not the school's property.

Anonhopingforbaby · 16/03/2023 13:35

Your poor son, I'm sorry this happened to you.

Sounds like a nosey teacher, and a complaint should be made ASAP

MajorCarolDanvers · 16/03/2023 13:34

I have never heard of this.

I would not have asked my sick child to come to the door.

Haven't teachers got enough to do?

toomuchlaundry · 16/03/2023 13:33

Pupils being off on a Friday is very much a thing now

Laauren · 16/03/2023 13:32

Just to add to this, (I've not read all replies but have seen school rang to explain) schools are currently under increasing government pressure about attendance. Lots of schools are having to make their attendance policies more firm and show that they are taking action.
The government seem to think this is needed after covid and the work from home culture. Unfortunately schools are having to monitor this without extra resources.

Quercus30 · 16/03/2023 13:31

Apologies. The " yes" was in response to someone asking if teachers were qualified in safeguarding.

Sallydimebar · 16/03/2023 13:30

Schools/college have attendance officers . Ours manage the phone line in mornings and presumably deal with lateness and anything else attendance related .
Different in primary a friend does it but moves around 4 schools , she doesn’t teach and is in contact with social services, police ect .

TwoHedgehogs · 16/03/2023 13:29

TuesdayJulyNever · 16/03/2023 13:11

I mean this very gently, but you sound very stressed about this and I’m wondering if you’re ok. I know you have job stress going on as well but maybe there’s a little bit of anxiety at play too?

There’s nothing in your circumstances that should be a red flag, and I think a typical reaction would be to wonder if it’s a school policy/ an incident with another family that has put them on high alert. It’s a little bit unusual to be so focused on yourself in this way, and questioning what it is about you personally.

I get that your first question was to gauge if it’s normal. But that still shouldn’t necessarily lead you to assume that it’s about you personally.

The reason I’m picking up on this is that it’s similar to the way my thoughts run when I’m sliding into anxiety

Anxiety? She posted that she wasn't happy school called round out the blue to inspect her child who is off with chicken pox. If you read the majority of replied most people would not be pleased having to get a child up who is ill to "show" to the teacher. What has anxiety got to do with anything? I'm not anxious but would wonder why on earth school won't accept my explanation given when I phoned, it's like they don't believe you, this would get anyone's backs up.

Singularity82 · 16/03/2023 13:28

I’m horrified that this is school policy. Overstepping, intrusive and not necessary. As if teachers have time for this shit?!

amberedover · 16/03/2023 13:28

The school may well have had another incident and so are particularly hot on this

but why not say something then when asking to see the child then ? Details of incident ,names don't have to be given .

starfishmummy · 16/03/2023 13:26

ChocSaltyBalls · 16/03/2023 12:10

Loving all the “complain” posts. About what? That they are trying to safeguard and protect children?

strikes me schools can’t win, whatever they do someone will think it’s wrong and moan about it.

So you would be happy about a complete stranger turning up at your door, with no prior notice, demanding to see your sick child?

That's not safe either!!

amberedover · 16/03/2023 13:26

there might be a reason why the school has this policy that none of us know about.
What would the reason be for not telling the parents at the school of the policy ?

Calmdown14 · 16/03/2023 13:25

Much as it may feel like it, this isn't a judgement on you.
The school may well have had another incident and so are particularly hot on this.

You could try looking at it the other way. While it's annoying, it's two minutes out of your day. If they do these checks for others it could stop a child being abused
Absence to allow bruises and other injuries to heal is unfortunately common.

I'd wonder if there is a reason the school are very on this at the moment (unconnected to you)

toomuchlaundry · 16/03/2023 13:24

When I was a school governor I remember on school visits seeing staff going out soon after registers had been collated to check on pupils who hadn't arrived in school. See it as a positive that school are on it when it comes to safeguarding.

There was a girl in DS's Primary school who was forever being late in school, because her DM was in a drugged stupor and didn't get up in time to walk her to school An arrangement was then put in place that another specified parent would collect her on their way to school. Meant she got there in time and school didn't have to chase and invariably have to go and get her

Dixiechickonhols · 16/03/2023 13:23

Sorry quoted wrong post

Dixiechickonhols · 16/03/2023 13:23

Maray1967 · 16/03/2023 12:53

I’ve never heard of a teacher calling at the home BUT our school makes it clear that absences have to be reported every single day so I would think that staff have called because you haven’t phoned in more than one day. But I would ring school and ask why.

In a morning when you are making snap decision whether child ok to stay home alone, perhaps putting puked on sheets in washing machine, ringing grandma to see if she can come over later and stressing about the essential work meeting remembering a policy that was in bumpf in yr 7 and telling child wouldn’t be forefront of my mind. I personally wouldn’t want them
opening door to someone they didn’t know.

Quercus30 · 16/03/2023 13:22

Yes

amberedover · 16/03/2023 13:21

they are fully in their right to make unannounced visits . I suppose there's no law preventing school staff from knocking at doors whenever they want to .But is there a law saying you've got to answer the door ?

What strikes me though ,as others have said - if you're laying eyes on a child to determine whether they are off school because they are genuinely sick - how will you know if there are no physical signs like a rash/plaster cast ?
If you're doing it because of other (safeguarding ? )issues ,what will confirming that a child is physically present tell you ?

Echinops · 16/03/2023 13:19

We had this years ago, also when my son was 5 with chicken pox, they came with a present and some worksheets. I did wonder if it was to check we weren't on holiday as it was the week before the easter break.

cymylog · 16/03/2023 13:19

If you have nothing to hide why worry. But if the school being so observant saves one child from an abusive or neglectful homelife I don't see what the issue is.

I witnessed a parent who'd dropped an older child off and was trying to hand a GP letter for younger child in being argued with by school staff that the child was well enough to be in school till parents started ringing GP.

I've known parents of children with both rare and not rare long term conditions have school get difficult when under attendance pressure with illnesses which affect them more frequently and worse and even hospital or therapy appointments.

I'd assume most people doing home would be sensible but with children who perhaps don't look ill and have a more hidden condition I'd worry it would make it even harder for those parents.

Chias · 16/03/2023 13:18

Persistent lateness can be an indicator of a safeguarding issue and one of the things schools are told to look out for. A member of staff, at my previous school, did have to visit homes of pupils who had poor attendance and punctuality stats.