To post lingerie shots on my social media..

Let’s engage respectfully. Honestly we women do ourselves no favours arguing and fighting instead of focusing on where the problem lies. This is what I mean, though - look for what actually happens, not the flowery words people use to describe what the world should be like and how it should work. It doesn’t work that way. It never will.

‘Misuse of social media’. What a dismissive term, tbh. That’s not what their offence is/was!

@VioletaDelValle You don't sound it I'm afraid. You're not open minded enough to engage with with what other people are saying or consider other viewpoints.

Nice attempt at gaslighting, unlike you I’ve been following and posting in the thread since the beginning (I’m a photographer shooting models and this subject matter is of interest to me) engaging with people who share my view points and those who don’t. I believe it’s an interesting debate where the different opinions gets shared and discussed. We’re both entitled to expressing our different opinions.

Not much we can do, @HaroldsHoodie
However, I'll never forget the parents' reaction to their yr9 daughter posting such images unbeknownst to them. Shock doesn't describe it.

Oh well I’m glad it’s dealt with robustly at your school! However the damage to the young girls is already done.

Forwarded the images on - sorry.

They get suspended for "misuse of social media", but by then they'll have forwarded the images in

I think whoever described the views here as 'outdated' have hit the nail on the head

Do you think employers who screen social media for behaviour they consider inappropriate or going against the organisation's core values are outdated?

But before I go I just want to say @Junglejane8 i hope you see the comment I wrote about it being a very positive thing for you that the photos helped you!

That's why it's so important for girls to develop robust self esteem, not to be duped into sending these images through a mistaken sense of validation and normality.

Nobody here gives a shit, you ASKED for opinions so you were given them.

Very out of order comparing people telling you they think it’s a bad idea to people saying girls are “asking for it” based on their outfits when sexually assaulted. It’s not a generational thing either, I’m the same age group as you and think you will be making yourself look a tit. I was raped on a night out, I’ve had the disgusting comments about how I chose to dress levelled at me and it is in no way anything comparable to your situation or what has been said to you here. I just thought you sounded a bit thick up until that comment then you became actively offensive.

Why are you even returning to list reasons why you are justified to post them? Crack on thinking you’re empowered, stick on a bit of Cardi B whilst you upload and twerk around your living room basking in the knowledge that you are a bastion of feminism and all the posters on here are stuffy pearly clutchers and oh so jealous of your bravery and freedom.

And no, the boy won’t be kicked out (correct me if I’m wrong @Maireas!). It happens a lot, it’s not an isolated incident.

Sadly it’s what happens when boys are pornsick from a very young age, and everyone everywhere is told that Sex work is work and OnlyFans is empowering. Etc etc. But it honestly makes me very sad and I can only talk about it for a little while before I need to get away and ground myself! So I’ll take myself off to S&B for a bit and detox!

I really don't think it's that much of a big deal but then I'm quite open minded and carefree but realise not everybody is.

You don't sound it I'm afraid. You're not open minded enough to engage with with what other people are saying or consider other viewpoints.

I've done photo shoots and engaged in activities which I've found incredibly liberating and empowering but which would be considered very risqué by most people. I've never felt the need to post the details publicly as I'm self aware enough to understand the implications of doing that. That doesn't mean I'm not open minded or carefree.

@Maireas This is not uncommon. Teen boys asking female peers for sexualised images.
Why do these teen boys think it's acceptable or even normal?

That’s pretty shocking thing to hear. I have no kids myself nor I work with them (I’m a photographer) so I have little clue what kids are up to. I hope the boy got kicked out from school, what a little psycho.

You're right, @HaroldsHoodie
Teenage girls being pressured to send these images is too common. We've found that the boys use language like "it's only your underwear" or "I'd see more on the beach" etc.
They are always told that they're uptight if they refuse.

@Maireas Mary Whitehouse wasn’t entirely wrong, was she. Sobering. But that’s a discussion for another day!

Back to tiaras and Coronation prep, methinks!

I don’t think many young ‘empowered’ women are aware of how truly bad it’s got to. And how much children and teenagers (of both sexes, but especially girls) are suffering and will continue to suffer. It’s very sad.

X post @Maireas forgot that you’re a teacher!

Never mind work. This happens in school. With girls being pestered for nudes and asked if they’re on OnlyFans.

’Progress’ is the shit isn’t it.

I’m open minded and carefree to an extent. Especially about what people get up to in private. However someone does actually need to ‘think of the children’ to use another oft-used dismissive term. It doesn’t bother me too much, tbh. It’s always been the way!

Ok, @Sandra1984 - to clarify: I'm a teacher in a state secondary school. This is common. I only dealt with this because a yr10 girl in my class was weeping. Why? Not because she'd done it (she'd refused) but because the boy had threatened to harm himself if she didn't, and it was on her conscience.
This is not uncommon. Teen boys asking female peers for sexualised images.
Why do these teen boys think it's acceptable or even normal?

I just don't think 'boudoir' shots ever look good. Ever. They're always done by second rate photographers and there is often an air of awkwardness in the subject.
Celebrities who post lingerie/swimsuit shots tend to be photoshopped within an inch of their lives by high quality professionals
Your average friend doing a burlesque shoot to pad out her portfolio just isn't going to create anything that great.
I'd just keep them for myself

@Maireas Boys pressuring girls for semi naked images, and abusing them as frigid if they don't.

im sorry to hear that, I‘be never had that problem (lucky me) but your boys at work sound like total jerks and they should be called out in their BS and matters taken to HR because that’s a form of sexual harassment.

I think whoever described the views here as 'outdated' have hit the nail on the head.

Personally, I think anyone who posts any pics of themselves or even worse, their kids, are self absorbed and seeking validation. None of it is better or worse than lingerie pics.

You're open minded and carefree?
What are you implying? That those who don't post such images are uptight - what's the phrase - "pearl clutchers"?
You know one of the worst things we're dealing with at work? Boys pressuring girls for semi naked images, and abusing them as frigid if they don't.