To think that INFJ is a made up thing?

I think there’s an impression that it’s been ‘proved unscientific’ in contrast to the big 5 personality traits which are good standard for research. There’s actually a high correlation between the two, so it has validity, and mbti has good test-retest reliability unless you’re borderline on a particular trait. It is just a much more natural and comfortable way of talking about most of the science-stamped big 5 traits. It’s fair enough to not find it useful or interesting, and it isn’t the best choice for (most) research, but it’s completely unlike starsigns, and certainly not total bollocks.

If he’s calling himself an infj, he’s trying to let potential daters know that he’s sensitive, arty, quietish. He’s probably hoping that peoples who don’t want alpha males will be attracted to his profile.
I think, on balance, it would put me off unless we shared a lot in common.

I know what the Barnum effect is but having looked into the information surrounding the INFJ personality it doesn’t strike me as ‘vague’, on the contrary it’s very detailed. I don’t believe in generic groupings such as horoscopes 🙂

Complete and utter wank.

Look up the Barnum Effect.

Myers-Briggs is a load of bollocks. It’s based on Yung’s theory of personality, which is in itself a load of bollocks. It is mystifying how it remains in use in business settings, especially as there are much better, much more powerful and useful, personality tests available. It’s like buying a cart horse when you could buy a Ferrari for the same price. If you want your personality tested properly go to a psychologist, not a ‘business consultant’. A proper psychologist wouldn’t be seen dead using Myers-Briggs, or that colours one, which is basically just Myers-Briggs made even more stupid.

I’m an INFJ and it describes me perfectly, even all the negative things that a previous poster outlined 😂

Absolutely.

I think it's an insightful way to learn about yourself. The process helps you think about your strengths, and how you work best. You can then work on filling your weaknesses. The four letters then remind you what you learned.

It's not a diagnosis, it's not infallible, and it's not the same for life. It's just a tool.

When people tell you what they are, it indicates they very much match that label so is handy. If I wanted a spontaneous, outgoing free spirit, I'd know to avoid a whatever this chap is.

It's come a long way since NS, GSOH, SWF , LA

My brain (not brown) is ready to combust

I think as long as it isn't taken too seriously then it can provide some rough guidance on a person. I wouldn't use it in a work setting though. It's a fast way to find out some basic information about someone's self perception if nothing else.

I'm an INTP.

Probably only if you're at the extremes of them. Most people are a combination of traits and either 'introverted' or 'extroverted' won't describe them adequately.
I'm an introvert, but don't identify with 90% of the stuff about introverts on the internet (much of which actually describes misanthropes).

It's bollocks.

ENFJ - and for me it’s useful to know that - useful tool to aid reflection, I have used the insights to evaluate my own strengths and what I need to be happy - I now have a job which fits might outlook on life and it’s a job I first considered as it was listed on a ‘typical jobs ENFJs do’ list.

(I’ll also accept that it’s a self fulfilling prophecy! )

as an INFJ i'm friendly supportive and a nice person, but i hate crowds and huge gatherings and have to limit my exposure to poeple in groups. I get my energy from inside not from interactions. The myers brigs scores are helpful for team working and for seeing how you appear to others. sniping about them is unhelpful!

It’s just shorthand for describing various personality traits. It does show he thinks about himself and how he is in the world which could either mean he’s a self-obsessed bore, or that he’s making an effort to emotionally intelligent and wants to relate well to people who are different, or to engage in self improvement. Unless it’s all he goes on about I’d not let it influence you too much and judge him on other things.

I love categorising everyone I know into personality systems and using them for my own self development but am aware it’s not everyone’s cup of tea and save it for the friends who enjoy the same kind of chat. I mention it offhand to my partner once a month or so, he thinks it’s bollocks but it doesn’t really come into our conversations or relationship at all, other than I’m probably actually more understanding and emotionally intelligent than I would otherwise be of the differences between us. For me it’s probably a bit of a compensation for not having much of a natural intuitive sense of how other people and the world work, it gives a way to think about things that otherwise are vague and complicated. Might be the same for him?

*also if the general.public still believe it too

I've done the test a few times and each time come up with a slightly different conclusion!
It really depends what mood you're in at the time of the test: how strong, energetic, tired, positive or whatever you happen to be feeling at that point... and these things will vary at different times.

I wouldn't take it too seriously, so yes, I'd think it a bit wanky on any sort of profile.

Not sure but even if it has , if business management ect still believe then it's always worth considering

My now husband and I did it whilst dating and it was an interesting discussion about our differences. We were totally opposite.

I don't think it's anything like astrology as it's just classifying you according to your answers to a questionnaire. Assuming you are honest, it will reflect your personality. It's not saying that everyone born in x month has the same personality.

Wouldn't put me off, most of my best friends are infj or intj.

Hasn't all that stuff been debunked as rubbish

I probably wouldn't write it on my profile, but if someone wrote their Meyers Briggs personality type on their profile, I'd find it helpful in assessing whether I thought we'd get on.

Be wary of the INFJ door-slam. As someone once said, ‘My good opinion once lost, is lost forever’*

*from an INFJ

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I don't understand the disregard for it.

I think it can be useful. I did it on a management course and it was helpful for thinking about how people in your team reacted to meetings and work, and how you could use their preferences to get the best out of them. Like not pushing introverts to have too much external interaction.

I'm an ENFP (or sometimes ENTP) like @FinallyHere , and found I could delegate more detailed work that bores me to the right people who would thrive on it. Your husband's house hunting approach sounds more like mine though!

Not sure about using it in a dating sense, but you could apply the same logic to compatibility. Sometimes the results are a bit weird. My husband insists he's an introvert but our friends all disagree.