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Fed up with partner choosing the gym

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unsurerightno · 09/02/2023 15:46

NC for post. Been with partner 4 years. Love together for two. Trying to get the spare room decorated and furniture built. The last month partner has been to the gym 4/5 times a week and as I now WFH i'm obviously doing a lot more than I used when I was in office. Washing everyday, cleaning, built the wardrobes that arrived, cleared our bedroom out etc. every night I've been having dinner on my own as partner doesn't get back till 7:30 and I can't wait that long. I've asked him to give up golf next weekend to do a tip run and asked him to sort his draws etc out as they're full of crap he doesn't need. We've had a huge argument about this as I'm fed up of almost being second best and waiting around for him to be free.

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redbigbananafeet · 09/02/2023 16:01

MelchiorsMistress · 09/02/2023 15:59

There’s nothing wrong with him going to the gym regularly if you don’t have children at home. Are you sure you haven’t become too reliant on him for company now you’re wfh?

I don't think it's 'reliant' to expect to see you partner before 7.30pm and share the odd evening meal together.

ShirleyPhallus · 09/02/2023 16:01

Why don’t you use the time from when you finishing working until 7.30 for yourself then do all the house admin together?

MaverickGooseGoose · 09/02/2023 15:59

He won't change.

Although 730 isn't late to be having dinner. I assume he's working too?

Why couldn't he help build wardrobes after the gym?

MelchiorsMistress · 09/02/2023 15:59

There’s nothing wrong with him going to the gym regularly if you don’t have children at home. Are you sure you haven’t become too reliant on him for company now you’re wfh?

whitebreadjamsandwich · 09/02/2023 15:57

Why the sudden interest in the gym every night of the week.....?

Aquamarine1029 · 09/02/2023 15:53

Forewarned is fair warned. This is who he is, and this is what your future will be. He doesn't prioritise you and never will. FFS, don't have a baby with this man, and I hope you have a very long think about this relationship and whether this is what you want to settle for.