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Residential school

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starsparkle08 · 08/02/2023 19:15

Hi my sons 11.5 years old . Severe adhd with autism and tic disorder accompanied by very very challenging behaviours. These include threatening me with a knife and kitchen scissors . He’s also sexually inappropriate. Furthermore we have biting , pulling hair , pinching , kicking , hitting etc . I’ve just agreed for social worker to put his assessment out to the placement team for residential . It’s breaking my heart but he needs more than I can give as a single parent . He’s 2:1 in school , and out in the community with carers . Yet with me it’s just me . Am I bad have I made the wrong choice . He’s got an appointment with psychiatrist tomorrow , well I have via teams . She’s never met him , fortunately school are attending as he’s the same there behaviourally . I feel like I’m betraying my son but I can’t live with the behaviours 24/7 anymore

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nilsmousehammer · 08/02/2023 19:22

I'm so sorry you're going through this OP, how horrible for you.

Haven't been in this awful situation myself, but had a friend go through it, and while the guilt for her was awful, her son was happier and more settled in a 24/7 structured routine, he was safe, the other children in the family were safe, and she was able to enjoy contact with him rather than living in that endless stress and worry. Flowers