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To want schools to drop attendance incentives?

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Sophie632 · 01/02/2023 17:53

So my son has a medical condition and has to attend hospitals appointments - sometimes not locally. Our school give out certificates for 100% attendance and he rarely gets these. There is now talk of starting a scheme where the whole class is rewarded each day everyone is in. I don’t think this is fair to children who have disabilities or medical conditions that may make them need to miss school, totally outside of their control. Also - should we really reward children purely because they don’t catch any nasty bugs? Hardly seems fair!

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Willyoujustbequiet · 07/02/2023 08:04

Yanbu

I would question the intelligence of any teacher who thought they were a good idea.

I'm sure they would never survive a legal challenge if any parent took it that far. It breaches equalities legislation and is highly discriminatory.

Can you imagine an award only white children could win?

saraclara · 07/02/2023 07:47

Hibernatalie · 01/02/2023 20:39

It isn't school policy, its government policy.

It's not government policy to initiate whole class rewards that make an individual child a target for the rest of his classmates when his hospital appointment ruins the chance of his class getting the reward.

I'm a teacher, and had my school implemented such a reward system, I'd have fought it tooth and nail.

Yes, OFSTED is to blame for the pressure they put on schools re attendance, but for the school to then put that pressure onto a child who has no control over his hospital appointments is really shitty.

Plant2628 · 07/02/2023 07:25

It's not the school. It is those hounding and judging the poor leadership team at schools over the attendance levels. Makes it so hard for some children.

Nimbostratus100 · 07/02/2023 07:00

its a rubbish system, but the school cant do anything about it. Blame ofsted and contact your MP.

I had an outbreak of TB in my class once purely because of stupid attendance incentives, and the first case being a deeply conscientious student who would always try and do the right thing. In this case what they perceived as being "the right thing" left several others dangerously ill, one permanently disabled, and one probably infertile

ohfook · 07/02/2023 06:53

And for those saying what do we show bloody ofsted if we scrap attendance awards.

Well I don't believe ofsted are fit for purpose anyway but I would suggest showing them that you are working with those with medical needs to make sure they don't miss out on the curriculum and working with the families of those who are absent for other reasons to try to improve their situation should be sufficient.

ohfook · 07/02/2023 06:50

Yes, as a teacher, I can't stand them and nor can any of the people I work with. I frequently tell parents dragging their ill 5 year olds in to school because they 'got a letter' to ignore it because all it does is cause more germs to be spread.

I genuinely thought covid would mark the end of this culture (in work and school) of dragging yourself in unless you were at death's door - because it's common sense to rest so you can recuperate quicker and prevent the spread of illness - but sadly I was wrong.

I once worked with a woman who came into work with chicken pox ffs. Acting like she deserved a medal for coming in when she was so unwell and couldn't understood why it was just selfish and stupid. I was more tactful when speaking to her but that was what I thought.

LlynTegid · 07/02/2023 06:46

Agree such incentives should be scrapped. Disabilities the main reason, but also the absences that in my mind are worse are those where someone has more time away than really needed, or where they are self-inflicted.

Hellothere54 · 07/02/2023 06:42

Since we joined a MAT the pressure on children to be in school - even when they are clearly ill - has risen massively and I hate it! As a teacher, I hate having to hand out the letters to parents who I KNOW are already doing their best and can do nothing about their child getting ill or the child is off due to the fact the parent is struggling. All it does is add unnecessary pressure on a family. OFSTED need to be removed and academies need to realise we are dealing with children, not robots, as they are behind so much extra stress on teachers and families that is not needed!

Strictly1 · 07/02/2023 06:32

PuttingDownRoots · 01/02/2023 18:06

I was hoping this would die a death in Covid when people learnt something about disease control...
100% attendance is mainly luck. Most of childhood illnesses ate caught at school (then given to parents!)

Long term conditions can't be helped either.

Unfortunately many have gone too far now and children are kept off for random days when they don’t feel quite right. I’ve never known such awful attendance with many now missing a day a fortnight.
I hate 100% attendance awards etc for the reasons others have given but there is a problem that needs to be tackled. No child can help being but a lot of the absences aren’t due to illness, but tired or not wanting to come in. Even from parents I consider sensible. I think working from home has made it em easier to keep them home and it’s felt acceptable to not go in now for the odd day. The odd days add up.
Schools are getting constant pressure from those above.
We can’t win - we get grief from all sides and it’s draining.

endlesscraziness · 07/02/2023 06:19

They need to focus on the kids whose parents can't be bothered to send their kids to school Wed-Fri

Last term my daughter was quite upset about it because she had been really ill, but did laugh when one name was called out in assembly for his award and his TA shouted back that he wasn't there, he was on holiday 😬

Aishah231 · 07/02/2023 06:14

Clearly as your child is seriously ill needing hospital appointments you could ask that they are not included in the whole class attendance challenge. However good health is not as random as some people think (eat healthily and exercise and most illnesses will not affect you). Many children and parents take time off far too easily imagining they are much more ill and unfortunate than everyone else.

Jennybeans401 · 07/02/2023 04:39

Absolutely agree. My middle dd is autistic and struggles with attendance. Youngest dd has been hit with every virus going. Our school has a system whereby the classes are rewarded for the highest attendance every week. My dd said her classmates get annoyed with the children who are off because they do t get their reward.

It's an awful system!

HollaHolla · 02/02/2023 20:14

winniesanderson · 01/02/2023 18:00

I'm with you. They are non inclusive and essentially punish children in a round about way for things which are out of their control. The primary school mine attend used to go all out with a yearly celebration including bouncy castles followed by dominoes pizzas. While all the other children who'd been unfortunate enough to be ill or have appointments had to look on. Schools should work with individual families where needed.

I’m utterly horrified by this. So, bad enough if you’ve been poorly, or have a disability - but you’ve to watch all your mates have fun without you. For kids (or anyone) with disabilities, there’s enough other times in life you have to look on whilst your friends have fun you’re unable to, without it being a ‘reward’.

MotherandVolvoOwner · 02/02/2023 20:10

Exactly @Pilgit - DSCs mum always sends them in even when they are clearly contagious just because she sees it as a badge of honour for them to get 100% attendance every term. Interestingly my children (who miss a lot due to chronic illness) are both far more likely to read and learn in their own time and get much better marks for behaviour and attitude (as well as level pegging academically)

Pilgit · 02/02/2023 17:31

We need to change what it is that they're measuring. The school is judged for attendance and it isn't fair on the school or children involved to be penalised where the child has a known health condition. Not entirely sure how it would be structured but when these children are absent due to an appointment etc it shouldn't count as absent.

In general though i also think these are stupid and just encourage children in when ill and then infect others.

OopsAnotherOne · 02/02/2023 17:27

As someone who has a couple of chronic health conditions which were diagnosed as a child, I inevitably had more days off school than my friends as I had regular hospital appointments etc. I never got one of those "Gold Standard" awards they gave out at the end of every term for full attendance and that was disheartening enough as a little kid, but there were lots of us who didn't get the gold standard award so it wasn't so rough.

Singling a child out as the reason the class doesn't get awarded is a really good way to alienate a child, leading to bullying. Especially if it's the same child multiple times, due to health conditions or other illnesses which are completely unavoidable.

Although I understand why schools emphasise the need for high attendance, sometimes being absent cannot be avoided and usually, if the child has health conditions and is in and out of hospital (as I was) they already find they stand out amongst their peers somewhat. To now make the whole class miss out on something because one child was absent is abhorrent and will not improve the attendance in the way they're hoping.

PennyRa · 02/02/2023 17:24

Remind them it's illegal to discriminate due to disability

2bazookas · 02/02/2023 17:21

You could suggest to the school that children like yours should be awarded a credit for hospital appts.

VanillaLife · 02/02/2023 17:11

I completely agree with you.
It’s very unfair for children who are susceptible to illnesses.
I agree with a pp who said they should do the same thing for teachers - in a printed newsletter!
It seems there are 1 rule for the teachers and 1 for the children across the board, they don’t lead by example at all.
And don’t even get me started on them shutting for strikes and snow days, when as parents we can’t easily take our child out for a short holiday, and if they have a medical appointment during the school day you have to get them back to school at break neck speed.

whattodo1975 · 02/02/2023 16:52

I never understand why people kick off about school awards for attendance, lets be honest 90% of adult life you can get through just by making sure you turn up.

Schools give out awards for loads of things, if there is one thing your kids doesn't get, then is it the end of the world ?

Abouttimemum · 02/02/2023 16:50

Yeah I agree. Can’t help being ill.

SweetSakura · 02/02/2023 16:49

jcyclops · 02/02/2023 16:48

In those schools that have pupil attendance awards, perhaps they should also award teachers for 100% attendance. ;)

Agreed

jcyclops · 02/02/2023 16:48

In those schools that have pupil attendance awards, perhaps they should also award teachers for 100% attendance. ;)

neverbeenskiing · 02/02/2023 14:19

I work in a school, so I see evidence of how hugely detrimental poor attendance can be to a students learning, attainment and overall wellbeing. I also think awards for 100% attendance are ridiculous, offensive and discriminatory to those with SEND and don't actually do anything to remove the barriers to regular attendance some students face.

I disagree with all those saying "blame the government and ofsted". I am HUGELY critical of both this government and Ofsted for many, many reasons but they are not forcing schools to give out these awards. There are plenty of other, more creative ways to improve attendance in schools but these take time and effort. It's too easy to hand out a certificate ("congratulations on being healthy or having parents who prioritise education"!) to tick a box with something like this than put proper intervention and targeted support in place for kids whose attendance is a concern. And yes, all schools are struggling with time, money, staff I'm very aware, but that's not an excuse for perpetuating ableist nonsense.

Snugglemonkey · 02/02/2023 13:44

DonnaBanana · 02/02/2023 10:55

A child is already unfortunate to be saddled with lazy parents though, why should they be punished for that?

Bear in mind we're talking about merely not getting a 100% achievement certificate here, it's a "punishment" in name only and not up there with getting a detention or the cane.

The nature of the punishment is irrelevant, there should not be one at all because the child has not done anything wrong!