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10 YEAR PARKING DISPUTE WITH NEIGHBOUR.

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eastafricanomad · 01/02/2023 17:23

Hi all,

I need some serious advice. I'm probably writing this in the heat of the moment so please ignore any theatrics. Let me break it down...

We've lived in this property for about 17 years. Our charming neighbour moved in on our tenth year. She is our attached neighbour on the right hand side. We all have allocated parking - what is the problem you ask?

See the thing is, we live in a cul-de-sac. Every house has an allocated parking spot and we have several visitor spots (families with multiple cars use these visitor spots as permanent parking spots and it doesn't appear to be an issue with anyone including me). My neighbour, has an allocated parking spot at the back of her house, but due to her mobility issues - she parks in front of her house on a public highway - again, no issues with this.

There is still space for another vehicle to be able to park directly parallel to her with no issues of blocking her car or her house. Yet she has proceeded to block off this empty potential parking space because she doesn't want anyone 'parking in front of her house' - bear in mind, this is a public highway. No one can reserve rights to a public highway.

Living in a cul-de-sac, naturally parking is tight despite the allocated spots we have. Households do sometimes have more than one vehicle and everyone else on the street is incredibly understanding.

However, this woman, has proceeded to put CONES! In an empty slot on the public highway, not reserving it for any reason as she has one car. No daily visitors - her sole reason is 'I don't want anyone parking in front of my house' (???) ITS A PUBLIC HIGHwaaaaay. Anyway.

Now that we are adding a vehicle to our household, this has only really started to irritate me now. We've ignored her a long time, DESPITE her harassing anyone that parks there. She has harassed my family, construction workers, delivery drivers - you name it! I'm at my wits ends. The straw that broke the camels back was this week, when we had a lovely gentleman come out from Hillary's to do measurements for my blinds. She left a note on his car and yelled at him when he left my property.

I've spoken to the local council, they have confirmed - no one can reserve rights to a public highway. I've spoken to the police, they have confirmed - this is illegal. I've sought legal advice, again - confirmed my perspective.

What on earth do I do with these cones? We work 7 days a week in my household, and coming home after a long shift, moving cones to park my car is proving tiresome! It's not even the inconvenience, its the AUDACITY!

Am I being unreasonable? What would you suggest? What would you do with these cones? I want to put them in my boot and dump them 500 miles from my house. Any advice on this issue would be helpful.

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LoisLane66 · 02/02/2023 19:07

I'd be asking from where she obtained the cones. They're not lightweight. She can't report them as being stolen if you were to remove them some distance away, unless she wants a visit from the council to ask where they came from.
I'd contact the council (with a photo of cones in situ plus her car) to ask if they will send her a formal letter outlining the facts about parking on a public highway and coning off putative parking areas. Also ask the police if they would, on their rounds, 🙄😂 pop in and tell her it's not allowed. Good luck.
BTW, I've not read any replies so it might be resolved by now, if so...great.

Rosscameasdoody · 02/02/2023 19:06

pigwood · 01/02/2023 19:12

Well it sounds like she is committing benefit fraud for starters - To qualify for a Motability vehicle you are supposed to be severely disabled ( on higher rate mobility ) We have one as our daughter is permanently wheelchair bound so has one in her own name which we drive her about in. Even those on middle rate mobility are not supposed to be able to walk unaided, and they don't qualify for a vehicle .
Put up cameras, move the cones onto her property, park the vehicle. Grab the popcorn!
Next blinds are great OP 😂

Just because you can’t see a disability or health condition, doesn’t mean it’s not there. The higher rate PIP qualifies you to join motability - to qualify for higher rate you have to be unable stand and walk more than twenty metres, either aided or unaided, and pain and other discomfort are always taken into account. It can also be for a variety of reasons. Incontinence from things like crohns or IBS, or an unstable stoma, as well as mental health conditions can all qualify for PIP mobility component at the higher rate. The middle rate mobility component is for those who can only walk between 20 and 50 metres - either aided or unaided. You can also get PIP mobility awarded for a combination of physical and mental health conditions. Anyone thinking of reporting suspected fraud needs to bear this in mind and also that DWP now prosecute malicious reporting.

talknomore · 02/02/2023 19:04

Every time you move those cones off, stick to them a note "free to a good home".

WombatChocolate · 02/02/2023 19:03

Have you told her (in writing via a note out through her door) what the council has said in response to your queries about her parking?

If not, I’d write it down and list the dates you called, conversations and what council said each time. Finish by saying that they have a record of the issue and you and they will pursue it further if necessary. Say she needs to stop putting cones out. She can park on the public highway, but so can you and that no-one is entitled to park on a highway because it is outside their house.

Finish by saying you hope you do t need to take it further and neighbourly relations can be resumed.

Then, keep a record of every day she continues (she might stop hopefully)
Email rhe council weekly with the list of dates it’s happened and tell them that you’ve passed onto her their comments they’ve made previously about the issue. Each time, ask them what action they will take to help you, given the on-going nature of the problem. If no response after several messages, ask how you can escalate the issue or make a complaint about lack if support.

If you are serious about this, you’re in the for the long haul. You will need to be persistent with the council and you will have to communicate with her. Bullies rely on the fact you won’t want to have a confrontation or won’t be bothered to persist with dealing with the council. It’s up to you if you are willing to do these things.

linsey2581 · 02/02/2023 19:03

@eastafricanomad You can have a disabled parking space on a public road. I got one outside my house as I could never get a parking space (my son is disabled and we have a motability car). It really pissed of the neighbours .

Pssspsss · 02/02/2023 18:59

eastafricanomad · 01/02/2023 20:31

@Puckthemagicdragon OK, after popular demand. Here is my diagram!

This is going in classics now surely

ChrisPPancake · 02/02/2023 18:59

I'd, totally accidentally like, park on the cones.

Then I'd pick one up and cradling it like an injured animal I'd go and knock on her door. Be all upset and tearful and apologise for hurting the poor thing. Tell her she needs to bring the rest of them in before they get hurt.

LoisLane66 · 02/02/2023 18:55

On the right-hand side depends whether you are inside the house or outside it, looking in.

Topi226 · 02/02/2023 18:54

I would stack the cones in my boot In view, if she calls the police for theft she will also tell on herself and be told she can't do it.
I'd make sure she could see them in the car. I'm that level of petty

ewright86 · 02/02/2023 18:53

I would steal the cones or run over them! Lol
she won’t keep buying coned forever.

Justmeandme19 · 02/02/2023 18:47

So the cones that she's dumped on public highway have a council sign on them? I would be reporting her for impersonating a council worker!
I would also park in the place she normally parks in. It would give me great satisfaction esp as she now cant park in her own parking space

catzrulz · 02/02/2023 18:47

VegetablesFightingToReclaimTheAubergieneEmoji · 01/02/2023 18:27

LOVE THIS

No, no, no. Kidnap (conenap?) the cones then get friends to send postcards from the cones from all over the country.

"Having a great time wish you were here."

I'm sure that would cheer her up.

Rosscameasdoody · 02/02/2023 18:45

Brotherlove · 01/02/2023 18:41

You cannot get a disabled parking bay if you have a driveway or an allocated parking place.
(Why would need a space when you already have an allocated space is the rule in my council)

I said this from experience upthread somewhere and it was disputed, so glad to have some confirmation. The council will not mark out a disabled bay on a public highway if the disabled person has access to parking somewhere else - allocated space, own driveway. Even if they do mark out a space, it wouldn’t be for the neighbours’ exclusive use anyone with a blue badge could park in it.

momtoboys · 02/02/2023 18:41

BasilParsley · 01/02/2023 17:55

Why has no-one demanded a diagram which is usually compulsory when it comes to parking posts? I need one in order to form a considered and balanced view ;)

I was thinking the same thing! 😂

Rosscameasdoody · 02/02/2023 18:36

BloomingXmas · 01/02/2023 19:26

Disabled parking bays can be put on public highways, we have some here.

Remove the cones when you need the space, keep the cones!

You can’t put cones in a disabled bay on a public highway. Even if the council mark out a bay for the OP’s neighbour, anyone with a disabled badge can park in it - it won’ be exclusively for her own use.

fetchacloth · 02/02/2023 18:26

GodisaBC · 01/02/2023 17:33

Throw the cones in her garden every time. Do not enable her behaviour.

Agreed - I would do the same and sod the consequences.😡

Sennelier1 · 02/02/2023 18:25

If possible drive over the cones/flatten them. If not possible then take the cones and stash them somewhere. I wouldn't throw them out as then the neighbour might accuse you of theft. The point is you maybe could force her to buy new cones several times a week or so, and maybe that will make her stop. Or make her call the police who will make her stop.

Idtotallybangdreamoftheendlessnotgonnalie · 02/02/2023 18:23

I'd be fucking about in the middle of the night putting cones in the tree, on her roof, on her car, on the road opposite.

But then I'm a petty bitch.

Actually I'd probably just run them over and pretend I didn't see them. They're probably under the value for small claims court.

Wetblanket78 · 02/02/2023 18:19

Reminds me of Nellie Boswell in Bread. But at least she was reserving parking spots for her adult kid's.😂😂😂

Rosscameasdoody · 02/02/2023 18:12

eastafricanomad · 01/02/2023 18:26

@losingit31 Don't even get me started! I'm convinced this woman is a fraud. She even has a Motability vehicle. I just need to sit up cameras to show she does this... I truly couldn't care less what she is being fraudulently about or the allowance she claims, but she has woken up the sleeping bear.

Problem is a lot of ‘hidden’ disabilities now qualify for motability, as do MH conditions. Without being horrible, I think that’s where your problem lies by the sound of her behaviour.

CrescentMoons · 02/02/2023 18:11

I have government contacts and am resident in Bristol - do you want me to pop around? Cup of tea would be nice and of course some of my friends can collect your cones?

Wetblanket78 · 02/02/2023 18:09

How petty I don't drive myself but I couldn't give a crap who park's outside our house. As long as they're not parking in front of the dropped Kirby on the corner.

BitOutOfPractice · 02/02/2023 18:07

WotsitsMadeIn1927 · 02/02/2023 17:39

Keep hiding the cones and ignore her. Tell anyone who visits you to also ignore her. She will soon get bored.

There was no need to even RTFT, or even the OP's posts. Just the title would have told you that she's still not bored after ten years!

Everyonehasavoice · 02/02/2023 18:06

SerialFaffer · 02/02/2023 06:48

I can’t imagine that this hasn’t been said already, but don’t permanently remove the cones (because she could likely argue theft), just walk them round to the back of her house and put them in her space where she doesn’t park - petty to an extent, but she certainly couldn’t report it to anyone.

Technically the cones are on a public highway
Obstructing
Not on her property
So technically only highways or the police can put out cones
Id drop them off with the police

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 02/02/2023 18:04

Can you take the cones to your local council office?

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