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Tonsillectomy recovery

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Sarahcoggles · 14/01/2023 09:44

I posted in Health but posting here for traffic - sorry.

DS is 17 and due to do his A levels this summer. He's really struggling with his throat and has been told he needs his tonsils out. Waiting list on NHS is well over a year so with family help we're paying privately, so can basically choose when to have the operation.

He has mocks in February and the real thing starting mid May.

I know the official line is that it takes 2 weeks to recover, but I'd be interested in hearing people's actual experiences of it. We're trying to work out which 2-week block would be the least disruptive in terms of his education. We considered the Easter holidays but thought that might be a bit close to the exams.

Any thoughts?

Thank you

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SnarkyBag · 14/01/2023 10:01

If he can get in and have it done February half term then I would say go for it sooner rather than later. If he frequently gets tonsillitis you don’t want him to be ill in the run up to exams

PammyShipman · 14/01/2023 10:01

I had mine out at 17. By the end of the first week I felt like I was nearly healed, then week two hit and I felt far worse than I had in week 1 for a few days.

The pain was horrible. I've had other surgeries since and that was the worst in terms of pain during recovery.
After 2 weeks I was fine though.

SaturdayGiraffe · 14/01/2023 10:00

Had mine out as an adult as they were chronically infected and it flattened me. I couldn’t move my head 1mm or swallow for days without excruciating pain. As pp 3 types of pain killer didn’t touch it.
I lost 6kg.
But he’s young and will probably have a far easier time. I say go for Easter.

Weelegs29 · 14/01/2023 10:00

I had mine out when I was 21 after years of recurring bouts of severe tonsillitis. I booked 2 weeks off work and had to take another off as I was still physically too weak due to working in a shop at the time so on my feet all day, but i would say I was over the worst of it by the time the two weeks was up. Even though the recovery pain was horrendous it was still the best thing I ever did and I'd do it again tomorrow if I had to (mostly for the post surgery weightloss to be honest 😂)

SnarkyBag · 14/01/2023 09:59

I had mine out in my 30’s. It is pretty unpleasant recovery wise and he should expect to not be up to anything in the first week.

I felt much better by day 10 but because I did I went out and about had my first proper coffee and promptly had a massive bleed in Costa coffee and ended up back in hospital. Day 10 is around the time the scabs start to come away so although the pain is much better there’s still risk of infection and bleeding.

Tonsiltrouble · 14/01/2023 09:57

My 6yo had his out a few weeks ago. I would say recovery was more like a month for him, although obviously a progressive thing, and the first 10 days were the most horrific part (pain, bleeding). He had 2 weeks off school plus the Christmas hols and was still a little ropey going back. I’d perhaps say that if you can keep him well in the interim (being really on it with antibiotics etc) I would wait til after the exams.

Thighlengthboots · 14/01/2023 09:54

I had a tonsilectomy in my 30s and it was the worst pain ive ever had (and i have a high pain tolerance)- worse than childbirth. My surgeon told me that adults suffer way more due to the tonsils having longer roots and so if it needs to be done, definitely get it done when young as its much less painful. The worst pain was day three- I was on tramadol, paracetamol and diclofenac and even that wasnt touching it. By day 10 I was recovered and felt back to normal. So definitely get it done now when he is young and the pain will be less.

Maireas · 14/01/2023 09:49

Do it as soon as you can and get it over with. He'll probably be ok to do some school work in the second week. He just needs to eat frequently, including rough food! Sore at first, but works.