Exh arrested for indecent images

Hi Everyone,

I was just wondering if 'progolfernot' was still on this thread as I have a very similar situation with a family member and would appreciate any advice or reassurance.

Thank you

I just want to add that it was pinged that these images had been viewed on our wifi back in may. He was arrested as he’s the only male in the home and the bill payer. Like I said unfortunately with cases like this you are guilty until proven innocent. They may be able to distinguish what’s Happened before waiting for the devices to come back so you might not have to wait for them to come back for an outcome like we didn’t. Hope what I’ve said helps

Hi

this same exact thing happened to me, my partner got arrested for the exact same accusations, the police had apparently been given intelligence that he had viewed IIOC cat A B and C. I was devastated and was left in limbo for 10 hours after he was arrested at work and my home was raided. A van outside checked devices on our doorstep and one by one they were handed back apart from his personal mobile phone. SS quickly became involved and partner was bailed to the home address with a safety plan in place (i couldn't understand why he was bailed to the home address if I'm honest given the accusations) He denied all accusations and said the outcome of the investigation would prove his innocence. I believed him. We were told it would be 10 months before devices were handed back and was asked to do a lie detector test which I found very strange given they can’t be used as evidence in a uk court of law (was for safeguarding purposes apparently) he passed with flying colours and was allowed to stay in the family home) 4 months into the investigation we were called to say the case had been dropped and he could collect his things. I couldn’t understand why considering they told us it would be 10 month’s minimum! We later found out our Wi-Fi had been hacked, this was due to using a VPN to access a TV site called KODI. All I’m saying is DONT write your EXH off yet. Police get it wrong and it happens OFTEN! Unfortunately with crimes like this you are guilty until proven innocent. It’s the most traumatic experience I have ever experienced and when I searched online it was all negative. I’m just wanted you to know there are positive outcomes and some men accused are INNOCENT. I really hope it all works out in the best interest for you and your daughter

You actually can legally in this situation - it’s legal to send/take pictures if there is an ‘enduring family relationship’ so a marriage would count.

It’s still creepy though, particularly if there’s a big age difference.

Amazing how many people have had this experience with their partners and it didn’t just end with them not being charged but actually being ‘proven innocent’. How extraordinary.

As for these people being an easy target……fuck me there’s an apologist for these perverts under every rock. If people who enjoyed watching the sexual abuse of children were easy targets they’d be locked up a lot more……..and of course the easiest way to avoid being an ‘easy target’ of this kind is to not seek out images of children being sexually abused.

OP everything else aside, as you say you work with children, you need to be proactive and speak with the DSL as soon as possible about this. Just as an FYI before all the agencies (police, ss etc) start digging. Protect yourself and your job by being totally honest and transparent.

i’ve also not long been through this with my partner, (false and proven to be innocent however) the investigation took between 6/7 months with his bail getting extended every month. Social services because involved, they would check in every couple of weeks about how things are going support needed etc. They made a safety plan(who would supervise contact, when, where etc) he had to stay somewhere with no children as you can’t supervise when asleep. it was an awful time, in this scenario he was innocent and we had proof but i guess you won’t know until you get more info (social services can give you an idea as there told alot more)

@NancyJoan because they get kicks out of using a real person. They use their details and doctor their pictures and share it on the dark web with their equally perverted online friends. Whilst an innocent person has to deal with the fallout and investigation.

I completely get an under 18yo not being able to work in the actual porn industry. The op didn’t specifically say porn though, just images. They could have been sent to him by an actual 17 year old? No doubt there’s 17 year olds on only fans type sites. Like I said, not saying it’s right, but yes very strange that you can have any sort of sexual encounter with a 16 year old with consent, but (for eg) not look at a pic of a 17 year olds breasts.

I'm so sorry and would echo what others have said about contacting social services. Even if he is found to have had them, it doesn't (sadly!) Mean he will go to jail.

My former hairdressers dad was found with images... Got away with it!! It's sick!

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The police will have made a referral to children's social care and they will be in contact with you soon. The advice will be to not allow any contact between the children and dad until assessments have been completed and even after this it's likely he will have to be supervised with the children from now on. Quite often the excuse given by people who have been arrested for accessing sexual images of children is that they've been hacked in some way however down the line police find a lot more information out however this does take quite a long time.

@Ihatethenewlook I always found this strange u can marry soMe one in the uk at 16 but couldn't send your husband a dirty pic until 2nd anniversary lol

Im so sorry you are in this situation. Speaking from experience, my ex boyfriend was arrested for similar - they took about 6/7 weeks to look at his phone etc and he got a caution.

When I spoke to the police officer at the time she told me they don’t have time to chase down everyone who looks at the odd image here and there (I guess it could be accidental?) but once they see someone viewing either regularly or a largeish no of images they go in so if he does try to downplay it as accidentally clicking on a pic for example, don’t buy it.

I would contact social services, they will be able to advise. Look after yourself and your child, the shock of this kind of thing is horrendous x

Agree with this. It'll take ages. It's all about what they find on those devices supported by what they have already that triggered the arrest.

It won't be 3 months. Most police forces are around 12-18 months to look at images.

Don't expect this to be resolved quickly.

I tend to disagree with that statement. (That they would not bother to look into it unless there was substantial evidence.) The police are all about funding, therefore numbers, so any hint of soomething like this and they see an easy target. No way of knowing atm if he is innocent or guilty.
But i think as it is a child the police and ss would both g
ive you further info and or point you in the right direction.

Dirty man.

I would stop DC seeing them for now based on what he’s said.

I would not initiate contact with SS unless you want them prying into every corner of your life. If they need to be involved they will contact you.

Ah, ok. I stand corrected. So you can have sex with a 16 year old but not look at a photo of one? Not saying either is right but I find that really bizzare!

Recently had something similar with partner. Was traumatic! Be prepared for a whirlwind of police and SS picking apart yours and your child's life. My DP has neared the end now, and none of the accusations were true but yeah, it's not good 😭

Why would they bother? It’s not hard to set up a new email address. ‘I must have been hacked’ sounds like an excuse to me.

It's complex situation, don't think anyone can easily advise here.

Probe and interrogate husband. Lack of honesty and info is a reason to distrust and act on that distrust.

And let's be honest, police aren't going to go these lengths if there was no substantial evidence...

This can also happen with current email accounts so always make sure you log out. It's horrible weirdos using other people's details for their disgusting perverted exploits. I hope they catch the person who did this because even if the police eventually conclude exh details were hacked, the offender can just do it again. It will have to be investigated again! Then it's a no smoke without fire situation. Horrible.

Yes under18s are defined as children. It's nothing to do with the age of consent.

That's not legal. I'd look at whoever told you it was suspiciously