Can I ask if anyone has kids 9 years apart, what’s it like?

Not me but a close friend has a 10.5 year gap, oldest is a 16 year old boy, youngest a 5 year old girl. She loves it. They get on so well. They are best friends. I've seen this for myself first hand.
My friend told me she was very worried as he longed for a brother and cried when he found out it was a girl!

Good luck Op and huge congratulations.

My DS4 is 9(10 in April) and DS5 is just 1. They have a brilliant relationship, there has never been any jealousy between them at all.

Not sure but following as DC is 8 and I'm due this summer with DC2

I’ve got an 8 year gap, oldest (boy) is now 10 and youngest (girl) is 2. I think there’s pros and cons with any age gap. So far it’s been nice to have the 1-1 time with DD while DS is in school, and the transition from only child to big brother wasn’t as tough on him as I expected which I think was partially due to him having the routine of school and his friends. They don’t play together much really but DS is able to help with DD sometimes like play with her toys in the living room while I’m cooking dinner etc. DS is just young enough to still enjoy the park and soft play but I think it will get harder to find activities to suit them both as he gets towards his teens! I do find it hard to feel like I’m meeting both their needs at times but I imagine that’s the same with any age gap!

DD is 24 and DS is 15. They get on very well and always have done.

DD was very proud of DS and very helpful when he was small, played with him patiently and used to spend ages putting together fantastic railway layouts for his Thomas the Tank Engine sets.

These days they chat, play card games, watch TV together, play duets and visit museums and zoos together. I hope they will always enjoy each other’s company.

We have a similar situation in our family.
Baby is 1 and his sibling is 13.
It's amazing, these two love each other so much. They both light up when they get together. The 13 year old is having loads of practice in case he has kids later in life.
It's been very positive in our family.

From a sibling perspective:

My mum had my youngest brother almost 10 years after my other brother (5years younger than me) - I also have a sister 2years younger than me.

At the time ot felt odd that my parents had (unintentionally) decided to reset their lives again after so many years. I do remember feeling like I wouldn't have a bond with the child as there would be so many years between us. Anyway, once he arrived I suspect my mum had a reality check and realised she was well and truly over looking after babies, so myself and sister took on a lot of the parental duties. This intensified once DF passed away less than two years later. That said, it provided a lot of confidence, knowledge experience that's equipped me now that I have my own DC - 17years later.

I would say from a sibling perspective we all still got on and bonded like normal kids. I mean younger and youngest brother would argue like there wasn't almost a decade between them. So it was all good while we were all under the same roof.

I would say now that we're adults and out doing adult things, the generational gap us a lot more pronounced. Siblings no longer get on, and my mum is CBA to deal with a kid/teenager so he's pretty much left to his own (unproductive) devices.

Probably not the answer you were looking for. But I would say my experience has given me ambitions to have my kids relatively close in age if I can. But obviously, if you want to make God laugh tell him your plans.

Well 7 years here so a bit less that you. Ds22 and ds15. I would say that it was great to have one at school and a new born as it was easier to give time to both.
As they get older people are right it can be harder to do things that keep everyone happy but older ds was always good at doing things like cinema etc for the younger one.i found clubs and things harder to do with older ds as i was always carting a younger one around, often late at night but you just have to factor that in.

Older ds made a great babysitter in later years!!! I would say that the gap has grown once older ds got to 18 and left home. But he has just asked younger ds to go and visit him on the train so i am beginning to see them forge their own adult relationship. I think ds15 really misses having his brother at home. They are close and message each other often. It had worked for us.

Me and my younger brother have a 10-year age gap. We didn't get on as kids but when he went to uni he moved in with me and lived with me for 3 years and now we're adults the age gap makes no difference at all. He is actually richer and more successful than me now despite being so much younger. I'm very proud of him and always tell everyone about his achievements. We now live in the same city and our parents are abroad

Not personal experience, but from a few friends I know with this situation:

Pros - gap is sufficiently big to mean they don't compete for you in the same way, the older child is more self-sufficent/ able to help, there is less jealousy.

Cons - the most obvious is that it's hard to find something both enjoy to do, so a 10 year old might be too young to stay home alone, but doesn't want to be dragged to a fun farm or softplay.

Mine are 52,45,39,31(last one second marriage) girl,boy,boy,girl. All get along famously. Everything discussed as a family. Sat round the table, told 3 older DKs were hoping to have a baby,DH didn't have any . They all thought it was a great idea. Lucky....41, and menopause the following year, also became a grandmother for the first time! Got sick of people, including complete strangers in parks etc demanding to know why I had such big gaps,and telling me I had 4 generations of children.

I haven't got kids with that age gap but have a similar age gap between me (& sibling) and our younger brother. As far as I can see for my parents, it was a bit more like just having kids again due to major life stages happening at different times. We liked having the baby around, and played with him a bit when he was little etc, but were not quite old enough to usefully help out. Then we were in school most of the time when he was little anyway, and after a few years we were old enough to be mostly doing our own things. We both went to uni so didn't see much of his teenage years.

24 (f) and 15 (m) - they get on so well, just really similar attitudes to life. Obviously socially they don't hang out but at home they chat and watch tv together.

Following OP as we have this situation