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3 years trying & family

27 replies

Shyquiet · 31/12/2022 22:25

Just got enough. Total of three friends have announced their pregnancies via social media tonight.

Very happy for all our friends who got pregnant past year, but.. it’s hard. One of our friends was moaning about ‘infertility’ after three months of trying (second baby - she got pregnant first try on their first), and just announced their 2nd pregnancy today… including message how she understands how hard it’s for ‘trying’. Dont know can I face her.

We decided not to tell our friend group we are trying, our plan was just announce our pregnancy once we are expecting…

Been trying three years, no luck (posted to infertility section today). Still waiting ICB application to be put together by our local fertility department.

Family member told us during Xmas dinner last week we have been stupid to wait for NHS.

AIBU just to go outside at midnight and scream?

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 31/12/2022 22:32

your feelings are always valid Op- you know logically your friends having children doesn’t change your chances of conceiving but it triggers you. It’s shit, be kind to yourself and scream all you need.

Knobknob · 31/12/2022 22:28

Yanbu op. It's shit. People will be along shortly to say yabu not to be happy for your family/friends but that'll be because they're arseholes.

Hope the next year brings you what you want. If I had the money I'd give it to you for IVF. Best of luck.

Now have a big drink and a big scream xx