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Anyone just done with life at middle age

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HadEnoughNow1 · 23/12/2022 12:51

Anyone else feel in their forties feel they’ve just had enough of life? I feel it’s all such an effort for such a mediocre life. Constant drudgery and daily grind for the occasional joy such as holidays. If I was told tomorrow I only have 6 months to live I think I’d feel relieved.

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Sowhatnextthen · 27/12/2022 11:37

Can we please take the arguments off, it was a really interesting thread and one I can relate to at having just turned 45 and feeling like there isn’t much to look forward to

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Appalonia · 27/12/2022 11:17

Actually I've found it really comforting that other women feel similarly to me, sometimes you just need to express things and to be heard.

Agreed

janneites · 27/12/2022 11:36

How is it 'supportive' to facilitate a 'pity party'? To encourage people to be suicidal?

I don't think it's appropriate to call it a pity party. You've already been deleted once for offensive comments and been asked to stop.
Many posters have offered suggestions and others were intending to try HRT and/or antidepressants.

Many just want to talk about feelings in this age category and have found it helpful. That is a good thing not to be alone.

janneites · 27/12/2022 11:28

You are also the only poster to get their remarks on this thread removed. Mine got removed because they quoted yours.

Yes

Sorry, I was one of the people who reported her!I couldn't work out why you'd been deleted too as you'd only cut and paste quoted the deleted post. Realised it's against the guidelines to quote deleted posts, the quote part usually disappears, so fine, but probably couldn't as it was cut and pasted!

Appalonia · 27/12/2022 11:17

Actually I've found it really comforting that other women feel similarly to me, sometimes you just need to express things and to be heard.

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Schlaar · 27/12/2022 11:16

I’m fed up too. Life is nothing but drudgery. Cleaning, laundry, driving kids to school. Stuck with their father for financial reasons even though we aren’t in love. Struggling with the state of my body after childbirth. Then if I’m lucky I get to escape mentally for an hour by watching tv and imagining I have the kind of life and body that the characters have.

ClarathecrosseyedLioness · 27/12/2022 10:59

More resources here www.mumsnet.com/i/mental-health-webguide

Phrenologistsfinger · 27/12/2022 10:47

Oh yes, 40, hormones balanced but feel this way! I think I have for a lot of adult life, poverty stricken childhood, mentally ill mother, life has been a slog since day 1. ExDP didn't want kids, by the time I met DP, started ttc at 37, it was too late! 13 miscarriages in 2.5 years, 4 IVF banking rounds in 12 months. Looking like a future with no kids awaits and honestly I’m struggling to see the point of that! If it wasn’t for my dog, I’m not sure I’d bother. Oh and add late diagnosed ADHD and chronic fatigue and aching joints into the mix, feeling decrepit already! It’s all downhill to the liberation of death from here…

Readabookgroucho · 27/12/2022 09:50

Never felt that way - despite life being tough at times.
do you have low level depression? Is there something you need to change in your life?

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Mumsfret1976 · 27/12/2022 08:15

Chronic illness since the age of 16, I'm 42 now and utterly exhausted. I actually don't know how I've got this far.

I could have happily spent Xmas under the duvet but actually faking enthusiasm over the past 2 days has made me feel better. I ended up genuinely enjoying myself. Of course its now followed by trying to recover physically.

I completely understand OP.

GCAcademic · 27/12/2022 08:07

Oh for goodness sake. Just take your squabble off the thread, the two of you.

Or, actually, just carry on. You’ve killed the thread with your derailing and no one is going to post now, which is a shame as it could have been a supportive and useful thread for many women who are clearly feeling the same way.

ClarathecrosseyedLioness · 27/12/2022 05:22

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antelopevalley · 26/12/2022 14:06

Rising rents are a disgrace and life is getting much harder.
But the people with the highest suicide rate is first men then women who are middle-aged.

Alliwantforchristmasisjewels · 26/12/2022 13:48

@MissWired What’s coming down the line?

janneites · 26/12/2022 12:15

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malificent7 · 26/12/2022 12:08

I get it but hoping hrt will help. Started today !

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MissWired · 26/12/2022 11:35

dolor · 26/12/2022 05:05

Yep. I was just thinking earlier that if I found out I had something seriously wrong with me, I'd say my goodbyes and such, and then I'd go out on my own terms. Life has been awful, I've nothing to look forward to. I don't see the point.

Ditto.

Many of us are just existing day to day.

In addition, if you know anything about British social history, you know what's coming down the track and you don't want to return to those days, or even watch it happen from the sidelines.

A thousand years, and nothing ever changes, so what's the point?

janneites · 26/12/2022 10:58

No, you're not qualified to diagnose @ClarathecrosseyedLioness and quite frankly it's disgraceful you're here again posting back down thread arguing with different posters again, especially given the content. You're putting people off posting for support and being very unhelpful at best.

I ought to have reported you last time really. It's not really in the spirit as guidelines go.

ClarathecrosseyedLioness · 26/12/2022 08:16

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