Anyone just done with life at middle age

Instead of taking medication, maybe you need to make some more fundamental changes to the way you live your life?

My early forties were the best time of my life. My late forties and early fifties though!
Suicide rates peak at this age for both women and men. This is the age when you are most likely to be dealing with elderly parents and kids, to have a friend/s die about your age, and to have health problems yourself. I didn't have massive health problems, but issues with anaemia due to peri menopause and thyroid, the tiredness of which added to my sense of drudgery.
I know it is hard, but you need to rediscover joy in your life.

It can be a battle to stay in the positive. I've had anxiety for years, kept in check with therapy and meds. I try and do meditation to keep myself grounded from the 'what ifery' that comes with anxiety. I've had depression too where I just didn't care if I lived or died. So I get it.

When I'm in a good place I can see that I don't make time for myself, put my needs first. Yesterday a small thing occurred - DH isn't interested in Christmas so no decs up, but I like it and for the first time ever I thought I'll get some decs because I like them and that should be enough. And not feel guilty! It's sometimes the small things and I felt happier for it.

I would suggest OP you start going back to your GP and tell him how you feel and be honest. You are worth their time, you are worth investing in. Get the menopause checked out too in case that has any bearing on how you are feeling (I'm on HRT too). Once you start to feel a bit better, you can start to look at what you want to change, what you can change. Small steps can lead to sometimes enough of a change to lift that weight of 'just existing' we can all feel.

Nope, I’m 40 and the happiest I have ever been (much more money, secure job, kids growing up).

No, absolutely not!

I’ve built a very fun life for myself, in a party city abroad. I have a very fulfilling sex life, and a cleaner. I love going out dancing and travelling.

Best of all, my children will both soon be at university, so I’ll have even more freedom.

I’m sorry you feel this way about your life. Instead of taking medication, maybe you need to make some more fundamental changes to the way you live your life?

Yep, exactly this. We get an annual health check through work. I don’t participate because I don’t want them to find anything until it’s too late to do about it.

I'm 50s
No never thought like this !
Menopause makes you feel different, but not in a giving up on life way

I have so many things that I want to do !

Start some new years resolutions, I make a list every year & try to do most things on the list

My forties were the best because I had my two children at 38 and 40 so it was like a whole new life.
My 60s though......

… "Oh yeah, life goes on, long after the thrill of living is gone"

I feel you OP. Maybe we need a Mumsnet party?

I'm on 32 and I feel the same. I can't do this for another 36 years.

Sorry to hear so many of you are feeling this way. I firmly believe that life is about finding joy in the small and everyday moments. But please do seek help if you feel you need to.

I lost my first husband when he was in his forties. It's no age. Be careful what you wish for.

Sending love to you all.

Yes I'm a single mum to autistic dd so life is tricky. Also perimenopause seems to have hit, I feel so flat and angry all the time.

I'm not 40 yet, but I feel the same.
Life is constant drudgery with very little reward.
No, I'm not depressed, I'm just being realistic.

Life is hard in your 40s, you might have demanding children, aging relatives, you’re more likely to have a senior role at work or be seen as more experienced and so more responsibility. Hormones are going crazy, plus you probably have achieved some of the major milestones in career/travel/relationships/babies - there is no wonder it all feels like an absolute slog.
No advice but solidarity op

Yes I feel like this. On my 49th birthday this year I was asked how I felt and I said "one year closer to the freedom of death".

DS has additional needs and parenting is just a slog as he won't leave the house now, I have three jobs but no money, my needs always come last, also drudgery and life admin is depressing and relentless. You are not alone

No, I bloody love it. Never felt more confident and healthy.

I do feel like this though I take it as a sign that I’ve achieved everything that I want to achieve and so see it as somewhat liberating.

I do find I have had a renewed sense of life however since getting a new job. I have never had money and now I have some savings and a little bit of disposable income. As this is a novelty for me I find it is keeping me happy and amused as I am able to take my kids out for a meal occasionally without worrying about how to pay. And other things I haven’t been able to do.

when I get used to this. If one day the motivation of earning wears off which I suspect it will, I will literally feel I have nothing to live for. Apart from watching my family grow up and older. Which is of course a huge blessing but not if they start not wanting me around which they inevitably won’t.

Yep, 45 and can relate to it all feeling pointless and unfulfilling. Though if I was told I only had 6 months I'd probably panic and think about all the things I haven't been able to do because of the drudgery and tedium. I bought a gratitude journal, focussing twice a day on the little things you're grateful for is helpful.

I get you OP and I don’t think you have to be depressed to feel this way because unless your one of the lucky few with a charmed life and money life is pretty shit and relentless for most. Go to work, pay bills and look forward all year to your one week holiday. It’s pretty shit.

I'm 55 and have never felt like that. To think anyone can think like that and be told, "yeah, that's normal, just put up with it and get on" is so bad. Go to the doctor, get help. Make changes in your life, get rid of what makes you feel like this, take up a hobby or change your job. Do not just accept that this is it for you.

I feel the same. I work and take care of my children with special needs and I’m so bored and fed up.

I think many in their 40 feel the same. Also coping with ageing

Yes, I feel the same too. I have a very successful career, two wonderful, if slightly exasperating, teenage boys. But my relationship is not as I expected/hoped it would be and I have some health challenges. The balance is ok but I fully understand where the OP is coming from

Yeh, I’ve felt like this since I was about 14 tbh.