Am i too old to have a baby?

Sorry but that's ridiculous. What makes it ok in your eyes at 42 but suddenly too old a year later? 😂

What makes it ok at 42 but too old a year later at 43? 😂 Sorry, but that's honestly ridiculous.

I’m 51 and youngest is 16. My energy levels have dropped a bit but could still cope with a 7/8 year old I reckon. Probably not a much younger child as although not experiencing much in the way of perimenopause symptoms, I do find it difficult to sleep quite often. In my mid forties I would have struggled with having to get up in the night for a baby. I don’t think I could have done that and also got up for work.

What a beautiful story. I am 43 and have no children but wondering if me and my partner could.

Totally agree. A lot of judgement here!

I wouldn't let anyone tell you what you should or shouldn't do. If you feel called to have a child then maybe that's a sign.

I happened upon this thread and would love to know if u actually had another baby? I'm shocked at some of the comments here saying ur too old! Age doesn't define how well u will parent another child, some people are young 43yr olds and others are older 43yr olds, no one can decide or judge anyone on what's right or when to have another baby. Everyone can have an opinion but there's a way to relay said opinion without being rude, as many have done in this thread.
I'm sure u were well aware of the risks before u even asked this question but again, there are risks at any age depending on the lifestyle of the mother. I'm really disheartened at what iv read here.
If u do somehow get a notification for my comment I'd really love to know whether u decided to have a baby and if these comments swayed ur decision in any way.

I hope the last 2yrs has found u happy and content no matter what u decided to do xxx

Ha ha yeah!

When Dd was born, they were fighting to cuddle her and feed her. All obsessed with her.

@Crunchymum No, I was 45 years 2 months 🙂

Apart from a long labour, it's been very easy. I've been very fortunate.

On MN older children have to resent their much younger siblings, especially if they are half siblings.

In rl even people dislike have shown they love their much younger siblings, even if they are half-siblings.

Biology is also ok with girls as young as 11 or 12 getting pregnant. Just saying...

Wow the judgement in this 🙄

Biologically of course it's not IDEAL but then again, there's little in life that is ideal

But it happens, so biology must be ok with it?

I’d say too old now. Risks much higher.

I had my children at 41 and 45. I'm now 60 with a 15 year old still at home. It's fine. My menopause, when she was about 5-6 was perfectly manageable (it's not awful for all women, though that narrative is becoming increasingly strong in the public domain). I'm not a carer for elderly parents, because they are both still alive and well in their 80s. For other women it will different and much more difficult. But it won't, by definition, be negative - it's been very positive for me.

It’s probably a newer relationship because people like having a child together . I still don’t see why this is a cause to judge .
my good friend just had a baby at 45 too and she has 5 children all older 27 to 12 and she has been married for 27 years . So not always the case but yes I agree often people want a new child in a new relationship . Specially if like myself you feel you found your soulmate really late

@MintJulia

I had ds at 45+2

What does this mean? You were 47 when you had your son?

Because I really don't see any good reason why a couple of late 40 year olds who have 3 grown children would randomly decide they need to start over again with more babies.

I wanted to check if my assumption was correct

Why does this matter ???

@Love26life
I would be interested to know why you resented her? I was also 16 and my mum 44 when she had my brother and I loved him to bits. Never once did I resent the time she spent looking after him. And it certainly wasn't my place to says he shouldn't be having a baby at that age! He was an uncle at 5 and now has ten neices and nephews.

I don't think it's too old if that's what you want. Biologically of course it's not IDEAL but then again, there's little in life that is ideal. Just do what is best for your family and be the best person you can within your own circumstances. There's nothing more you can do.

Of course not!

Yes

@Herejustforthisone my partner is 10 yrs younger and he had no kids of his own but he was told years ago he couldn’t have kids so the first was was a happy surprise, the second was a happy accident. I thought my baby days were over and I was quite happy with that and wasn’t worried about more children at all and quite happy with the freedom I had however I’m also very happy with my two little ones now I guess life likes to throw you little surprises every now and then .

I do understand them but even though the probability is higher it can still happen to anyone my point is you just don’t know if you will be that person at any time of your life