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How to help a highly anxious child settle at a club

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UndertheCedartree · 14/11/2022 09:21

My 10 yo DD is highly anxious - she is autistic and also has Long Covid (mildly now) which has really ramped it up.

She won't do any after school clubs or after school care at school, although she does go to her gymnastics class which she started before she had Covid. I really want her to attend the kids club at my gym.

Has anyone any experience of settling an anxious child at a club and the best way to go about it?

I took her at the weekend and stayed with her for 10 min (longest an adult is allowed to stay) sitting next to her. Then when I had to go she didn't want to stay (as expected). I'm planning to take her this weekend and do the same but I'll sit on the sofa. I've also spoken to her about the staff and the children at the club and how nice they were. I'm also planning little 'prizes' for reaching the goal set.

Any ideas much appreciated.

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ClaryFairchild · 15/11/2022 09:30

At nursery they have one of the children a paper daisy and the anxious child was able to remove one petal every 10 minutes. When the last petal came off their mum was outside to pick him up. Slowly over time they extended the intervals, and after awhile they didn't need to do this at all as he was happy to stay.

Harrysnippleno3 · 15/11/2022 09:29

I really want her to attend the kids club at my gym.

Unfortunately you might have to accept this is t possible. Anxiety need less triggers, not more.

I don't say this to be shitty, I have been through it all and currently have a 12 year old who won't leave the house. What I have learned over the years of the less pressure the better.

UndertheCedartree · 15/11/2022 09:26

Parker231 · 14/11/2022 09:22

Do she know anyone else there who you could arrange that they go at the same time

Unfortunately not.

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Parker231 · 14/11/2022 09:22

Do she know anyone else there who you could arrange that they go at the same time

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