I feel a bit guilty but there’s someone in my life I don’t want to be friends with anymore and she’s not taking the hint. It’s so awkward.
I can’t be direct because she’s drawn to conflict and turns everything into a drama. I haven’t initiated contact in over a year, I send short replies and constantly make excuses not to see her but she’s keeps contacting me (at least once a month) trying to make arrangements to meet up.
We used to have a mutual friend in common (whom I met her through) but the friend ended their relationship with her a few years ago and it was so messy.
We’ve nothing in common and she has a temper. She does have good qualities but they don’t outweigh the bad ones. She has a terrible habit of cancelling on me at the last minute and has done so multiple times over the years. I counted last year, 12 times, and I thought I’ve had enough of this. I know she does this to other people and yet is very lonely.
I wouldn’t accept anyone else in my life doing that to me. But when I pull away she goes on and on about how bad her mental health is/how awful her life is etc and keeps badgering me to make more plans to meet up.
She’s messaged me today to suggest we meet up for Christmas. I wish she would just leave me alone. It’s not that I’m scared of confrontation, I just don’t want the drama. She puts personal stuff and details of arguments she’s had with others on social media and I don’t want that.
Has anyone else been in this situation? How did you get out of it?