To wonder how people have sex with adult dc still at home

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Zombie thread.

Why has it be revived twice now?

OP - quietly. Late. It's hard.

Clearly something's working for you guys, though!

I know sex is important to my dh and it would probably break us not being able to have any sex life.
It's all very good saying do it when they're out the house but op has said there's 3 of them and they never go out at the same time.
How long is parenting this day and age?
Mine are only small but I dread to think how this will work.
Is there a link between marriage not lasting these days and children never moving out?

I’m surprised by the continental attitude in these comments- where are all the repressed Brits?! Maybe it’s my upbringing but I would hate this but too & I couldn’t imagine doing it knowing DD was awake/ nearby. Luckily she’s only 6 at the moment!

I'm not sure why it would be different depending on age? You quite down if there are kids in the house, or wait til they're out.

Just have sex? Quietly?

From being teens they're usually pretty aware of not wanting to "interrupt" anything and it's not like they want to see their parents at it so doubt they'll just come in without knocking!

What 16 year old (or anyone of any age) is fine with hearing their parents have sex? Gross, and 16 isn't even an adult anyway.

There's always one 😂

Because it's normal.

Maybe speak to your son. I have an 18 year old and he says it's my sex life and I can do what I like. same goes for him. Sex shouldn't be embarrassing and should be spoken about more IMHO.

Just do it..they are adults they should understand.

Sometimes it's the only option.

OP - quietly. Late. It's hard.

You just have to go for it as quietly and respectfully as possible! Assume that if they need to they can put their headphones on. That's what we do (did, DS has moved out now, but I can see him having to come back at times). Sex is a normal part of life, your DC will block out (normal levels) of noise if they need to!

We have sex. Honestly never thought about it because adults have sex. DD often brings her fella home, I presume they have sex too. Never thought about it really.

Adult children are staying at home later and later and it's not uncommon for them to be at home well into their late 20s or later.
It's also less common for young adults to go out these days.
There will be an epidemic of middle age celibate parents with children adults ruling the roost.

Why would you even want to have sex with 3 adult children upstairs?

Easier said than done if there's a paper thin wall between rooms.
You hide the obvious sound of a bed squeaking rhythmically.

Tell them every Saturday night, you and dh want the house to yourselves and they need to all go out.
You're entitled to some time to yourself by that age living at home is a privilege on your terms.

Just tone down the noise , it’s really not difficult

Do other people tend to scream and shout while dtd ?! Rattle paintings off walls and shake the light fixtures ? We must be doing it wrong. I don't see how it's an issue ? We have a mix of adults/teens/tweens here and I don't see how they would even realize we are at it . Sturdy bed , door closed and no meg Ryan moaning !

Well, having had 5 DC ranging in age from 12-30 we've just got on with it... we do have our own bedroom... you don't need a whole house to yourselves to have sex!
We have the younger 2 still at home, but the older three have bobbed back for short spells here and there. Sometimes they'll have a boyfriend/girlfriend in tow, so they'll have their own sex noises to worry about!

Interesting thread, I've got the same problem coming up, both of my DCs rooms are directly joined to mine and the walls are as thin as paper.
Inviting my partner to begin staying the night for the first time this week.
We are even worried about whispering, let alone anything else 😄.

You need to get over your squeamishness and encourage your adult children to get their own accommodation. I'm baffled by how many people don't have sex with their partner because their children are in the house. How on earth do they maintain any intimacy.

We usually wait until we have the house to ourselves or try and be as quiet as we can, which isn’t easy for me. If I get really horny there’s always the VW Camper in the garage/workshop. I take him down a cup of tea and a bacon sarni but I think they’ve sussed me by now. No matter, a girl has her needs.