What to do with male neighbour

I feel like he is just being friendly or may be he is a bit lonely and is just trying to be nice. He probably thinks he's being neighbourly, I don't particularly think anything you have written means he's a creep.

Or maybe he thinks you're on your own and he might want to make sure you know you have neighbours you can speak to/call upon. Not all male 50 year old neighbours are creeps just because they like to come chat.

My old neighbour was a bit like this and would come out to talk to me whenever he saw me, turned out his wife died of cancer some years ago and he had crippling Anxiety and OCD, he would spend days on his own so the 10 min friendly chats with me in the back garden really helped him. I've since moved and we've remained friends, he calls and drops in a xmas card etc.

As for the package, if it is really going to cause you anxiety just say you can't as you are going out so won't be in could he ask another neighbour.

Exhibit A. ^ @Cantthinkofausername01

Yes @Cantthinkofausername01 at 20.32 you did say that!!! 😂 'I'm a women.' How embarrassing! Insulting @stuntbubbles when it was YOU who made the error!

I've read the whole thread and these are my suggestions.

1. In relation to the parcel/package: when the delivery is attempted, just tell the delivery guy that you're not going to take the package. You don't know the neighbour and you're not taking packages for anyone other than those addressed to you.

1. The next time you're out in your garden doing whatever you need to do, if this neighbour approaches you, you can either get up and go inside until he goes away, you can brazen it out and before he gets started on a conversation with you, you say to him "You'll have to excuse me but I really must get back to finish doing X,Y or Z before it rains/get's dark/silence. Have a nice day" and then turn away and crack on with your chores.

1. If he keeps doing it, that's harassment. You can report it to the police.

Don't let some gobshite annoy or upset you.

Tell him you can't take in any parcels as you'll be busy on the phone to your boyfriend who is an MMA fighter 😉

If it's a tiny front garden can you just never do anything in it? It's extremely annoying and unfair but might that be the easiest option. Now you've painted and repointed the brickwork their can't be much else to do.

Would also highly recommend The gift of fear by Gavin de Becker.

A very empowering book.

OP, I don't believe your gut is wrong.

I have ignored mine in my assessment of people and have regretted it.

I have learned to listen to and trust my gut.

If it were me, I’d say “please could you give me some more privacy when I’m in my garden? I want to be able to do things without being disturbed every time”. But then I’m sick of shit like this and have learned to be blunt to thick skinned people: being polite to them while they do whatever they like without any thought for you is just not on.

If he punishes you with a racket, report him to environmental health. Call them - they come out to visit and hear for themselves.

Can you put up a trellis against the wall with artificial ivy etc so you get an instant privacy screen without having to wait for something to grow?

”Women” is a direct quote from your post, dear. Hence the quote marks.

He says
I'm a women
no reason not to believe him 🤔

Also it's 'woman' not 'women' that's plural

Made yourself look like a right tit!

Honestly, I'm a 36 year old woman with 4 children. Im not arguing with strangers on the internet anymore, its getting pathetic

Now please piss off and stop quoting me.

Yes, @Cantthinkofausername01 definitely comes across like a “women” in this thread, can’t think what makes them seem like an angry, angry man.

Yes very

Goodbye 😊

Harsh! You've hurt my feelings, are you happy now?

Your a strange character. This is the 2nd time
Why do you keep quoting me with an '?'

It's weird. Please stop

@Cantthinkofausername01 turn your notifications off, you numpty.

I 100% agree with this. The older I get, the more I'm assured my gut feeling is never wrong. One thing-if OP does decide to move, it's helpful NOT to have any problems with neighbours on record as it devalues your home.

@Cantthinkofausername01 ?

I'm a women

Bored emoji was because I've already said stop tagging me......its boring. Im trying to get on with my evening and my phones is pinging every 2 minutes with emails from mumsnet.

I really couldn't get myself as worked up as you over a strangers post on the internet

Also, @Cantthinkofausername01 is clearly a man. And one who assumes every woman should pay attention to him, and ask 'how high' when he says 'JUMP!'

100% this, and what a laughable and pathetic response from @Cantthinkofausername01 to this post here. A bored, snoozy emoji. I wouldn't waste my time responding to their posts if I were you.

😴

It’s not the job of women to solve random men’s unhappiness. He has the same access to the internet, hobbies, sport, colleagues, friends, online dating as the rest of us. His problem to solve.