What to do with male neighbour

This isn't normal behaviour and he needs to be told.

But they haven't "chatted a few times"?
OP says that every single time she is in her garden he immediately comes out and makes a beeline for her.
That's not just neighbourly chatting

Be blunt

Ive noticed that every single time I come into my garden you come out to talk to me, are you lonely?

If he says I'm just being friendly

reply - you need to find clubs where you will find friends that have similar interests to you.

if he mutters anything else (by this time you've called him out)

If you don't want advice don't come and stand in your front garden each time I come out then

Pepper spray. I'm only half joking.

Please don't let him see you in any way flustered/rushing to avoid him. He may get a kick from this. A nice leisurely pace back into your house, totally unaffected by him should do it.

People would really consider living because a neighbour has chatted a few times?!
Just be brief and polite and don't engage in a huge conversation.
I love chatting with my neighbours, but appreciate it isn't the sane for everyone.
On the basis of the OP though I'm not sure it warrants moving house

The OP is saying this man makes her feel uncomfortable. It’s not just something anyone should have to tolerate!! Why are people trying to makes excuses for him?

Be rude to him, OP. Some weirdos rely on women being too polite.

All my neighbours chat, lovely people but I usually just say 'well, better get on..' & I go indoors for a few mins.. I don't have a problem with them, I just don't get how people have time to stand & chat!
I think if they freaked me out, I'd go indoors as soon as I saw them coming. That's enough to give anyone a hint, surely?

If you do take his parcel in, keep an eye out for him arriving home and dash around to his with it so he's not coming to your house. Then put a note on your door for delivery drivers, stating you don't take in parcels for neighbours.

Lots of men are like this. They feel entitled to female attention. It happens when I'm walking my dog on the common. Quite regularly male dog walkers will take a route that deliberately crosses mine, when there's loads of space and when I'm deliberately changing direction to avoid them. Then they expect a chat. I've observed this for decades. They don't do this to other men. But you'll be told to be kind. Many women believe that women should be support humans for entitled men.

Just take control. Be as direct as you need to be and tell him not to come onto your property again. You shouldn’t have to do that with a normal person but this one is making your life a misery.

You should not feel intimidated when in your garden or going in or out. It’s ridiculous. He’s exerting control. Tell him straight.

I’d probably want to be quite direct - sorry I quite like to be left alone when I’m in the garden.

But equally you could start by wearing headphones etc and giving him a hint like “oh just enjoying some peace with my music” and build up.

If there is indeed a parcel then as soon as you see him arrive take it over to his address. Knock his door, put it on his doorstep and then give him a nod of acknowledgement from the pavement and walk away.

Try cutting each conversation short.

Get a ring doorbell because IF his behaviour persists you can use this to produce to the police.

Some people male and female just do not realise social cues. This may be what it is in his case.

Do you rent this house or own it?

Either way, I personally would consider moving. Other people will think this is crazily excessive, but life is too bloody short to worry about living next to a horrible neighbour. I'd say trust your gut on not liking him too.

In the short term, you gotta be prepared to be really rude. Hurt his feelings if you have to.

If he asks you to take a parcel, say No, I'm too busy. No more explanation than that.

If he comes to talk to you, pretend your phone goes off and start chatting on it. or just go indoors until he goes away.

But yeah, i'd definitely consider moving! x

Stop brushing your teeth and make sure you speak close and directly to his face.

Refuse the parcel. Don't answer the door.

He's probably bored and lonely. But you don't owe him company.
Be polite but brisk. Don't get into a conversation and if he asks about deliveries etc again just say you're not reliably in, so it might be better if he asks someone else. Head phones or sunglasses are also good ways to help you keep your boundaries a little bit more comfortably. Just carry on with your job. If he persists, then say you really haven't got time to chat and have jobs you want to get on with.

How does he see you're in your garden? Could you plant a tall bush that blocks his view?

Also there's no need for him to come over to "look for" his parcel as they will leave him a card when it's been delivered. I actually reckon there's no parcel and he just wanted to talk to you.

Taking in parcels is normal neighbourly co-operation, but if you want to discourage all contact, try being selectively deaf. How high is the wall? Maybe you need a higher wall, or a trellis with climbing plants. Or a few pots to sit on top of the wall, planted with very spiky shrubs.

You haven't told him you don't want to talk, though, have you? Practice exchanging a few pleasantries and then "Right, if you don't mind, I need to get back to painting this wall/sorting out these flowers" and turning away to show that the conversation is over.

If you just stew in silence his behavior won't change, and whether he is being friendly, over friendly, intrusive or weird, it doesn't really make any difference, the result is the same- you don't feel comfortable in your front garden.

Is there a time you know he goes out, and you could do your gardening stuff then?

Sorry that's not very helpful, but if i I were you I'd minimise the contact.

It doesn't sound like a male/female thing to me. It sounds to me that perhaps he is being a little over neighbourly.

I'd be polite and just get on with what I was doing.

On my road conversions/parcel favours are common.

My female 70 year old neighbour does this to me and it drives me mad. Mainly because it feels like she’s spying on me. Does she sit at the window watching all the time?

It’s really difficult in the moment to tell them to bugger off, but the posters above have given some great advice.