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AIBU to not want to go to my work Christmas party?

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TwoTimTams · 09/11/2022 10:12

Work in a large government organisation. Colleagues are fine, some I know reasonably well, others I haven’t said more than hello to once or twice.

Our work Christmas party is at one of our other locations a 1 hour drive away. Work is paying. I don’t want to go, it’s outside my normal work hours as an early dinner. I will be there anyway due to having to attend a team event earlier that day but I don’t want to stay for the party. I dislike social situations particularly in a work environment, and while I don’t mind going out to the odd quick lunch with my workmates the politics of a work Christmas party are tedious and I can’t be arsed with it.

But people seem to love their work Christmas parties, I figure I must be weird and in the minority otherwise we wouldn’t be having them. Does everyone else actually LIKE their work Christmas party?

AIBU - I’m being boring and work Christmas parties are a social calendar highlight in permanent marker

YANBU - work Christmas parties are a form of torture, so yeah nah, washing my hair instead

OP posts:
Notjustanymum · 09/11/2022 10:20

I’m not going to my WCP this year either - and haven’t been to one for about 10 years because I don’t really like them.
If the Company organised something like a trip to the theatre or a comedy club I’d be up for it, but just eating, drinking and dancing isn’t my idea of fun. YADNBU, OP!

SunshineClouds1 · 09/11/2022 10:18

I have to say I love my work Christmas parties!
There are plenty of people from my work place who don't go, and it's fine.
Just don't make it a 'thing' of not going, 'I have plans, need to get back for x' and that's it.

Dailymash · 09/11/2022 10:18

Don’t go, just say you have to get home for something. Anything.

Work dos are great if you like your colleagues and see them as genuine friends. They’re a joy. They’re tedious if you see them as colleagues only - people you tolerate in a work situation. I’ve experienced both. Don’t go. Enjoy your evening doing something you actually want to do.

2pinkginsplease · 09/11/2022 10:18

If you want to go then go if you don’t then tell them you have other plans that evening.

Hbh17 · 09/11/2022 10:16

Work Xmas parties are always awful, so just discreetly slip out and go home. If you don't make a big deal of it, probably nobody will even notice.

MrsSkylerWhite · 09/11/2022 10:12

YANBU

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