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To not understand the nastiness that being a housewife provokes 2

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Alondra · 31/10/2022 11:55

Apologies for making a second part to this thread but I feel strongly about this issue.

Topgub

Possibly because there aren't any benefits

Few countries have a government system caring about women and children. The majority of our governments don't care if all have to work for a pittance to pay mortgage, bills and food when children are small because average couples need both wages. A system where nursery fees are stratospheric and eating half an average wage, and worse still, because parents working full time, making an average pay to be able to survive, have few serious tax concessions. Those tax concessions go to multinationals.

It's a system that only cares about productivity attached to $. If you are an engineer with projects worth a million dollars, your salary will be minimum 15% of that money annually. If you are a carer or a parent, there is no quoted money attached to your work, so you are in a low wage or no wage at all.

A woman with two kids working full time for an average salary has not gained much from my mother’s time. Working full time, taking care of the kids when they are home and doing the lion share of housework and rarely free time at all.

With housing costs, bills and health systems collapsing, I really fear for women in the next few years. We will get the short straw as we've always done, but it'll be a plus if, at least, we don't turn on each other.

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cagliari · 31/10/2022 18:01

"Hang on. Surely a working mum can contribute to a sahm thread. Like a bottle feeding mum can post on a breast feeding thread? "

Yes, but if the bottle-feeding mum was dominating every breastfeeding thread for evermore, declaring there is no point to breastfeeding in wider society blah blah blah, it would get a bit much wouldn't it?

Topgub · 31/10/2022 18:01

@AMorningstar

Yeah cause I don't have to follow stupid rules

🙂

AMorningstar · 31/10/2022 18:00

Topgub · 31/10/2022 18:00

@AMorningstar

Genuinely, how do you think anyone can force you to live your life differently?

You can't. I don't think you can.

I think you'd like to though.

Autumndays123 · 31/10/2022 18:00

AMorningstar · 31/10/2022 17:55

You didn't comment in every assumption you'd made that was proven wrong though did you. Funny that.

What assumption? You said you plan to cook food, do chores, answer the door to Amazon, tradespeople and be well rested. That's hardly a long list. Although by your standards of laziness I imagine it sounds like an exhausting day

Topgub · 31/10/2022 18:00

@AMorningstar

Genuinely, how do you think anyone can force you to live your life differently?

AMorningstar · 31/10/2022 17:59

"I soon learned" and yet here you are, still posting your shit.

Topgub · 31/10/2022 17:59

@AMorningstar

@Butchyrestingface isn't talking about you.

MamaToOscar · 31/10/2022 17:59

This thread is so toxic it’s making me feel ashamed to be a woman 🤦🏻‍♀️

Some of you need to have a word with yourselves.

Topgub · 31/10/2022 17:58

I was unaware of the rule that sahms can't be disagreed with

I soon learned.

Honestly when I first starting posting I thought I'd fallen down a time hole

Women genuinely shocked that other women don't want to be sahms and don't view it as the ideal.

FlamencoDance · 31/10/2022 17:58

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AMorningstar · 31/10/2022 17:57

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I'm not trolling. You disliking me doesn't make me a troll.

AMorningstar · 31/10/2022 17:57

Autumndays123 · 31/10/2022 17:56

Specialise in the domestic sphere. That's comedy gold.

Comedy gold is someone who's obsessed with trying to force others to live a life they don't want to, when they don't need to, purely out of bitterness. It's oddly sad.

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Autumndays123 · 31/10/2022 17:56

Specialise in the domestic sphere. That's comedy gold.

AMorningstar · 31/10/2022 17:55

Autumndays123 · 31/10/2022 17:54

Change the subject? You said specialise in the domestic sphere and I commented on it. Are you drunk OP?

You didn't comment in every assumption you'd made that was proven wrong though did you. Funny that.

Topgub · 31/10/2022 17:54

@FlamencoDance

The thing is, these threads are never just 'sahm' threads

They are parenting threads. So surely any parent can comment?

It's also seemingly impossible for sahms/housewives to justify their choice without putting down wms.

Which is where the conflict arises

Autumndays123 · 31/10/2022 17:54

AMorningstar · 31/10/2022 17:53

Trying to change the subject because i called out your incorrect assumptions 💀

Change the subject? You said specialise in the domestic sphere and I commented on it. Are you drunk OP?

AMorningstar · 31/10/2022 17:54

RandomMusings7 · 31/10/2022 17:53

It's a neckbeard hobby and pathetic once you're over the age of 20 or so.

What an utterly stupid comment lol.

Butchyrestingface · 31/10/2022 17:54

AMorningstar · 31/10/2022 17:51

What a weird way to ask for my nudes. Sorry but I don't sell pics.

Odd that nudity is what your mind immediately jumps to. Or perhaps not.

AMorningstar · 31/10/2022 17:54

Eindaira · 31/10/2022 17:53

I don't think watching anime makes someone immature. There are anime series that are made for 15/18+ due to the themes such as horror or gore and the like. It's not all porn or Pokémon. Either way, I don't see why being an adult means you can't enjoy or indulge in "childish" things, that seems rather sad.

Nah when you turn 18 it's all suits, stock markets and telling kids to get off the grass. No fun allowed.

RandomMusings7 · 31/10/2022 17:53

AMorningstar · 31/10/2022 17:52

Why the hell do you look down on anime of all things? 🤣 That's such a bizarre thing to say.

It's a neckbeard hobby and pathetic once you're over the age of 20 or so.

AMorningstar · 31/10/2022 17:53

Autumndays123 · 31/10/2022 17:52

Specialise in the domestic sphere hahahaha hahaha. Bloody hell keep going OP this is great. Was that an optional module in uni?

Trying to change the subject because i called out your incorrect assumptions 💀

Eindaira · 31/10/2022 17:53

RandomMusings7 · 31/10/2022 17:49

Yes. Yes I do. Especially in someone who poses as the picture of maturity and feels superior to everyone on this thread.

I don't think watching anime makes someone immature. There are anime series that are made for 15/18+ due to the themes such as horror or gore and the like. It's not all porn or Pokémon. Either way, I don't see why being an adult means you can't enjoy or indulge in "childish" things, that seems rather sad.

AMorningstar · 31/10/2022 17:52

RandomMusings7 · 31/10/2022 17:49

Yes. Yes I do. Especially in someone who poses as the picture of maturity and feels superior to everyone on this thread.

Why the hell do you look down on anime of all things? 🤣 That's such a bizarre thing to say.