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Should I still take parcels for neighbors ?

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BlueSiamese · 13/10/2022 09:14

Well I am fine helping neighbors out and we live on a street where most of them are friendly . I am having issues with occasionally collecting parcels for some of them though.

  1. I had a delivery guy request me to take a parcel for someone on the street I said okay but have you left a note and the guys says yes .
At 8pm I had a loud knock on my door and I opened it to an angry lady who said do you have my parcel, I explained her yes and the guy requested me to take it and mentioned he is leaving a note . To which she said well he didn't. I gave her her parcel and she stormed off. (I thought may be it's best not to collect parcels for this lady)
  1. I was leaving for work when I was asked by a different guy to collect another parcel. I did and the neighbors didn't bother coming over to collect it for days so finally before going away dh decided to give it to them as it was heavy.
  1. Last week I had another parcel for a different neighbor but for three days no one came to collect. The postman showed me that they are leaving a note and wrote it in front of me. Finally yesterday when I was parking I saw the neighbors and said I got your parcel and gave it to her.

So my Aibu is should I simply start refusing parcels for neighbors as no one seem to be coming to collect them? Or be there local delivery person and make sure that I deliver them😏

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mondaytosunday · 13/10/2022 09:49

No i generally refuse unless it is my direct next door neighbours who I know. And when I order I always put in the 'note to seller/courier' box where they can leave the package should I not be in (though they put my daughter's prom dress IN THE BIN which I thought was unbelievably stupid - it took two days of looking before it occurred to me to look inside, and it's just luck there wasn't a rubbish collection)!

BlueSiamese · 13/10/2022 09:43

None of them were away as I did see them daily. Is it supposed to be the duty of the person who collects it to give it to the right people or something? In our earlier residence I would go and collect my own parcel whenever I saw a note . My neighbors did come around to collect theirs from mine too.

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TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 13/10/2022 09:42

I would only take a parcel in for someone I know.
Someone tried to leave a parcel a few of days ago, and it was clearly marked with a different address. He was about to take a photo and leave it. I suspect he just couldn't be bothered to go to the right address as it was a flat.

redskyhaze · 13/10/2022 09:32

I wouldn't take them for someone who was rude to me.

But someone not coming for 3 days isn't that bad, it could just be because they are away or something. 3 weeks and I'd be more concerned!

Mostly it's just part of living in a community. I'd want neighbours to take parcels for me so would do it for them. It is frustrating when the delivery company doesn't leave a note, though.

thereisonlyoneofme · 13/10/2022 09:29

Stop taking them in !

Wdib78 · 13/10/2022 09:27

After the first woman I wouldn't have taken anymore and she'd have got a mouthful off me for the way she spoke

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