Should I still take parcels for neighbors ?

Net a porter!

My fuckwit next door but one neighbour has a serious pret a porter habit, two / three packages a day and I used to take htem in. Until they had a package for us and complained when I went to get it that they weren't a delivery service. I dont take hers anymore but do for my immediate neighbours.

I would only take for immediate next door neighbours, or people I know well. If you always take them, you’ll become the delivery guy’s default for everyone.

I’ve had repeated issues with Evri taking my parcels to a neighbour, even when I’m in. And saying they have been delivered to my house.

I then have to go round and disturb her to get them back. They don’t even tell me where they’ve gone, I just have to guess which house from the photo they take.

Don't take them if you don't want to but please don't say it is a lot of work!

I wfh so occasionally take things in for my neighbours. And they do the same for me if I am off. I don't get all the angst

Nice neighbours, yes I take their parcels. Rude neighbours or ones that I need to chase more than once: no (within reason, if they don't collect because of a covid infection or new baby or something unexpected then understandable. I do give them a fair chance).

It depends on which neighbour for me.

If the neighbour is rude, like your angry lady, then no, I won’t take in a parcel for them.
Or if the neighbour doesn’t collect their parcel for days, even when we know they’re in - I might give them a few chances in case the problem is a note not being posted through their door, but if it becomes a habit then, again, no, I won’t take their parcels.

And the note thing does happen occasionally. Once we left a parcel with our next door neighbours for a fortnight. The note through our door gave the address of our other next door neighbours, who’d just left for a 2 week holiday. We didn’t know the delivery man had written the note wrongly until these neighbours returned from their holiday and we went round to ask for the parcel.

A neighbour who’s polite and collects their parcels promptly, yes, I’ll take parcels for them.

We don't take in parcels for the house next door as they never come to get them that day. Then when they do they always moan that they weren't told where it was etc even though I've watched the delivery guy put the card through their door saying where it is.

The last parcel we took in we had for a week. The next time someone asked us my DH pointed out that they were in as the car was there and refused to take it. Told them to knock louder until they answered the door.

I am selective as we've lived here a long time and know who will collect and who will take things in on the rare occasion there is one for us!

Yeah I would make a no list with their house numbers.
Most of us take each others' in but everyone always collects and if not, it is because they didn't get the note. All ok.
Except once when we had parcel for 3 weeks. I was fuming but later found out the guy was in a hospital so he is back of "no list".

I'm selective about which neighbours I take parcels in for. Either side of us and opposite to the right is fine. Opposite to the left barely acknowledge our existence - they've been there 10 years - and when we have taken parcels in in the past they never come and collect them even though I know they've had a note to say it's here.
The 'dumping' of parcels on neighbours is mainly for the benefit of the delivery driver who gets paid a pittance to deliver it so doesn't want to have to come back again. One knocked on my door with a parcel for NDN and said his instructions were to leave parcel at mine. I said surely that's only if they're not in? There were 3 cars on their drive - he hadn't even bothered to knock there. I sent him next door saying I'd gladly take it but only if he couldn't deliver to the addressee. They were indeed at home.

I take them in for mine but they do the same for us. However, I wouldn't in your situation and the first woman would have been given an earful- the absolute cheek!

For me it really depends on the neighbour. We had one that got parcels every day but wouldn't open the door to the delivery driver, would never collect so I kept constantly having to send one of the kids over with it. That stopped fairly quickly. 2 of my others I always take them cause I know they're working, most of the time they collect or my son will bring them over if he's going out playing with their kids.

I only take them for people I know the names of, keeps it simple

I stopped taking parcels for my neighbour after they left a massive one uncollected for 2 weeks and didn't answer the few times I went round to tell them. I eventually put a passive aggressive note through their door and they picked it up. I then found out from delivery drivers that they put instructions on all their deliveries to deliver to my house! It was multiple times a day interrupting me during work calls so now all the delivery people know not to even ask, except the lovely Evri lady who I occasionally take one for.

If someone is rude or nasty then don't take parcels in. But I'm not bothered if people don't collect immediately, I give them a day and then knock on their door, it's no big deal - they might have not noticed the missed delivery note, or been away, or just not got the note in the first place.

My neighbours are either always out and some days can't be arsed to answer their door. I take parcel now ring their bell and walk away. There's a guy opposite us who won't open the door for parcels and half the time they are for him!

I would stop taking them in.

Are you saying that you saw the recipients, but because they hadn't been and asked you for it, you just kept hold of the parcel until they came days later? Why not just call over to them that you have a parcel? Knock on their door to advise them or even, simply take it over?

Yes, if I was aware that anyone had a parcel for me, I would immediately go and get it. However, not everyone gets a note - despite the delivery person's assurances. Or sometimes the flimsy note gets stuck in the letterbox or doesn't have the correct details of where the parcel has been left.

I personally would continue to accept parcels unless my neighbour was ungrateful or I had a reason to dislike or distrust them, as it is neighbourly.

In the last 7 years, I have had to retrieve parcels from neighbours twice, as we are almost always home, have Ring cameras, and have suitable places for parcels to be left. But I have taken in countless for my neighbours, including very large bulky items. Sometimes they collect, sometimes I deliver, sometimes I text to advise I have it and will leave on my doorstep for them to collect.

We take in for all neighbours bar one who wouldn't collect from us, we went over and she said "well bring it over", DH said "no I am 70+ and disabled, you are young and able bodied, you come and get it" She sent one of her childtren over a couple of days later we were in the process of sending it back, CF

Absolutely not.

I simply wouldn't dream of obliging people who clearly don't appreciate it.

Put a sign on your door if necessary.

I only ever take parcels for the neighbours on either side of me and they do the same for me and presumably for the neighbours on the other side of them. I don't take them for anyone else. My mum was like a bloody Royal Mail depot up until her Alzheimer's got to the point where she didn't answer the door. She didn't like doing it, but couldn't say no. Unlike her daughter🤣

Just say no, I’m not taking them.
There’s nothing they can do about it and if people aren’t thankful for it, don’t do it.

I think you've just been unlucky with rude neighbours, I'd stop all favours for gobby woman and tell the others they'd have to collect the parcels within a day or you can't take them anymore