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To think boys shouldn't be in women's toilets

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verazayac · 11/10/2022 12:15

...even if he's with his gay.

Just been to the shopping centre with toddler DD, she told me she needs the toilet so I took her, the women’s toilets are in a different place to the men's, I saw 2 girls with a teenage boy, I would guess between 16-18, they told him to go in with them as they didn't know where the men’s toilets were and told him he's gay and with friends anyway so he can't be accused of being a creep. I was a bit Hmm, I hurried DD and whilst we were washing our hands a few women did come in and look at him but didn't say anything.

Aibu to think he shouldn't have gone in the women's toilets even if he's gay and with friends?

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CrossStichQueen · 11/10/2022 13:30

Putin that's great for you but a male in the female toilet would mean many women would be unable to then use it it doesn't matter if he is gay or with female friends.

PutinSmellsPassItOn · 11/10/2022 13:28

Tbh a male in the female toilets with 2 female friends wouldn't bother me......a lone male however would.

LadyKenya · 11/10/2022 13:24

Beezknees · 11/10/2022 13:02

If a woman is uncomfortable with a man being in the women's toilets then why would I have been comfortable with my young child being alone with men in the men's toilets? Mine's 14 now so he obviously uses the men's but when he was younger he came in the women's with me. Boys are at risk from male predators as well as girls.

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Yes. When I used to take my younger brother out, years ago if I went into the ladies, or if he needed to go, I took him into the ladies. No way was I allowing him to use the male toilets on his own, when he was so young.

PeekAtYou · 11/10/2022 13:07

Wtf He should use the mens or wait outside the womens for his female friend like I see other men and older boys

Definitelymabel · 11/10/2022 13:07

Angelinflipflops · 11/10/2022 12:50

Are boys getting attacked in men's toilets a big problem?

Are women getting attacked by 10 year old boys in womens toilets a problem?

Live4weekend · 11/10/2022 13:05

PoundShopPrincess · 11/10/2022 12:58

I think OP meant even if he's gay and with his female friends.
He's not a boy. He's a man. He should be in the men's toilets.

Actual boys ie children - it's ok to be in with toilets with their DM or female relative.

But everyone knows this. It's only idiots that pretend they don't understand the rules. There has been consensus on where everyone goes for hundreds of years.

Is it clear to the kids here though?

There is a very high chance that this is not the message they are getting from school and their peers, online chat forums.

They are getting told that there are no reasons for males not to use the female toilets.

You would have hoped the parents would have had a not of sense about them, so he did know what was appropriate or not.

But this absolutely is not the message kids are getting from school.

girlmom21 · 11/10/2022 13:05

No he shouldn't be in the womens toilets and no being gay doesn't give you extra rights.

MrsSkylerWhite · 11/10/2022 13:04

Untitledsquatboulder · Today 12:54
Angelinflipflops · Today 12:50

Are boys getting attacked in men's toilets a big problem?

“Define "big". It certainly happens.”

this ^

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verazayac · 11/10/2022 13:03

I think OP meant even if he's gay and with his female friends.

Yes, that's what I meant.

As I said in my OP they all seemed to be 16-18 so he wasn't looking after 2 small children. I think it was just they couldn't be bothered to find the men's as he did tell them he'd wait outside then they told him to go in with them as they don't know where the men's are and ‘hes gay anyway’ so that's when he did.

Obviously, toddlers and younger children that are male should be allowed as they're too young to go in the men's alone but this isn't a young child, he's a teen.

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Beezknees · 11/10/2022 13:03

A 16 year old shouldn't have been in the women's though. Too old.

Beezknees · 11/10/2022 13:02

Angelinflipflops · 11/10/2022 12:50

Are boys getting attacked in men's toilets a big problem?

If a woman is uncomfortable with a man being in the women's toilets then why would I have been comfortable with my young child being alone with men in the men's toilets? Mine's 14 now so he obviously uses the men's but when he was younger he came in the women's with me. Boys are at risk from male predators as well as girls.

TheUsualChaos · 11/10/2022 13:01

By their logic, it would mean that similarly it is perfectly fine and safe for lesbians to use the men's toilets and no one would take any notice.

Clymene · 11/10/2022 13:00

Yes teenage boys have been assaulted in men's toilets. But women and girls are not human shields for vulnerable men and boys

PoundShopPrincess · 11/10/2022 12:58

I think OP meant even if he's gay and with his female friends.
He's not a boy. He's a man. He should be in the men's toilets.

Actual boys ie children - it's ok to be in with toilets with their DM or female relative.

But everyone knows this. It's only idiots that pretend they don't understand the rules. There has been consensus on where everyone goes for hundreds of years.

TheOrigRights · 11/10/2022 12:58

Geez, it's quite clear what "with his gay" is meant to say if you read the whole post.

Anyway, I am very surprised this young man was happy to enter the women's toilet. I would think most boys above about 9 or 10 would feel quite uncomfortable.
And of course he shouldn't have been in there. I would have challenged him.

5zeds · 11/10/2022 12:57

Well obviously he shouldn’t be in the womens toilets because women doesn’t mean “fancies men” does it? If the toilet was for people who like having sex with men it would say so. It’s for women and children just as the mens is for men and children.

TheUsualChaos · 11/10/2022 12:57

No he shouldn't have been in there but kids are being given such confusing messages at school and through social media now that I can see how the boundaries are becoming so blurred to them. It's concerning.

hesbeingabitofadick · 11/10/2022 12:56

Not a chance should he be in there.
I'd have reported to security.

Topseyt123 · 11/10/2022 12:54

No, a young man (including teenage boys) should not be in the ladies' toilets.

What does "with his gay" mean? He is gay, but is out with the girls and not his gay partner? He should still use the mens' toilets.

Untitledsquatboulder · 11/10/2022 12:54

Angelinflipflops · 11/10/2022 12:50

Are boys getting attacked in men's toilets a big problem?

Define "big". It certainly happens.

Untitledsquatboulder · 11/10/2022 12:53

Gay men are just as much men as straight ones. So of course should use the mens facilities. And of course the vast majority do, I don't think gsy men in womens toilets is generally a trend.

Angelinflipflops · 11/10/2022 12:50

Are boys getting attacked in men's toilets a big problem?

Ithoughtthiswastherehearsal · 11/10/2022 12:49

Under age 10 it’s fine and often necessary to protect boys from sexual assault in the men’s loo 😭

Over age 10ish (depending on the child) then no they shouldn’t be in the ladies.

It’s irrelevant that he’s gay, the girls had no right to make other women uncomfortable because they couldn’t be bothered to wait while he looked for the men’s loo.

This would never have happened before all the transgender lobbying nonsense.

CrossStichQueen · 11/10/2022 12:44

No of course he shouldn't. Any boy over the age of about 8 in my view should not be using female facilities.
Sadly all of the teenagers in this showed no respect for the women and girls using the toilet and I would have polity told them so.

PugInTheHouse · 11/10/2022 12:43

Absolutely should not be in there. No need for boys 9/10 upwards to be in the ladies toilet at all in most circumstances.

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