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To ask if school mum cliques upset you, or how do you deal with cliques?

258 replies

facefit · 10/10/2022 19:35

I'm new to school, my child is in reception. I've noticed that there are cliques forming.

How do you deal with it? Or just completely ignore?

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SunflowerSmith · 10/10/2022 19:42

What is there to deal with?
It really annoys me that if a group of school Mums become friends then it's called a clique.

I'm friends with 3 other Mums who I have met on the school run and they've really helped me through tough times, yeah we stand and chat to each other while we wait for our kids same as I would stand and chat with any other friends if we were in the same place.

It's the parents who make assumptions and judgements that I'd be more wary of.

BrilliantGreenFlamingo · 10/10/2022 19:42

Hasn’t been an issue. Some people are more friends with others. I chat to everyone. Just don’t make it an issue in your head. Go and say hi.

MbatataOwl · 10/10/2022 19:42

Are they actually Cliques or just friendship/ friendly acquaintances groups?

MadMadMadamMim · 10/10/2022 19:41

I'll be honest, they all went entirely over my head, if they existed.

I was there to drop my kids at school, and I am busy. I didn't notice cliques and couldn't give a shit about them.

InDubiousBattle · 10/10/2022 19:40

I've never had to do either tbh. My dc go to a big primary so loads of parents, grandparents, childminders etc doing drop offs and pick ups, some chat in groups, some look at their phones, many have a younger sibling they to watch, some rush in and out to get to work...

Lbnc2021 · 10/10/2022 19:39

I take my children to school, wave them off, go home/to work. I couldn’t tell you who’s friends with who etc and my eldest is 25 and my youngest is 10. I have never understood the anxiety around dropping your kids off at school.

luxxlisbon · 10/10/2022 19:38

It doesn’t bother me, they are just friendship groups.
Everyone is not going to be friends an equal amount. Closer groups of friends are normal in all circumstances.

Angelinflipflops · 10/10/2022 19:38

Just chat to them