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To ask for a handhold I feel so alone

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elm26 · 06/10/2022 23:21

I'm due to have a 6/7 week scan tomorrow after multiple miscarriages (double figures) and I've got period like cramps and bleeding.

I've been bleeding on and off for 2 weeks, no clots.

I feel so alone and I just want to cancel my scan in the morning. Time and time again I've sat in that waiting area, I've had to listen to the "I'm sorry" words, I've had to sit in the family room with a useless leaflet about miscarriage and a box of tissues.

I'm not religious but I could really do with some positive thoughts being put out there for me tonight, I'm not sure I can endure another loss 😢

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MyEasterEggs · 21/10/2022 06:44

Hope all goes well this morning. I have a six week scan today and I’m feeling very nervous having had six miscarriages. I took a long break from TTC before deciding on IVF and this is my first pregnancy in three years. Sending you love and solidarity 💛

lovemelongtime · 21/10/2022 06:21

Hope all goes well this morning x

Bumpsadaisie · 21/10/2022 06:20

Praying for you and your baby xxx Flowers

theremustonlybeone · 21/10/2022 06:06

Sending you positive energy !

nettie434 · 21/10/2022 05:43

Sending good wishes to you!

Igmum · 21/10/2022 05:38

Sending love ❤️ keep growing you lovely little bean

destiEos · 21/10/2022 05:35

Another person rooting for you can't hurt! 💕

Mulledwhynot · 21/10/2022 05:34

Big hugs and positive vibes 💜💜 x

50plusandfabulous · 21/10/2022 05:25

Sending love ❤️

Bobby80 · 21/10/2022 05:05

❤️

Manamala · 21/10/2022 05:05

Hi @elm26 have you already been offered/recieved progesterone pessaries? You are eligible for this as you have suffered multiple miscarriages (3+) and have had early bleeding. The research is called the PRISM trial and is now a NICE guideline. Sorry if this is old news to you.

Thinking of you for your scan today. ❤

Iamnotalemming · 21/10/2022 05:01

Big handhold and positive thoughts OP 💐

Elderflower14 · 21/10/2022 04:51

Sending huge hugs and prayers to you ♥

Rowgtfc72 · 21/10/2022 04:43

Thinking of you today x

PhilomenaPringle · 21/10/2022 04:04

My dear daughter was married age 32 after 5 years of them being together.
At 39 she still hasn't conceived, Infertility is just so awful. IVF is the next step.
But she's been told she's a bit too old, even for that. She feels bad that she might never make me a grandmother, and she's my only chance.

Of course that matters to me not one jot. Although it would be nice of course.
I just feel so much, for her, not me. It comes just so easy for most people.

It's hard to swallow when it doesn't.

mathanxiety · 21/10/2022 03:48

Sending good wishes Flowers

MrsLargeEmbodied · 21/10/2022 03:45

best of luck x

IndiaRose22 · 21/10/2022 03:39

Sending you positive, sticky vibes ❤️💐

lunar1 · 21/10/2022 03:31

Keeping everything crossed for you, I've been there. I has so much loss before I had my boys, it's hard to ever believe it's real. 💕

EmmaGrundyForPM · 21/10/2022 03:16

crossing everything I've got for you, and sending positive thoughts

Cakeandcoffee93 · 21/10/2022 02:59

sending you love and light x

Vecna · 21/10/2022 02:32

Wishing you the very best. I've never had the misfortune of a miscarriage, but I've suffered infertility (overcome via IVF) and every woman who goes through heartbreak and desperation trying to become a mum has a special place in my heart. Hope this is the start of a beautiful thing for you x

oakleaffy · 21/10/2022 02:18

elm26 · 06/10/2022 23:30

Thank you @HenryHooverIsMyDH and @Yellowrosesblue ♥️

NHS can't find any cause and I can't afford to go private so this is the last attempt. My heart cannot take anymore loss. If this isn't okay, I have to accept I'll never be a Mum.

A very poorly woman was told “ Sorry, you’ll never be able to have a child “
Her daughter is writing to you now!
Fingers crossed for you and yours x

Foronenightonly22 · 21/10/2022 02:16

Good luck xx

oakleaffy · 21/10/2022 02:15

Best of Luck @elm26
Early days are the hardest… It’s like jumping hurdles-
Once you are past the perilous early weeks, you ought to be able ( Hopefully) to feel less terrified .

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