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To ask for a handhold I feel so alone

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elm26 · 06/10/2022 23:21

I'm due to have a 6/7 week scan tomorrow after multiple miscarriages (double figures) and I've got period like cramps and bleeding.

I've been bleeding on and off for 2 weeks, no clots.

I feel so alone and I just want to cancel my scan in the morning. Time and time again I've sat in that waiting area, I've had to listen to the "I'm sorry" words, I've had to sit in the family room with a useless leaflet about miscarriage and a box of tissues.

I'm not religious but I could really do with some positive thoughts being put out there for me tonight, I'm not sure I can endure another loss 😢

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EyjafjallajöKullStrikesAgain · 16/11/2022 19:07

Good luck!! My lovely daughter was born in Feb after 3 miscarriages and a pulmonary embolism. I was also on Clexane, Aspirin and progesterone pessaries. Miracles can happen! Got everything crossed for you.

Butterlover1 · 16/11/2022 18:42

Can't wait for the next update OP!

Don't know you but you'll be in my mind tomorrow ❤

Toomanysleepycats · 16/11/2022 18:32

My little baby is 26 yrs, but I’m crossing fingers and sending you positive thoughts. Xxx

Allllllrightythen · 16/11/2022 18:18

Keeeeeeping every single part of my body crossed. Looking forward to a lovely update tomorrow! Xox

CoffeeLover90 · 16/11/2022 18:17

@elm26 I can't wait that long to know the gender haha, you're stronger than me!
My fingers have been crossed since finding your post and they'll stay that way until baby is snuggled in your arms Flowers

FayeGovan · 16/11/2022 18:01

Absolutely

spiderlight · 16/11/2022 17:54

I will have my fingers and toes crossed for you tomorrow and will be looking forward to the latest picture!

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elm26 · 16/11/2022 17:51

Hello everyone! Hope you're all well.

I've come to ask reaaaally nicely that all you amazing aunties (and/or uncles?!) do one last big fingers crossed for me as it's my official 12 (should be 12+4) week scan tomorrow morning! I can't believe I've made it here and I'm getting all anxious thinking about it!

Lots of love to you all 💛

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50plusandfabulous · 09/11/2022 21:17

Wonderful news 😍

Ingrainedagainstthegrain · 09/11/2022 18:58

Good luck!

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elm26 · 09/11/2022 18:49

itssquidstella · 09/11/2022 17:39

Fantastic news, @elm26! I had a healthy DS in May after three miscarriages and I remember the sheer terror before each scan. Fingers crossed that the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly! Sending you lots of love and good wishes.

It's an awful feeling isn't it. I'm so glad you got your miracle! Xxx

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elm26 · 09/11/2022 18:49

ghostyslovesheets · 09/11/2022 17:55

Lovely news OP just lovely

I have been there many times - your description of the waiting room, the leaflet and the 'sorry' made me cry - but I got my babies and I'm so happy to see yours x

I'm so sorry that you experienced this heartache and pain and I'm so glad to hear that you've got your precious babies ♥️

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elm26 · 09/11/2022 18:48

WombOfOnesOwn · 09/11/2022 18:37

Awwww @elm26 I had a story a lot like yours!! Several miscarriages. Then bleeding when I got pregnant in 2015. Went for a scan totally convinced I was having another miscarriage...and saw my baby's heartbeat.

That baby is now a math whiz 6 year old...and he has three little brothers, too! I don't know why my body suddenly figured out how to keep a pregnancy but I am grateful every day for the sudden change in fortune.

Wow such an amazing heart warming story that you've finally got your babies 🥰🥹 it's so much heartache isn't it? I wish no other person had to go through what we've been through.

Thank you for sharing, I'm over the moon that you got your family 🥹 x

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WombOfOnesOwn · 09/11/2022 18:37

Awwww @elm26 I had a story a lot like yours!! Several miscarriages. Then bleeding when I got pregnant in 2015. Went for a scan totally convinced I was having another miscarriage...and saw my baby's heartbeat.

That baby is now a math whiz 6 year old...and he has three little brothers, too! I don't know why my body suddenly figured out how to keep a pregnancy but I am grateful every day for the sudden change in fortune.

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elm26 · 09/11/2022 18:23

@CoffeeLover90 I'm convinced boy too! Although we aren't planning to find out and I don't mind either way but the little bit sticking out on that scan has made me think! X

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elm26 · 09/11/2022 18:21

Thank you so much everyone again, you've all helped me so so much throughout this worrying anxiety inducing time and I'm hoping I can breathe a little after my final scan next week (12 weeks) before the 8 week wait until 20 weeks.

Words can't explain how shocked I am that I am growing this baby, I never ever thought I would get here, I gave up on my dream to be a Mum and after lots and lots of miscarriages, this one came out of the blue, unexpected, a big shock and is my own little miracle.

I hope anyone who's reading this who may be in a similar position find hope from reading my story, don't ever give up ♥️

I'm also sorry to read so many of you have been through this too, I'm so glad to hear about your healthy DC's ☺️

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Jackie246 · 09/11/2022 18:19

The most wonderful and loveliest news!

wizzler · 09/11/2022 18:05

Fabulous!

Wildmamma · 09/11/2022 18:02

Wonderful news ❤️

ghostyslovesheets · 09/11/2022 17:55

Lovely news OP just lovely

I have been there many times - your description of the waiting room, the leaflet and the 'sorry' made me cry - but I got my babies and I'm so happy to see yours x

MarthasMum30 · 09/11/2022 17:53

yey! This is gorgeous ❤️

slowquickstep · 09/11/2022 17:51

Excellent news🍀

SeaGlassShining · 09/11/2022 17:48

Wonderful news, hope everything continues to go well for you both. Best wishes OP and baby 🥰

itssquidstella · 09/11/2022 17:39

Fantastic news, @elm26! I had a healthy DS in May after three miscarriages and I remember the sheer terror before each scan. Fingers crossed that the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly! Sending you lots of love and good wishes.

PeanutAnarchy · 09/11/2022 17:38

Just wanted to wish you all the very best Elm.
Reading this thread has made my day xx