To not understand why double barrel surnames are so wrong/bizarre to some people?

Carson Violet Prententious-Prat
Carson Violet Sky High- Salary
Carson Violet Richer Than You- Richardson
Carson Violet Prodigious- Pregnancy Package.

Not sure which I like more...

Oh god OP you are really not helping yourself here - eeek

Hyphenated first names really make me secretly eye roll 🙄, so pretentious and way too an occurrence now.

So many people saying it's pretentious.

Good grief, is it pretentious to want your kids to have your surname included in their surname? I kept my surname when I married, is that pretentious too? I also use my title of 'Dr' (PhD) on forms, so I suppose I am viewed as pretentiousness-central.

As to what my kids will do with their surnames if and when they marry, that's entirely up to them.

I have already told you some insights, but you are defensive to them and quite obviously bored.

Instead of looking for outlet for your frustrations - your time would be better spent looking after your baby....

Bye now

Some PP said this was untrue but it is, My parents weren't married when I was born (late 80s). I had my mum's name until I was married. Having the mums name is the real tradition it was just less common to have unmarried parents as they'd usually have a shotgun wedding.

Jacob Rees-Mogg

Is also the reason I'd never double barrel, the man gives me nightmares and is the holder of a double barrel name 😂

This.

You are the epitome of why double barreled names are pretentious, showy and utterly wannabe grandiose.

I wouldn't expect any less 😂

I have kept my own name, actually. Yes read them all

Sorry if none of that fits in with your agenda

It's naff and pretentious. But people like to think it's forward thinking and "out there".

I think some people have offered you some insight. Albeit not what you wanted to hear
Therein lies the problem, it wasn't what you wanted to hear, sadly.

The validation you are seeking? Only you can answer that question in this instance

Personally I am glad you say you are proud, however - you do not display as someone who is sure of their choices, to an outsider. ie seeking validation, being defensive etc.

I am not meaning to attack you BTW, just saying what I see here

I'm not a fan of double barrel surnames personally. I find them clunky, long and a mouthful, which is why I didn't give my child one. I also feel sorry for the kid who has to learn to spell it.

But I don't care what other people call their kids. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Call your kid Bob Bobby-McBob if you want, I don't have to yell it up the stairs each night 😂

My name is not on loan to me from a man. It's mine.

But let's take your point at face value for a moment. My family name invokes my life's history and those I grew up and shared it with. Yes, there was abuse in that past but that's even more reason for wanting to keep it. It shows what I've striven to overcome, my history, for better or worse, and how I intend to make a better fist of it than the father I happen to have inherited it from. It was also my mother's name and my brother's, and it's a link to the loving family bonds I shared with them.

Say, for the sake of argument, that certain MN posters insist that my name is my father's name (and my brothers') but not mine because I was born with XX chromosomes. Why, then, would I relinquish it in favour of my FiL's name, for that of a family with whom I don't share that same history? Albeit DH's family history is very colourful and fascinating, it still isn't mine.

It's entirely reasonable for a man to want to preserve those links, but not a woman? This argument makes simply no sense.

I always think it's interesting when women who clearly haven't kept their own names, double barrelled or any of the other things that get discussed around this topic feel able to come on and assure us that nobody really cares. Especially after a thread in which women who have done these things have shared experiences of people responding to their naming decisions by complaining, deliberately using incorrect names etc. Did you not read any of those posts, or did you just decide they weren't relevant?

It would have never occurred to me that DB names are pretentious - its a name, so not anyone else's business.

But ongoing braggery, esp the above quoted post - is seeping with it - so to be fair, you are getting the responses that will come from that

It really is not a good personality trait

How is it 'depressing' what other people think? How do you know what people think, did you do a poll? Are you a mind reader?

I really wonder if this stuff actually matters to others as in does it even cross their mind to have an opinion? It is certainly not something that would come up on my radar on teh day to day

Do you normally suffer from poor mental health?

I have suffered Dysthymia all my life and do not understand this comment

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and on this thread as a whole-

I have to agree with what someone said above about people having courage of convictions, if people are so sure they are doing the right thing, they do not need to make a thread on Mums Net, to get validating for their choices - and when others do not agree do the old passive aggressive tone of patronising to death anyone who doesn't agree with what they need validating for

I am pretty sure that no one really cares that much / or minds

The majority of adult women having babies now either have their own dads last name or their husbands.

You mean either their own dad's or their FIL's according to that logic. My name is mine just as much as DH's is his.

Quelle horreur!