To not understand why double barrel surnames are so wrong/bizarre to some people?

I find them annoying as well as hyphenated first names which are even worse IMO

I don’t personally like them because it forces the next generation to pick which name to drop to avoid exponential name growth. The child can’t view their own surname as one unit and pass it on as a whole if both sides names will be used. So basically it solves the parent’s dilemma and gives one to the child.

I wouldn’t criticize your name choice personally though. Once a child is named, that is the child’s name and it should be respected.

It is just ridiculous. Why not just give it as a middle name? It’s pretentious, makes life harder for the child that has to write it out and sounds silly. In fifty years we’ll have teachers reading out a register with Seth Morgan-Williams-Barrett-Hodgkins and names like that if the trend continues.

My kids are double-barrelled - largely because there’s no way in hell I was going to carry a child, give birth to it and then let just the fathers name be that child’s surname. Fuck that!

I also insisted we double-barrelled when we got married.

Yes, my surname and my kids is a mouthful - but why should it default to the father of the child’s name??

Or rather ditch one surname when naming their dc I should have said

Its none of the IL's business so they should say nothing.
But as you're asking on a forum, I think double-barrelling is pretty daft. The question of what happens next generation of names is valid. 2 parents with double barrelled names will each have to ditch one name and risk offending one parent each. You can't say it matters to you having the same surname as your dc and pretend you wouldn't bat an eyelid if they ditch it when they marry.

the issue of surnames is a tricky one and I definitely don't think its should automatically be father's name (DD has mine). But double-barrelling doesn't solve it.

I double-barrelled my kids' names and I love it. I did all the hard work and I like my name, I wanted it in there as well. Plus it sounds cool af. When we get married the most I'll do is add his surname to mine or just keep my own and have the kids reflect both of us. Where I grew up though double-barrelled names were always seen as posh and pretentious!

My grandma though just cannot seem to get that his surname is both our names, not just my partner's! So annoying

My first thought was that it's good to mix up the norm of always giving husband's name. However I think that down the line, if giving a surname to a child there are only so many names you can hold onto, and therefore some will inevitably be dropped. I would not have liked to decide whether to drop my mother or father's name, so having thought about it, I prefer choosing one, either mother or father's.

I have to send out a large volume of emails most days. When I see a double barrelled name I inwardly groan! All of the single surnames can just be written Joe.Bloggs etc but the double barrelled one's sometimes have hyphens or the 2 names joined or some other configuration and then I have to spend time searching to make sure it's right. So from that perspective yabu.

Meh. I mean I think it sounds a little pretentious but I also sort of admire that the mum’s name isn’t lost and that it’s routine in parts of the EU eg Spain. I think it will become more common over here.

I have a double-barrelled name without a hyphen (so basically two surnames) which seems to annoy a lot of people 😂 if I have a kid and they want to marry someone with a double-barrelled name I assume they’ll decide some sort of sensible compromise. DH has one surname but I chose to double barrel mine when we got married as I didn’t want to lose my birth name but I did want to have the same name as any kids.

Oh I know it's awful. My inlaws made such a fuss over it and send post etc to me as Mrs DH's last name. I find it insulting.