To not understand why double barrel surnames are so wrong/bizarre to some people?

Snort.

Spain is a nation of Hyacinth Buckets, it would seem.

having the second last name as a second middle name all around can be easier for all,

might as well not bother. I use my name (first, last) multiple times every day. Nobody cares about middle names.
Also, as so many people are worried about grandchildren and how the poor things will manage - your DC might want to live elsewhere in the future, many countries have much stricter naming laws and it is often not possible for them to give their children any other names than their actual last name. I've lived in several and in none of them can you use your middle name for that, never mind a random made up one.

Speaking as another chav with a few quid in my pocket these days, I actively enjoy the idea that the kids having both names is a lower class signifier. Excellent!

Get the stickers - sewing name labels is a fool’s errand

dont be ridiculous- no it doesn’t. It’s something they’ve been doing in Spain for years. Also dds can use whichever surname they like informally but have both for official documents.

All I can think of is how much longer it will take to sew on the name-tapes.
(Gets coat).

Cos it sounds pretentious - and tacky

I’m unmarried and gave dds double barrelled names. I’m a wealthy professional now but grew up on a council estate. So maybe it’s just my common nature coming through.

Fucked if I’m going to join the patriarchy because some snob thinks I’m common. They likely would anyway.

@CarsonViolet

Don't make assumptions as to why women change their name. For me I had a very boring very common short name, I ditched it for a more interesting last name (they would have been bizarre double barrelled). Others are estranged from their family and keen for a fresh start. Having the same last name is helpful crossing national borders, ask anyone who has older kids who haven't got the same last name!

I went to a posh college, and I can remember the various ‘common’ people who couldn’t wait to get married so they could give themselves a doublebarrelled name. I thought it rather pathetic

Just get rid of surnames to save all the arguments.

It kind of depends partly if the names work together, also too long is a problem - maximum characters is an issue (DD's friend had to decide what name to use in the military because her hyphenated name was too long for the name tag!)

There is not a single best solution, it's what works for you but two last names (no hyphen) doesn't work with many computer systems because you can't have a space (I didn't write my computer system!) having the second last name as a second middle name all around can be easier for all, especially a 6 year old learning to spell

For us it was just practical. We're not married and we're a female-female couple, so was simpler for DD to be Smith-Jones so both of us had one name that corresponded to hers - people tend to hear the names and it 'clicks' how we're related to her, rather than them constantly assuming (as happens to friends in the same situation) that one of them isn't the child's mum.

I would assume DD will either pick a name and drop the other, or not change her name at all; it's entirely up to her and neither of us is sentimental about our names so we wouldn't care which she kept and which she didn't.

The only thing that does annoy me is when MIL insists that because DP's name comes second (sounds better that way), therefore mine is really a middle name and she can omit it. But that is annoying purely because I am well aware the intention is to annoy!

I agree. I gave dds both our surnames (no hyphen). Ex and his family were a bit bemused by it. Ex seemed to think I would be changing my surname- I explained that wasn’t happening. They’re the only ones in their class with a double barrel- I say if anyone asks, tell them your mums a feminist.

Meh, regardless of the patriarchy I didn't actually like my surname so was glad to change it when I married. Not that I would have preferred my mother's maiden name either. So it's not always a patriarchy question.

I know people who have kept names when married or double barrelled, it's a choice.

I'd not choose to double barrel because my first name is enough of a faff to spell...

There are exceptions, obviously, but the general trend is that marriage is becoming a marker of privilege. I posted the Spectator link up thread, but a casual google will find you lots of information. There's a strong correlation between income/education levels and rates of marriage.

I thought it was a sign of unmarried parents rather than anything pretentious?

It seems a bit unnecessary to me but then I have to handwrite names a lot so writing out two names instead of one is irritating!

Why does it not 'belong' to any females? It sounds like the men all got it from a man too, but it still counts as theirs?

So how does it work, my DS has a surname but DD doesn't, not really? It's just a pretend name she is using?

I have a double barrelled name and gave my DCs one too, with DP's name swapped in for one of my names. I chose the more interesting of my names to give them. I doubt they will keep my half if they do what I did, but that doesn't bother me at all.

I hate the term maiden name. I prefer birth name. Mine belongs to me as much as my brother's belongs to him, so I don't understand the idea that it's your father's. Also if you choose to change your name then that name belongs to you too.

I agree with this. Plus... My surname is just my dad's name. And his dad, and his grandads. The name doesn't belong to any females, like my mum or grandma. So it doesn't feel very progressive or feminist to be bothered about keeping it tbh.

Here's one. My God. It's YOUR name, not your dad's. You choose what you want to do with it. Patriarchy may have given you that name but you get to decide what to do with it. It was yours and belonged to YOU.