to feel jealous that there are people who don’t have any mental health issues

Hopefully this doesn’t get taken the wrong way but something that really helped me along the way (in addition to reading/ working on my attachment trauma) is to read about depression and self centredness. I know that sounds awful and I honestly don’t mean it to but it’s really helped me reframe a lot. Am currently also reading the book “Selfie - How the world became so self obsessed” by Will Store, helps put things into a bigger perspective.

Not sure if that was helpful or just completely offensive xxx

I understand. I’m having a particularly bad time of it tonight with my mental health/jealousy - a friend announced that they’ve just bought a house. They’ve had the luxury of living at home their entire lives, and been able to save up, whilst surrounded by a loving supportive family, whereas I have an emotionally abusive parent, so I had to move out at 18 and make it on my own since, which has been a massive struggle with my poor mental health and never really having a support network. I rent a flat and all my money goes into it - it will probably be years before I can afford to buy a house.. maybe never, even. I would certainly never begrudge anyone any happiness, but I look at this person and think “god, life has been so much easier for them, why couldn’t I have at least something - good mental health - going for me to make my life successful..?” Not even successful, just normal.. bearable, even..

Sorry for hijacking your post - just took the opportunity to vent. I wish I had a solution for us both. I guess it’s natural to feel a little jealous - not everyone has the same lot in life, unfortunately. We’ve just got to keep fighting and try and ask the right people for help - hopefully one day it’s not quite as hard as it once was and we can learn to not compare ourselves to others so much.

Yes, it can be incredibly debilitating. And some people like to use the term ‘depressed’ when what they mean is they’re a bit fed up.