To try for a fourth baby?

@Jaaxe - are you still here? Just saw your comment. What is life like with a 4th in your situation? I think I'm pregnant with a 4th - I have all the signs, just a day or so away from time to take a test. (I really hope I'm not pregnant but preparing mentally for the outcome of it being positive).

Hi, just wondered what you did in the end OP? Do you now have 4?

I wouldn't do it.

It is statistically likely that you will have another one of the same sex - not gender, which is not actually a real thing - and three children is already a lot.

You sound like the kind of person who will always have a longing for another one but you can't keep going forever.

Focus on the children you already have and the things you will be able to do with them once they're all out of the baby stage.

Its pretty sad that you want a 4th just for gender, I hope if you do they don't find out (although it's pretty obvious when you're the 3rd or 4th of the same sex in a row). Don't do it.

Well said 👏

Can you afford it (long term too, university, house deposits etc); do you genuinely have time for 4 children - quality, daily 1:1 time? If yes, then why not.

tThree is enough. Think of the planet.
If you want to be around babies all the time perhaps you could train to be a nanny.

@TulipVictory I wonder what you decided? Came across this thread as my heart wants a fourth (I also have three of the same sex) but my head knows it’s not a good decision. I have found it really helpful reading everyone’s comments.

Sorry it sounds like you just want another child in the hope it would be a boy.

Going for a second gives you a few bonuses. You get to experience the bond of the siblings, hopefully they entertain eachother, they will have each other when the parents are gone, you get a shot at having one of each gender etc...

More than 2... i really don't see any good reasons honestly.

What would one get from a third that two don't already give you? Or two to one?

@wibblewobbleball what does it rule out for you?

With the very greatest respect, I think you're burying your head in the sand a bit. Overpopulation isn't a theory, it's a fact.
I do totally agree with your comments about consumption and the wealthy etc. But all western humans end up being big consumers by global standards.
By all means have a large a family as you like, but please own it, and don't pretend it doesn't take a huge toll on our dying ecosystem.
Disclaimer - I'm not a misanthrope at all, and I love babies, in fact it's for their sake that I think it's irresponsible to have too many of them.

Count your blessings. You have three healthy children.

This thread is a couple of months old, why has it been resurrected?

What would you get from a fourth that three don't already give you? Three seems plenty.

Why does anyone need three? Isn't two enough? Isn't one enough? Why do you even need one at all??

Actively choosing a fourth, knowing how much strain our NHS is under, is a piss take. It isn't just the cost of ante natal, delivery and post natal care, it's also another service user but ops fourth will put the same pressure on those services as Amry's 3rd or Sarah's 2nd or Tonys 1st or Peter's 1st so why not tell those people too before they ttc they're selfish?

Why does anyone need four children? Aren't three enough?

@HerMajestysRoyalCoven totally agree

That's such a weird take...

Not getting pregnant because it would add pressure on a public service that you are already subsidising via taxes?

I can think of a hundred reasons not to have a 4th baby, but this one ain't it.

Do you also go around lecturing people who smoke/drink/are obese/have dangerous hobbies like rock-climbing about how much pressure they put on the NHS? Those are much more frivolous life choices who will lead to just as much or even more medical intervention eventually.

Otherwise this is all just a tad hypocritical

No I don't and nor would I say it to someone who was having their fourth because of a contraceptive mishap.

Actively choosing a fourth, knowing how much strain our NHS is under, is a piss take. It isn't just the cost of ante natal, delivery and post natal care, it's also another service user.

Would you be disappointed if you had a fourth and it was the same gender? Because if so, don’t do it.

Financially speaking, I don’t think you sound a good place. And to be quite honest I think your attention should rest with your three existing children rather than a selfish desire to have a baby that has the gender of the opposite sex.

Haven't RTFT sorry but have read all OP posts.

Personally I wouldn't have a child until that child could already fit into the house I had, car, job, lifestyle etc. Being pregnant and having to move house quickly would be my idea of a nightmare.

I also think you should ask yourself - if it was absolutely guaranteed that you would have another girl, would you still do it?

Children are many, many times worse than anything else one can do environmentally. Even cars, planes, eating meat, living in a big house.

amp.theguardian.com/environment/2017/jul/12/want-to-fight-climate-change-have-fewer-children

The earth just hit 8 billion people. We don’t need more children. What we do need is policies that allow people to move around freely and live and work in other places, where there is demand. Oh, and voluntary euthanasia, so that those who don’t want to live for 20 years in a care home can legally opt out of doing so. (I’d be the first to sign up, no hypocrisy here.)

Ugh no. You need to look at those celebrities and famous people you follow who own massive houses with only 1 or 2 people inside. Wasting resources. Flying private jets and fuel hungry cars everywhere etc etc etc.

If you want to talk about saving the earth how about talking about single and small families downsizing. Why do 2 people need a massive house a waste of natural resources.
That is more of a pressing issue.

If you look at Japan they are im a oanic as their population is dropping becuase people don't want kids anymore. They have a special sector in the goverbment trying to.match make!!! Becuase they need more babies to be born.so your over population theory makes 0 sense.
We need babies wending need money hungry greedy people.