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Dating someone with a child. Worth it?

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dmwalker · 22/08/2022 18:32

I've been seeing someone who has a child. (I wouldn't ordinarily date someone with a child). Been together 7 months, but friends for many years prior. Dates are often cut short because he can't manage his time, his ex still contacts him daily as they run a business together. They still plan on taking family holidays together, work together etc... it is really bizarre that they don't seem separated at all. He said it's because they have to/want to remain friends for the sake of the child - which I totally understand - and encourage.

But there's zero 'separation' and I feel like his life is some strange juggling act. He's constantly messaging and taking her calls even when we are together.

Whenever I mention it; I'm told that I 'don't understand' because I don't have a child and that I'm being 'immature'. I'm tired of being made to feel like I am asking too much - when it's really the bare minimum. I work as a Dr so my time is limited.

I'm 32, live alone in London, otherwise have a great life, friends etc...

Should I just break this off and not waste anymore of my time?

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aSofaNearYou · 22/08/2022 18:36

Whenever I mention it; I'm told that I 'don't understand' because I don't have a child and that I'm being 'immature'.

Before I even got to this bit, no, but after reading this, definitely not.

Hapoydayz · 22/08/2022 18:35

I wouldn’t bother, too much hassle

SparklyLeprechaun · 22/08/2022 18:33

There are other men out there, ditch.

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