To not understand why some couples have to do everything together

I think many people are in a couple because they like spending time together.. and then you want to share the experiences of having your child and doing things together! What’s the point tbh if you don’t enjoy it..we can do this separately but often if we are both at home not working it’s nice to do it together xo

I totally agree with you OP!
A lot of the examples you gave show real co dependence.
Fair enough you like each other's company, but why would the other person want to go to the supermarket if you had the option not to?!
Same with the school run, like a PP said i'm also quite surprised when there's couples there regularly picking up a kid, i'm often wondering don't they have work ?

Not my mate...mate!

No, not clear at all. Do you want to meet up with your friends or just some people with vaginas?
I see the point of sex segregation for certain things like toilets and changing rooms and sports, but the point of a night out is to meet up with friends isn't it?

My DH and I do anything we can together so if we can both take dd to clubs or go to a parents night then we do, his shifts don’t always allow for this. We enjoy each other’s company and spend what we can together which often revolves around dd. If I was to say oh I will just go to sports day he would say no I want to see dd too. We had 7 years of ivf for her so I think both don’t want to miss a moment as she will likely be our only one. We do lots apart too due to our work hours. We both have the odd night out without the other one. On his days off he does all the bedtime routine, makes dinners etc. He often takes her to the park for an hour to give me a rest. The rest of the week and weekend it’s me and dd. I have to say though from dd being a baby if she was crying or being too noisy one of us always left as that is just inconsiderate.

Not a friend no but a neighbour...hence why I know about the bins :)

And calling your mate and partner sad Siamese gimps. Oh yes, that oozes happiness to be that critical of them over something so harmless.

Perhaps not to you but generally very rude! Still remember years ago a friend of my ne (no longer 😁) who should've been at my hen night, turned up with her husband to my DH stag DGS. Neither of them apparently saw the problem. Never mind that my DH barely new him, let alone her and it completely changed the feel and flow of the night for everyone. Sorry but that's just not on!

Some of us have that connection but also realise how unhealthy it is to lose your independence, your friendships, your autonomy etc.

I am far from unhappy Miss Boring.

But I would be if my husband was superglued to my hip like that but thanks for your concern.

You don't think that poster sounds extremely over-invested in other people's relationships, most likely a friend they're bad mouthing? It's loser behaviour, sorry.

Yeah, but the complaint is about people bringing partners!
I have no interest in socialising only with women. I do prefer my friends to other people, but I don't see why you'd want new lesbian partners, but not hetero ones.

we also go to parents evening together, didn’t realise there was anything wrong with that?

no one is talking about parents evening! good grief read the post first

Dh and I are very independent of each other. Separate hobbies most evenings, plenty we do enjoy doing together as well.

The supermarket thing makes me laugh, I love going to the supermarket on my own! Mostly because it ends up cheaper 😂

I had a friend back in our 20s who did nothing without her partner. I remember her texting me stressed as she needed milk and break for the morning but she wouldnt go get them for the co-op up the hill until her DH was able to go with her and he was running late home from work.

I have a friend who wont ever miss a dinner with her DH. To the point we could be socialising but she has to be home in time for dinner or she wont come out till after dinner.

Can’t see what is wrong with two parents going to a school meeting, why would it just be up to one. Sounds a tiny bit bitter, to be honest.

The crashing a lunch thing is weird, but I’ve never known anyone to do that.

I'm with you OP. It doesn't take two people to go to kids parties or an info evening. I find it odd too.

It’s clearly all about balance. My sister does FUCK all with her partner. Nothing, zilch, nada. People are gobsmacked when they find out she has a man lol 😂. They holiday separately too and when he’s not at home I’ll casually ask oh where’s *? And she genuinely has NO idea.

Wow. How unhappy do you have to be to post this?

That sounds intense but they sound happier than you.

I don't get that impression at all.

I agree with you OP on some things.

Couples that take the entire family to Tesco for example.

But family meals? That’s something for both of us. I love an evening with ‘the girls’ but we avoid going out at the weekend with friends as it is family time to us.

And here's you ranting about me ha ha. Hope you're happy Babe!

My DH and I have to do everything together. Otherwise we wouldn't be able to fit all of our arguments into the day.😂

I would have loved my (now divorced) parents to have done more of the things you listed.

That said, I value alone time too & my partner is so slow in the supermarket we rarely shop together & we each have our own weekly hobbies to attend.

They're sad but you're here ranting about them on an online forum. That sounds intense but they sound happier than you.

I do almost everything with my DH but I agree there are some occassions that it is weird for a whole family to show up, like at a birthday party for example. When one of our DC has a party one parent takes them and the other parent does something with the other DC. Just makes sense.

Kids after school activities also. DS used to go to one a few years ago that seemed more like a family event. It was on about 7pm and at that point DD was a toddler so was going to bed around 7/7:30 so one of us would take DS and the other would stay home and put DD to bed. There was a family with a toddler the same age who would all go together and sit to watch the elder child do the activity, the toddler would get upset and they would say "aww he's tired it's passed his bedtime". I mean ffs there are two parents right here why can't one of you take the poor boy home? Why do both of you need to come and drag him out later than he wants to be? Another couple came and dragged their poor young teen who sat with a face like thunder all the way through and they would shout at him. Again there are two of you why drag the poor boy here when he doesn't want to be? Madness.