Porn culture has led to women suffering injuries during sex

@SammyScrounge 'THAT is the last thing we should teach young women. They need to learn that they have a right to enjoy sex and that their pleasure centres (very rich pleasure centres)are not located in their anus, that orgasms start in another place and that anal sex is gross anyway.'

I am all for proper education to be able to give informed consent. But isn't what you are mooting here very similar to a a guy saying ' it's amazing you'll love it, go on'?

It's putting your opinion to someone as a fact that you expect them to agree and go along with. Just another form of coercion.

@msssm I think it's more that it's so common in porn and porn is so available. Men get the message that it's a normal part of sex and all women love it. It's also combined with other sadistic behaviour in porn, so men can get conditioned to needing a repertoire of abusive behaviour to enjoy sex at all.

@WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps don't you accept that other people have different opinions to you?

My first experience was very similar to yours. Where it differs though is that I really enjoyed it. I love the sensations that you seemed to hate. Is that ok that not everyone will feel the same?

I hate the attitude, prominently displayed on this thread, that if a woman actually likes anything that you don't, or anything that a man likes, she's a pick me cool girl who's brainwashed by the patriarchy and desperate to be special.

If a women wants to have anal sex then by all means crack on.

But you can’t deny that there has been a massive increase in people doing or wanting to do anal than there used to be and that’s because people think they ‘should’ do it rather than actually wanting to.

I'm just sick of mens attitude to sex now. That includes my ex husband who thought anything vanilla was boring and it had to be new and exciting everytime - porn type stuff. All this was of course triggered by the extreme porn he had started to watch, most of the men I meet now want this and it just makes me sick.
What happened to love making with someone you love.
Now you have to have a vibrator in one hole, him in another whilst standing on your head. No thank you. I'd rather not bother.

This. Disgusting judgement of women by women.

"“Increased rates of faecal incontinence and anal sphincter injury have been reported in women who have anal intercourse,” the report said."

Nothing shouts louder that you literally do not care one jot about your partner that you might put pressure on her to do something (or even just try to persuade her if she is in two minds) where the above are accepted potential consequences.

So many people commenting who clearly haven’t bothered reading the article. Anal sex is more dangerous for women than it is for men. The article explains why. I’m not sure why people are getting offended at the suggestion that education is required to ensure it is practiced as safely as possible.

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YANBU

When I was younger I wanted to try it but none of my friends or partner had ever tried it or knew anyone who had.

Now I’d say most men and many women have tried it or want to try it.

If people want to try it then that’s their choice just like oral sex but I think many young don’t realise that it’s not the ‘norm’.

I can’t see how it’s enjoyable for men to do it, let alone women to receive it.

I get men enjoying receiving it as it feels pleasurable but I don’t believe women have a g spot in their anus so I don’t know what they actually get from it other than pleasuring their partner like oral sex.

Agree. It’s repulsive and, in my view, an abuse of women driven by pornography.

I’ve never done it and never want to - neither has/does DH! I wouldn’t be with a man who did. So damaging for women, and not pleasurable.

"Love these kind of unequivocal posts on Mumsnet, there should be a klaxon sounded for pearl clutchers so they know this is their thread
Yes some of us occasionally enjoy anal sex. Sorry.
However , and it’s a big caveat… go back and read earlier in the thread where people have described clumsy boyfriends trying to do anal without consent."

@SavoirFlair well, this is what I was referring to with my post, but just not very clear as you can see lol. Thanks for calling me pearl clutcher though.

From my point of view it can be very enjoyable, probably one of the most intense of sexual experiences, but it has to be done with respect and sensitivity. The correct technique is nothing like the way anal sex is depicted in porn.

I certainly don't think they are enjoying it, obviously, they are acting, but honestly, if you have to be off your head then that tells you all you need to know. However I get there are some women on here who say they enjoy it, I don't have a problem with that, it is just that it is seen as expected now and younger women not to mention vulnerable women, may feel like they have to agree. This did not happen years ago as people had to go and buy a porn film in a shop so it was harder to access, and now it is available on people's phones. The issue I have with it is that porn is often what young people look to for their sex education. It is not reality and personally, I think that sex education should be much better in school and talk about coercion etc and pressure and not just talk about the biology

Alot of young men now think it's their right to just do anal sex when having vaginal sex with a woman. I had been seeing a guy and we were dtd then he tried to push it in my bum. I said no and he kept going until I cried as it was sore. You need to be lubed up and relaxed for this. I'm aware he basically tried to rape me. Afterwards I told him to go and he messaged me with a meme "sorry I put it in your ass" as if it was a joke! Blocked and deleted he was. But it made me think I wonder how many other woman he tried that with. Disgusting.

I don’t believe 25% of heterosexual couples engage in anal sex regularly - or if it’s true, the percentage in younger age groups must be huge to make up for the lack of anal sex in my age group - 40s! Of all my friends (who I’ve ever discussed it with that is!), only a couple have even ever tried it and all of the others have never tried it and don’t want to either.
I do understand that there are women out there who like it but in my whole life I’ve probably only met one or two.

I’ve no problem with what consenting adults get up to but I do worry that many young women do it not because they genuinely enjoy it but just to please their man and because they want to be seen as sexually adventurous as that’s much cooler than vanilla sex and being potentially labelled ‘boring in bed’. Of course, if you genuinely enjoy it, fine go for it but make sure it isn’t just something you’re doing because you feel you have to. You really don’t need it to have a great and fulfilling sex life.

Anal sex was illegal in UK up until 60s or 70s It was referred to as sodomy, correction have just read it was only mad legal in 1994!

My anus is a one way street. Stuff comes down, nothing goes up.

I think girls do think or are made to believe it is "standard" and as a result there may be more girls having anal sex but it is not the norm, it is becoming normalised by the hardcore porn that is available on every teenagers phone.

@CrazyBatLady66 I think women in porn use drugs to relax muscles and to be a bit out of it. That maybe why they look like they are enjoying it. I am old and still remember the days when men thought cunnilingus was the ultimate thrill.

Was heterosexual anal sex illegal in England? I never knew that; when was the law changed?

Yanbu.

Teenage girls are being taught in school that it’s just another kind of sex, one which conveniently doesn’t cause pregnancy. It’s very sad.

It has nothing to do with sex and should have a different name.

It's a real issue and the thing is these people are growing up in a world where their main sources of political socialisation; their school, is a place where it's normalised. It's terrifying. I'm just thankful my daughter is still young I can work to pre-empt what she'll be told there. She already said today 'daddy you don't have any milk because you're a man' and I thought 'ah what a transphobic ba- I mean great! She knows what's what BEFORE she goes to school'

She's not been in school yet and I'm glad because I want her to have a basic grounding of reality before the system attempts their indoctrination.

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It's tighter basically.

What's in it for women? Not sure, I know people who like it though, or say they do. For me it's just weird, I mean that's the shitter.