Porn culture has led to women suffering injuries during sex

Gosh that takes me back.
Class of Frigid 99 lol.

What a pointlessly rude comment.

Also a bit ironic considering the amount of people who clearly haven't read the article.

'Vanilla' is just the new 'frigid'.

Perhaps if we can keep the thread above the level of checking peoples reading skills. That could just be a minimum..... Or am I expecting too much?

@DobbyHasASock Agreed. It is highly suspect to teach to the 'young girls' how to have anal sex with 'men.'

Well you are still wrong. As it starts in year six. Unless you are including puberty information and naming body parts, which is mostly largely year six anyone.
Personally, if any teaching professional starting advocating for anal sex education, outside of giving the risks and why it's not a good idea of course, I'd be suggesting they get their hardrive checked.

It's not about boys accepting no really because the report I linked about showed teenage girls expect to do anal and expect it not to be pleasurable. So if boys ask, they may say yes due to the culture surrounding them.

Changing the culture is what's needed and it's not down to girls that the culture is what it is. The actions you wrote for girls were a lot more in depth and nuanced than those for boys. This is a patriarchy so it's not surprising but I'm just so fed up of females being seen as in control of what males do to them.

Why not focus on the boys for once? They need to stop seeing anal as a badge of honour and start seeing it as risky and harmful, and unlikely to be fun for their partner. We need to stop tolerating "brown wings" banter and start teaching that sex is about connection, not performance. Easier said than done but "teaching girls to say no" isn't the answer. After all, no means yes, yes means anal to a lot of boys

Oh now you can read

@PollyRockets OK, secondary means educating young girls and young boys. You did originally state young girls and men, which just sounds odd.

If you read the context of that comment and the one I was replying to it would have made more sense. Always good practice before jumping into a chain to read for context.

It should be part of secondary sex education.

@PollyRockets You also mentioned educating young girls -which to me means a child, and men - which means adult men to me. Just wondering where you would want all this education to take place, and if you want to educate young girls why not young boys too?

We must be similar ages, I knew exactly what you meant.

@PollyRockets What age would you like this to be part of a school education then? You did mention Year 5, sorry if I misunderstood.

Nope

What an odd question

@PollyRockets Do you want to educate 9/10 year olds about anal sex?

@Namechange10002 I’m really sorry to hear about everything you have been through. Please don’t let him back into your life. I’ve not had an experience like this but my ex was an alcoholic who was physically and emotionally abusive. I was scared of being on my own as I had a serious illness and a young child. I had no family near me either and I hadn’t told them the full extent of what was going on. Financially I was dependant on him, but it is possible to survive all this and come out the other side. Get advice from citizens advice etc about practical help like benefits etc. I wish you all the best xx

No one has said they are

I said year 5

Read properly next time

Five year olds àre not given sex education, not in the way you think. It is all relationships and social skills etc.
In year six when they start to learn about puberty they learn the asbolute basics of conception and that is a very recent addition.

*Please note I have no problem with you enjoying putting things in your anus, it's the wittering on I take issue with.
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Read most of the thread and tbh you're doing most of the wittering. And yes you do seem to have a problem with it.

You might have a point there, I'd have passed on completing a survey like this if I'd known about it.

I didn't enjoy anal with my ex. He left me bleeding more than once because he didn't see a need for lube, he thought a bit of spit was good enough. I refused as much as I could but he did coerce me a lot.

I doubt I'd ever try again, but if the bloke was safe, and helped me prepare properly, and used lube, I might consider it. Fingers felt OK, though.

So I guess it is down to proper preparation with the right person, and I wouldn't judge. But these reported injuries do make me feel as if the current flood of porn has a lot to answer for.

Pretty much every porn I have ever watched has this exact chain of events
Man stokes woman’s breasts
She is instantly turned on and starts giving him a blow job whilst writhing around and moaning
He grabs her head while she is doing the blow job so he is in control (dangerous and disrespectful)
She gets a tiny bit of stimulation on her clit and starts squirting everywhere (highly unlikely)
He does anal while she uses a vibrator on herself (vagina) and she has multiple orgasms
He ejaculates all over her

and I’m sorry to say that this is the trajectory that guys seem to expect these days

That’s interesting and very worrying. Sadly I agree with what you’ve said it won’t stop. Porn is predominately made by and for men with a very few exceptions. It’s all about the male gaze. Is such a huge thing now compared to pre internet days that it affects relationships and even fashion it’s scary.

This is much needed health information that needs further publicising.
Especially the differences between men & women physiologically & the scope for women to suffer harm from this. It’s far too normalised & the risks need to really flagged up so as to arm younger women especially from being pressurised into complying with something potentially really harmful. About time but more needs to be done. Surely sexual practises should be about informed choices & informed consent. We are doing women a disservice allowing this to be swept under the carpet any longer.

Women's anuses are no different than men's- what nonsense!

They are very different. For one, men have a prostate up there. And the female anus and rectum are in close proximity to the vaginal canal and opening.

I’m gay and lots of my straight women friends are under pressure to do it, few seem to enjoy it.
25 years ago this deffo wasn’t the case. It shouldn’t be ‘normal’ if both parties aren’t into it. I know lots of gay men where it’s not a regular feature for them either.