Porn culture has led to women suffering injuries during sex

What? You know plenty of women have anal sex without ever getting injured, right?

So it's not comparable. Jumping on a spike causes injury. Anal sex can be done without causing any injury.

Sometimes I think people who haven't had anal sex, maybe dont know what they are talking about

Dude why don't you make your way through the threads of people defending and shrieking about their pleasure in shoving things up there and how they want to advocate it (and do) to their children. You're among friends.

There's definitely shrieking on here.

Let it go will you?

Some people view it as disgusting and they’re entitled to. The fact that it’s so dangerous to females is just a part of why people don’t like it.

Again, bizarre. How does trusting a man make the risk of harm less?
”oh, I really trust you, so I’ll just jump off this cliff onto a spike. You’re a nice bloke so it’ll be fine.”

Dude why don't you make your way through the threads of people defending and shrieking about their pleasure in shoving things up there and how they want to advocate it (and do) to their children. You're among friends.

Did anyone else enjoy anal? I thought it felt great, didn't feel any pain.

It’s an exit, not an entrance. My refusal was certainly a factor in ex-H’s decision to opt out of our marriage. Good riddance.

A lot of butthurt on here tonight from a particular crowd. I wonder why 😂

jesus. Who is interested in sex acts that you have to prepare for mentally and physically like this?
just weird. It’s not meant to be the olympics for fucks sake.

Ok groomer.

🙄 grow up

Why is "vanilla" sex that is about connection, and both parties enjoy, less valid than painful sex acts?

Who even says that?

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Why is "vanilla" sex that is about connection, and both parties enjoy, less valid than painful sex acts?

I have to say I think there is a good side to anal. It can be very intimate. You are letting him into another part of your body. If it's some carefully and respect it can be great. I really enjoyed it.

Like any sex act it can be open to abuse. I did it with a lovely man. I definitely wouldn't do it with an asshole, who might just ram it up there in one thrust and hurt me.

But when it is done nicely, it is actually lovely

Those who argue anal is great and women who don't like it are vanilla, are upholding a system where men feel they can take it. It's really not OK

That's not been argued on this thread though.

But some posters do like anal.

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I can't help wondering if I've gone off sex for last 5 years post menopause partly through reading too many threads like this!! Ok I'm 60 and not that bothered- but where's the romance, where's the stroking someone's hair, it all seems horribly mechanical , extremely unromantic and generally quite gross - as I said earlier when it gets to normalising stuff that requires you to'prepare' or 'psych yourself up' - then to be honest 'I'm out' !!!

What about the psychological impacts?
Bodies heal but that kind of breach of trust doesn't
Those who argue anal is great and women who don't like it are vanilla, are upholding a system where men feel they can take it. It's really not OK

@excitingusername

Another poster who thinks education = encouragement

Wonder what decade you hail from

We need to educate the boys and men and refuse to accept the normalisation of painful and dangerous sexual acts

Exactly. Any education should be heavily geared towards the male about the the risks they are putting women at by expecting then to have anal sex. And it is an expectation these days.

Anal sex should not be classed as a ‘normal’ part of sex. It is a sex act that most men want (and expect) based on porn and an act that can cause damage to the woman. I doubt the men even consider that, let alone care. We’ve all heard the “Any hole is a goal” attitude. It’s usually just entitled men thinking they can do whatever they like to a woman’s body with absolutely no regard for how it may affect her.

It’s insane to think that it is the girls we need to educate so she can make sure she’s doing it in a way that might hurt her less.

What is absolutely accurate though, is the fact that porn leads to unrealistic expectations and unsafe practices, particularly around anal. This to me is the issue
Agreed.

I only ever did anal once. I have to say, I actually really enjoyed it. It was like an itch I didn't know I needed scratching. It's a different situation. He was a nice man. I don't think I would do it with everyone as there are risks of injury. But if it was a with a man I really trusted, I would do it again

Why do you feel the need to facilitate buggery for your children? What is it that makes this a priority in your mind?

OFS. Give it a rest. You sound like an idiot.

Reading this thread opened mouth at the shaming and abuse

don't educate you'll encourage it

it used to be dirty and disgusting = that's ok

You like anal = you think you're a cool girl

When you're young sex is important but ultimately so is your health. Fecal incontinence is not something you'll be worried about now. But when you read the IBS threads the thought of wearing protection against soiling yourself is just horrifying to me.

Why do you feel the need to facilitate buggery for your children? What is it that makes this a priority in your mind?