Nursery sick of my child

Has any OP on this shite ever heard of paragraphs so people can actually make some sense of the rants ?

OP, with the best will in the world, what you're describing is a situation that's not working.

You think the staff need to do more to manage it. But if they just can't - maybe they don't have enough time, or enough skill, or enough staff to kids, or whatever - then you as the parent are the one who needs to work out how to fix this.

Personally, in your shoes I'd be looking for a different setting, with a free flow layout, and/or childminder provision.

I'd also be interested in what your sister said and trying to work out if there's more you can do at home to encourage her to express herself in a different way.
Best of luck.

@Pumperthepumper I don't think others may understand your post is sarcastic.

I feel for the other children. To be in a environment with a child almost continually screaming and kicking off and so much time and focus on your daughter. I would not be happy if I was the parent of another child that attends the nursery and was subjected to this noise day in day out

Agreed.
OP please try different settings and hopefully you'll find something that suits her needs better. Best of luck.

I'd be really pissed off with the nursery tbh, they sound rubbish.

I'd be looking to move her to somewhere that wants to help your dd.

How many sessions is she doing at the nursery? Is this the only childcare she has? - no family members etc at other times in week?

Yes, is she a bit spoiled at not yet two? Have you accidentally made her think she’s important OP? Think carefully, is there any reason your very little child might want something and not yet be able to communicate why? It’s a mystery, she must be spoiled and attention seeking, age not yet two. Ffs.

@CallOnMe my DD goes to nursery as well. The nursery was chosen because it has large grounds. And like a few PPs have said with the nurseries they chose for their own children or work in, it is free flowing.

I actually have a nursery 500m away. It has no outside space and unlike another nursery in the area, which also has no outside space, they don't take the children out daily for walks.

Anyway I don't understand why you want to punish a 2 year old who is always crying. It's better to find out why they are crying at nursery especially as a lot of children behave differently in childcare settings to home.

Given they don't sound like they're calling you up at work and demanding you fetch her, they ARE coping with her. But you can hardly expect them to skip to the door and declare "we've had an amazing day, Eliza screamed for eight hours regardless of what we did but it's such a pleasure to listen to".

What do YOU do when she's screaming and can't have 121 attention or go outside?

Yabu you need to try a different setting. It must be awful for everyone if she really is crying for attention the whole day. That's not fair.

Agree with PP. You and the nursery staff need to work together to resolve this behaviour. Is she a bit spoilt? Does she get what she wants by kicking off at home? She is young enough for this to be turned around, and quickly too, so be open minded and proactive. It must be hard on your own with a full time job, several kids including one who behaves like this, but it can be done. Good luck!

We chose a childminder for the early years (outside all the time) then a Preschool that had a free flow indoor outdoor arrangement. Even now at 10 dc1 would be outdoors 24 hours a day whatever the weather.

It seems like it's your parenting that's causing issues, your sister has said she's hard work, be honest with yourself- if you are letting her scream for attention it's not doing her any favours. It must be difficult for the staff. Have they discussed what they are doing to help? Have you asked?

I don't actually know what's more disheartening, the number of posters lining up to criticise OP for not better managing the crying behaviour of a child who is not yet 2 FFS, or the abysmally low expectations some parents apparently have of the people and institutions caring for their very young children.

Your child is clearly miserable and you need to find a childminder for her.

It's probably got to the point where she is alienating the staff and then she can sense that they don't like her, the poor little mite.

I would have taken her out after two weeks of crying tbh.

Have you only ever looked after one child at a time, that you think two must be 'ignored'?

I understand that but as childcare professionals I expect them to be able to cope with a crying child.

But as others have said - it is draining, if it actually is all day. They are human after all. It might be worth you appreciating that many places wouldn't keep a crying child all day - they would call you to collect them.

A child who is crying all day is trying to communicate something. Some pain, or some anxiety or some unmet need. I would be trying to get to the bottom of that rather than moaning about the Nursery staff. From your sister's reply, it sounds like her crying all day isn't exclusive to Nursery ?

Today my DD spent the majority of the day playing in her CM garden. Luckily her CM has a big garden with shady parts.

Not every establishment has big gardens with lots of shady parts though and I believe in nursery they all need to do certain things together like having a snack or their meals and OPs DD can’t throw a tantrum because she wants to go outside.

OP and her sister agree that it’s an attention thing and because she wants to go in the garden so she needs to be taught at home that she can’t always get her own way else she’s going to be miserable at nursery.

Ratio is 1 adult to 3 children. Should an adult give constant attention to one child and ignore the other 2?
There's nothing wrong with a 2 year old wanting attention except in a childcare setting they can't have attention all the time.

Be honest, OP. You say she likes attention. From what your sister said this isn't uncommon and you just put up with it. So how about teaching her not to scream and cry to get what she wants all the time.

frankly, if i were the head of the nursery I'd give you notice to find a new childcare provider. That's not good for anyone.

That's just horrible advice.

Today my DD spent the majority of the day playing in her CM garden. Luckily her CM has a big garden with shady parts.

When it's not hot they can go for long walks so they are out a good proportion of the day.

At my DD's nursery on days where it is 25+ degrees they do outside water play but they have sized decent grounds. This is unlike the nursery I live next to which has a tiny outside space for more children.

What do you suggest they do? Being 'professionals' doesn't give them special powers.

Your daughter would be better with a child minder.

I work in a nursery, crying and screaming can go on for months and then one day they just stop or they start to settle. If you don't trust their care then I would suggest moving her. You say you expect them to cope with a crying child, but they could also have more children who are also screaming and crying, after a while it does get very draining especially when there's nothing you do will help.

I’m sorry you’ve been made to feel this way, OP. You’re right, it is part of their job, and I’m saying this as a nursery room leader myself.
I understand the staff may have days which are tricky but actually your young child is also finding it tricky. Lots of settings spend most the day outside, so maybe see if you can visit one of those? Xx